parental trust

So... It all started when I got kicked off the football team, for eating popcorn in the locker room during halftime. My coach physically kicked me out of the locker room. Now my Fridays consist of partying, drinking, and smoking.

Last weekend was Halloween weekend. I don't know about some of ya'll, but in America we use Halloween as an excuse to party. I came home Sunday drunk and high, my mom could tell and freaked out on me. I didn't tell her I was high. In her eyes alcohol is more acceptable than marijuana. Then four days later she found my bowl inside of my drawer. I guess she grew suspicious of my best friend and I, so she went searching my room and the basement to find something.

So now my parents are twice as pissed, and my punishment is pretty much no car and no social life for the next 2 months or so. The thing they are most pissed about is trust. Somehow I need to figure out a way to gain there trust back. I honestly don't want to quit smoking weed, I told them I would, but I told them I wasn't giving up drinking.

Can you guys help me out on how I can gain their trust back?

 

I'm in the same boat; but more severe. I've created many threads seeking help and here's what i've finally decided to do.

First off, you say "no car" and you live in America. So you're obviously close to 18, just wait it out and then you can do what you want regarding "taking any substances".

I've totally quit smoking weed..it is amazing, I get it. But some things just outweigh it..and seeing my family cry did it in for me. I drink and smoke black and milds now. Black and milds basically have the same effect as weed, but it doesn't ever make you hallucinate, mess with colors, or take you out of it so to speak. (Not sure how much of that applies to you as everyones high is different...)

I do think about smoking very often. Going home and roasting a bowl..it'd be nice. But i'll wait it out till 18 when I don't depress everyone around me. Also, some girls are totally against weed but they love to get drunk, so if your concentrate on becoming a better drinker rather than a better stoner; you'll get more sex.

How to gain your parents trust back?

First, wait it out. Don't really mention it.

Then all you can really do is not mess up again. Stay clean. If you do decide to smoke black and milds (I WOULD NOT recommend cigs) then be sure to use cologne..depending on the situation it could be hard to differentiate the smells and they could accuse you of smoking weed when you actually weren't. It's also a lot easier to play off being drunk/high off tobacco than high of weed.

That's all i've got to say..if you need anything else just PM me. Best of luck to you.

 

Thanks for the advice. I turned sixteen about a month ago, so I'd have to wait 2 more years to get my car back, I don't think I can wait that long.

I actually do smoke blacks, I have a pack of apple flavored, which I'm surprised she didn't find.

 

I just started with them tbh...i'm trying to limit myself to five a month but i've smoked four in the past three days...>.> I still have club soccer to think about. Do you play anything that partying might slow you down for? I know what happened about football but if you love the game you could still take it to rec/travel!

 

Since it's my junior year, my coach said I can play my senior year. I play lacrosse aswell, everybody on the lacrosse parties though. The lacrosse team at are school has a reputation for partying.

 

Yeah bro I'm in the same boat as both of you lol I just got kicked out of school though not football and my mom just found out I smoke and drink and cried and stuff begged me to quit. I dealt with it just like Weasel I smoke Black n Milds and drink still but I'm gonna stop smoking for a year until I'm 18. I suggest you just quit smoking weed for a while and if there not to mad that you drink and smoke Blacks just go with that for a while plus the hotter chicks drink .

 

Well one surefire way to not earn their trust back is by telling them you're not going to stop drinking.

 

I'm not going to, should I tell them I will and deceive them, then end up in the same boat I'm in again?

 

It is going to take quite a while to gain their trust back to be honest. You should stop all the things that might make them lose even more trust in you. You should help out around the house, be nice to them and not try to fight your punishment, and get good grades in school. If you do most of the things I said, they'll slowly start trusting you again, because you'll be proving that you can be a good trustworthy person. Also, when you get your life back, don't mess it up, follow the rules they lay down and don't party.

 

Really, you have two paths to go down.
Gain their trust (work hard, no drugs)
Or
Continue partying and smoking weed. (No trust.)

If you are moving out soon then i guess both of them will only last for a short-while, honestly ill just work hard for like a year or two, so you make them proud.

 

Maybe don't smoke weed if your going to get drunk? Don't go home if your drunk/high (stay at a friend's house)?

Your parents obviously don't want you drinking or smoking in the first place. They "trust" you not to, and every time you come home drunk or high that trust is broken.