Relationship + Sex

Ok. Well to start, I am 15, and I live in england, where the legal age for sex is 16.

There is a girl who I like, and she likes me, but we can't go out, due to that she would get the piss taken out of her, as I have a fucked up face, and she is not bad.

The bad thing is, that she asked me to have sex with her, but if I had sex with her, but wasn't going out with her, surely that'd make matters worse.

However, I am a virgin, so I have/shouldn't have any STD/STI's.

She has had sex with two people, who were both virgins when she shagged them.

What should I do.
Is there a chance of getting a STI. That's what I am most worried about.

 

Well, there's always a chance of STI's, you never know for sure if those guys really did have STI's or if she had sex with more than them... Best to cap it to be sure ;o

 

Are you even mentally ready to have sex?

 

Yes, this is probably the most important question.

If you are ready, you can both get tested for sti's in case you're worried.

 

if you want sex (but u have a fucked up face) put on a paper bag first

 

Please try to give OP fair advice, as talking about sex isn't something to be played with.

 

I know she has only had sex with those two. I would prefer to get tested tbh.

In a way, yes. I am rather mature for my age, in a mental and physical way, its just the thought of if it went wrong.

What are the chances of getting a test within the next 2-3 days?

Fuck off troll. Reported

 

This might be regarded as spam, but oh fucking well:

Dude seriously? He's asking a serious question and that's what you respond with? Fuck man, you gatta read the rules...

http://sythe.org/showthread.php?t=896378
http://sythe.org/showthread.php?t=949470
http://sythe.org/showthread.php?t=807406

... Try and actually provide a serious answer... Not just poke fun at people...

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EDIT: Ah, seems he caught you first. Serves you well, fucking troll.

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Depends on how busy the sexual health clinic is where you live. Where I am (in Canada) it could take up to 2 weeks :/
Make an appointment and see when you can. Though I'm not sure how it works in England. Also, please, for your own good, wear a condom. Me and my girlfriend have been having sex without one for so long and now I cannot stand to have sex with one on. It cuts the feeling by more than half... So really, just get use to the feeling of having one, instead of being use to not having one and not enjoying sex with anyone else, lol...

 

I don't believe you're ready, but I can't do much in front of a screen but try and convince you.

You should go get tested yourself, while at the same time asking her to get tested. That way you both know. If you can, go with her to see the results in person.

 

What age would you say people are ready? I will probably ask her to get tested, but seeing as it is 1:30am, I doubt she will answer the phone.

 

There is no "set" age where people are ready to have sex at.

Don't rush things, if she doesn't pick up, just call her in the morning.

And just think of the consequences before you do anything. Are you ready to be a father? Do you have a steady income? etc. Those are just some questions you should always ask yourself, EVEN if you plan on using a condom.

 

This question was just as vague as the question asked. Why beat yourself up over looks? Is the only reason why you're considering to have sex with this girl is because you think you're ugly and she's the only one offering? Or if it'd be your only chance?

If that's true I'd say wait. You're not ready.

 

Think of the Pros/Cons for Sex with the girl (Or any for that matter):
For example Pro would be:
-Temporary Satisfaction

A Con would be:
-Chance of getting her pregnant
-Chance of a STD/STI

And also looks don't matter, you could be very attractive to someone and at the same time be really ugly to another. Don't bring yourself down

P.S Use protection it will help you in the end, good luck man

 

Just because it's legal doesn't mean you should/need to do it. I don't know you well enough to tell you you shouldn't do this or you should do that but if I did, in the end it's all up to what you decide. Personally, I do not think you are ready, even if you both are tested.

Gohan brings up many other good points. There is always a chance, even with condoms, birth control, whatever, for you to have a child. Are you ready mentally and physically for the situation?

Also, maybe not now but in the end looks don't really matter if you truly love a person. I know people are shallow and say "Damn, why is she having sex with you?!" (or other way around because I don't understand who the 'ugly' one from your perspective) But honestly, just tell them to mind their own business because it's you and your situation and not theirs.

Not gonna preach to you about it's bad and whatnot because eventually you are gonna have sex with somebody. Again, in the end this is your choice. Do you think you're ready for it?

 

How come you can't go out with her? The legal age for sex should only apply to sex. So going out is a different matter because you do not necessarily have sex when you go out. Or is it because you say your looks are not compatible so you cannot go out?

Regarding STI, it's the problem that virtually all living beings have to face. If you have sex with someone, you should always bear the risk of exposing yourself to STI/STD. Best method known up to date that can be applied easily in real-life situations? Condoms.

Think about it, making your girl have blood test just so you can have sex? Good luck mentioning it. Prepare for a slap on your face. Really! think about it.

 

if you are that worried about getting a disease, why not wear a condom ?

 

If you have feelings for this girl and don't think you could let it go just having sex and not going out or anything don't do it.

If you can bang her and be done with it go right ahead.

 

Several things when I read you post. First she has already had sex with 2 other people? Honestly man don't loose your virginity to some one who is messing with a lot of men at that age. You may like her and she may like you but look how it's gone for her in previous relationships and then think is yours really that different.

About the STD's. You may be a virgin but you can still have one. If you are serious and decide to have sex with her then you BOTH need to get a check up to make sure you don't have any diseases. Remember there is still a chance you can get them though since they all don't show on those test if they are in early stages.

Also like Gohan said, are you ready to loose your virginity to a girl you may not spend the rest of your life with? If you go ahead with it now it's not just like a one time thing and then your done. It will affect the rest of your life and possibly hurt your relationship with your future wife (If it's not her.) Think about it a lot before making any big depressions.

 

First, I'll say this; you're a young man, and you want to be 110% sure that you're ready to have sex. If you're not just say no. Never fall into peer pressure.

You should make sure that you're both tested for any diseases because; even though you're a virgin doesn't mean you weren't born with them or so. You definitely want to make sure she's tested, because you don't want to get any of them.
I guess the real question isn't if you should/shouldn't have sex with her; it's if you're mentally ready for it? This could affect your future girlfriends/marriage(s). Also, is it okay with your parents? If not, do you REALLY want to do this behind their backs?
If you decide to, then don't forget protection.

Do whatever you think is right.

 

Wear a condom since that helps to prevent stis plus you should be useing one anyway. Also I would say your not ready yet but doing it may make you grow up I know it certainly did in my case.