Two Problems That I Have

Hey people I have two minor/major problems (Whatever you'd like to classify them as)

Note - I have some run on sentences so please excuse my grammar.
No Grammar Nazis Please

My First Problem:
I'm currently a Junior in High School and I've never had a girlfriend. I mean I KNOW I could get one but I've never actually...well tried to get one.

I told my friend that I think one of her friends is cute, and I know her friend probably has feelings for me because she always stares at me and I'm not exactly the ugliest guy in the world, but I've never actually tried to make a move on her.

All 3 of us have the same 2nd period in school but my friends friend is more mellow and shy. (Based on how she acts in my 2nd period)
I don't know how to make a move, I told my friend to hook us up but we're not really close...
I need some advice on how to overcome my 'shy/lazy' stage please

My Second Problem:

My 'Main' friends are anti-social. (Main friends meaning I hang out with them at lunch/talk to them the most)
One of my other 'Main' friends plays Runescape 24/7 and he never wants to hang out.
Another of my 'Main' friends lives in a different city but goes to the same school I do.
My other 'Main' friend is discovering his religious ways, therefore he doesn't have much time to hang out anymore.
My other friend plays Xbox Live all day too.
Another one of my friends just BMX's with his other friends and smokes weed all day. I mean I'd do that too but I don't really like his friends.. they seem like the type of people you just want to punch for being annoying

...and then their is me, I play Runescape A LOT because none of my friends like/want to hang out.
I like to play soccer/football, I'm down for pretty much anything to be honest.
I like going to parties and doing stupid stuff. I love humor (Trust me I laugh A LOT during school for the dumbest stuff)

Can anyone give me any advice on what I can do? Should I find new friends? Advice please

EDIT: I also haven't gone to my 4th period in 2 weeks and my 1st period in 1 week.. :S really boring classes, computer typing... and color/design... :S I only go to my important class that I have this semester which is History during 2nd period and dismissal which is 3rd period and I just leave during 4th to my house.

Thanks for reading this long thread!

 

Answer to both is to start hangiing around that chick, this will help you asking her freind out and will find new freinds and actrully do stuff.

 

Alright thanks Voda. Never thought of that before 0_o
Do you personally think it would be awkward being the only guy in my friends group, seeing as they're all girls?

 

Whats wrong with that? I mean come on, you be tha playa!!!

Nah there is nothing wrong with that and you would probably not just hang around them but Find new guy freinds as well.

 

The only thing I'd think was wrong was people would probably think I'm homosexual, I mean people probably already think I am. I have my ears pierced, I wear regular skinny jeans, I wear V-necks, what else can I add Oh yeah freshmen year I'd wear colored jeans that were girl super tight 0_o...

Anyways F what everyone else thinks, I'm probably gonna do that thanks for the advice

 

IF you don't try you'll never know. The worst a chick can ever say is no.

Act like yourself. Don't try to be anyone your not because eventually they are going to figure that out. The results of that usually aren't good.

As for being the only guy in your frineds group there is nothing wrong with that, and frankly it can be quite cool. Not every guy and girl that are friends on the planet have to be dating to be around each other.

 

First Problem: The best approach is a direct approach. I understand if you're afraid. That's why we need to control our fears. I used to be afraid of heights, but after jumping down from high places a lot, I'm not scared at all anymore.

You could ask her to come with you alone for a second to a semi-romantic spot (with a bunch of trees nearby and stuff). Swallow your fear and let your feelings assume control of your body. Tell her. If she tells you no, you'll know she never had a thing for you. But trust me, as long as you say it as if you really mean it, she won't deny you.

Second Problem:

Friend 1: If he has a 'thing' for RuneScape, why not play it with him? Or you can play stuff like CoD, Battlefield, DiRT 2 or whatever.
Friend 2: Nothing can be done about this. I believe it would be difficult for him to hang out with you so often because of his location.
Friend 3: If he's the religious type, leave him be. It's his life and his choice what he wants to do.
Friend 4: Why don't you play with him? Don't you like gaming or is RuneScape the only game you've ever played? If you don't own an XBOX, you can just play split screen with him over at his place.
Friend 5: If you're uncomfortable with them, there's no need to force yourself to join them.

Look for new friends. Surely there's no shortage of people in your school?

 

After reading over both of your guys' advice it's opened up some more doors I didn't consider. Thanks FireZ and Gurtaton

 

go get a bottle of sky vodka go up to the girl you like "hey do you wanna go drink" and for your friends go buy a 30 pack of budlight and go up to your friends "Hey do you guys wanna go play beer pong"

 

For the first problem, just start talking to her more, like ask her for her number and text her if your scared of talking. Once you start getting her 'trust' (can't think of a better word) invite her and her friends to like the movies or bowling (funny to watch people fail at bowling), or a party. Anything really where it doesn't seem like a date and you can just be yourself. If you both start to have feelings for each other it will continue and lead naturally.

The second problem can be fixed also by befriending that girl. She will know more girls and some other guys who you could chill with. With your current friends, just keep trying to do stuff that is fun. Play RS with the first kid. The kid in another city, well if you are able to drive then go drive over there, if not ask your parents to bring you over there or him come to your house. For the Biker, don't push yourself to chill if you don't wanna smoke with them or hang out with annoying kids.

I suggest you like join a club or sport at school. You can meet many new friends who like to do what you do. Just keep trying because you will find people who you can be yourself around and have fun doing whatever with them, Just gotta look in the right places. =D

 

Damn dude that advice was legit. I think this forum section is my favorite the advice is very good. Thanks again

 

Honestly im also a junior and i am also in highschool. I have never had a girlfriend either...You just have to put yourself out their...Im a good looking kid...but kind of shy so... i cant just go up to a girl and ask her out..i might if shes not with a group of friends...but yeah...You should just talk to your friends friend that you like and just get to know her...Her likes..Dislikes..mabye if you get to know her well..take her out somewhere she likes.

 

You sound exactly like i use to be to be honest.

If your friends aren't wanting to spend time with you, give up on them. Your friendship wont go anywhere.

Start hanging out with other groups ! I myself don't fit in any certain group, so i just mingle among them it works great.

Advice on your girl problem, I'm the same way. I'm above average looking, and know girls that have feelings for me, but i never tried. My advice on this would to start off easy, just little conversations for her. Hit her up asking for homework class for the period you and her both have, then stray off on conversation and go into something else . You'll eventually start talking to her at school ! Start talking to her friends too, the closer you are too them the closer you'll be to her.

Do the small things, say hi and smile to her in the hallways, buy her something at lunch, hold her books. It sounds old and cliche, but it works, and girls like it.

Ask to hangout outside of school sometime, and start some serious flirting then

Reply to this, or hit me up on msn if you need anything else! Ill subscribe to this thread since i use to be a lot like this ^_^

 

I'm pretty glad someone has had similar problems since you know what I've been through/am going through

Thanks for the advice, always appreciated

 

Not a problem, I'm always here to help the best I can. Good luck with what you choose and hopefully everything will turn out in your favor. Just remember though, if she doesn't wanna go out with you (like boyfriend/Girlfriend) you still met a really nice girl and can just be good friends.

 

Second problem:

Get new friends. I'm sure you feel out of place just because of your friends not wanting to hang out. If you've tried to make plans with them, and they just refuse, then it's time to move on. The kid who rides BMX, you don't have to hang out with his friends. You can try making plans with him on days you know that his other friends wont be around him.

Hope this all works out for you man, take care!

 

Thanks for the advice everyone

I've pretty much seen the new options that I can now take using everyone's advice.

Please just let this thread die now

 

Do you want me to close this?

 

Yes please

 

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