I lack a love life. [Suggestions and experiences please]

This is my first time posting here, because mainly I'm supporting others. However, I am also in a position of frustration.

Here's the story:

I've only ever had one girlfriend. In Grade 7. On the first night, she told me she had been sexually assaulted and was currently pregnant. Fuck that, I thought. I told her that we needed to take a break, the next day. :|

I had lots of moments from Grade 6-8 where I could have gone out with a lot of the girls in my grade, because they all seemed to like me at one point or another.

Moving on, I move to a new place. I go to an all-boys school, until Grade 10.

From there, I moved to a new school because that school didn't offer what I needed. It has about 3 girls, all taken in relationships.


My issue: I don't have the opportunity to meet a girl, simply because I don't have any that I can meet. I don't party, and all my old friends are overseas, far, far away.
When I think of old friends, girls, and relationships, I get incredibly lovesick. This normally results in mild depression for a while.
Out of fun, my mates sometimes tease me about the lack of a girl in my life, and I'm actually quite sick of it.

I'd like people's suggestions on meeting girls, and their experiences, if any.

Thanks.

 

Lol, just go out more often, parks,cinema,football e.t.c , you seem like you get girls but your areas lacking girls.. so apart from that nothing i can do to help, if you need advice on how to pull girls thats a different matter and ill give you good advice .

 

You really just have to meet some girls, I don't know if your 21, or in the position to go into bars and meet them, but the first step is always just talking to em

 

Currently 17 years of age.

 

Hmm, and you've only ever had 1 gf?, if so its because your not confident, e.g. you said you knew alot of girls used to like you, i believe you man, but you were probably not confident enough to hit/move on them, personally from personal experiences ive noticed that youve really got to not give a fuck as to what the girl thinks.

E.g. Asking/moving on to her, would have 2 effects,
1. she'll blush, laugh and agree and start fliriting.
2. she''ll tell you to fuck off.

worst that can happen is you getting rejected, best that can happen is you getting laid , well maybe

But yeah agian, its maybe cause your not confident.. <<<< Not taking the piss.. just trying to help ,try it man ;P be more confident towards girls and youll get one ,

Seriously ive never been rejected as girls always look into guys for two things, Looks and personality, trust me man just let a girl hear what she wants to hear from you daily and youll get far man , if your already good looking then get yourself a diary and call it, ''My bitches played book'' and just put all the girls names that youve played ;P haha xD

 

I've no doubt that I've got a lack in confidence, as I haven't had enough experience.

I've been told regularly that I'm good looking, cute, etc etc. And yeah, what you say is true, but I don't have any girls that I know/can speak to. This is the problem.

 

.... Pro respect for women here. Not sure lying and trying to get laid is the best way to start a relationship.

Moving on, if you are 17 dont feel to bad there are plenty of people who never had the time/opportunity to meet girls. I have a friend who was around 27 before he had an serious relationships and he is now married. dont worry about it to much because what'll happen is you'll get desperate and you'll take any girl that'll give you the time of day even if you dont like her. This can lead to a bad relationship/choices. Take your time enjoy life go out have fun.

 

Bro, i was joking about laid, i have a large amount of respect for women, and yes as you see his problem was confidence but look at it this way.

1. If your saying its because you dont have enough experience, your never going to get experience if your never going to grit your teeth toghther and just do what you got to do.
2. if girls who tell you youre good looking e.t.c , then you are so just really n truly put some effort and youll get a gf.

3. hmm, if theres hardly any girls around, make a facebook account or something meet some girls from your local area like that

Gl, hope i helped

 

My advice? Stop looking for that someone. She'll come to you. It's not like you won't ever move away to a different location when you grow up, is it?

 

hes not looking for that ''someone'' hes looking for someone lol xD

 

Stop being so picky. I know what I meant. I personally believe it's pointless 'looking' for girls, so I suggested he wait and see if that someone comes to him instead. It's like you're treating girls to be items that need to be tested before you spend your life with them.

 

Lol give me more jokes man, he clearly says that he's lacking gf's, and stuff and would like one. he aint saying hes looking for true love.

please fullly read posts before posting on them SMARTASS.

 

I'm in the same boat as you, although I'm a little younger so it's not TOO much of a problem.. yet..

I also go to an all boys school and find it very difficult to come into contact (and stay in contact) with girls. I'm also incredibly shy and I get nervous very easily, and having being in an all boys school for almost 4 years, girls are almost like a distant memory.

As sad as it sounds, it doesn't bother me all that much. As soon as I get into college (hopefully) I'll meet some new people - preferably girls. Once it's legal for you to drink in bars (Assuming you're not allowed to yet, it's 18 to drink in the UK) it'll probably be a whole lot easier. You can just go in and chill at the counter and hope to get some company, lol.

Good luck on your quest :love:

 

If you can, just go to parties. Get wasted with some people you barely know. If you really lack confidence, generally alcohol makes you not give a single fuck in the world. Then you can talk to whoever you want, make new friends and basically enjoy yourself.

You said you don't party though, is that like, you don't like partying, or you've just never really gone to any?

Anyways good luck getting a girl, you'll find one eventually !

 

Maybe it's you who has failed to comprehend.

Although he asked for advices on meeting girls, I told him what I feel best. It's his choice which advice he wants to take, his life, his consequences, his decisions, not yours, so stop butting into everything.

As for the true love thing, he said nothing about it so I suggest you re-read the first post.

You obviously lack self control.

You talk as if that's a good thing.

 

First off don't feel like you have to have a girl friend. Many people go through life and don't start dating past your age and only date 1-2 people and are very happy with who they are with. Once you realize that you don't need a girl it is such a relief. It's not bad to keep looking but don't prioritize it to high in your life it's not the end of the world if you don't get one.

 

Your only 17 mate,your young still! Just have fun and you'll eventually find the right girl for you.

 

Honestly,You just have to be willing to go up to girls and talk to them. I Myself could probably get a girlfriend easy,But I am Kind of shy so its hard to go up to a girl if she is with her friends...But if your outgoing and are funny then just talk to some girls in class and tell them jokes or something and get to to know them. Im sure you will meet someone.

 

Wow Tezlin, you're story is very very similar to mine.

First relationship in grade5/6,

moved to a public co-ed high school where there were many opportunities

year9 moved to an all boys school but i'm still currently there.

My advice is that you need to keep yourself busy, Find a sport, work hard, work hard at your studies, get a really good future.

And so it seems we're both australians, you're probably going into year 12 right now, which is the last year of high school, and if you do well in those studies, you can find a really good university to go to.

You may not know, but at university you will be hanging around people like you, girls and boys, and there you will have many opportunities to make relationships.

If you're mates tease you, just honestly laugh it off or just be like yeah whatever, because you know inside you will be better then them, when you're making that cash money, any girl will want you