Posting for a friend- Relationship advice

So I have this story to tell you guys. I'm new here. So bear with me.

So here's like a time line of what happened

Around September/October of last year, which is like right after school started (Junior Year), I saw this girl online. I noticed that she was in two of my classes the year before. (Sophomore Year). Anyways I had her Facebook added but I had no idea that it was her. But anyways she uploaded some pictures and they were interesting so I took a look at them. That was when I figured out we had 2 classes together during our Sophomore year but I didn't realize it. So we began talking online for a couple of weeks. We told each other our interested and what we liked to to. Turned out she knew who I was and remember that we had those 2 classes together.

So when I began to talk to her, I thought she was some weird girl. She never wears shorts and always wears jean and covers herself up all the time. The first time we met in person was in this office. She had just came out from talking to a counselor. I had just came out of the office next doors which was my coach's office. So after talking face to face for a few minutes we decided to skip next hour and talk more. I found out some more about her. She liked to skate/photography. I liked to play basketball and video games. We met again the same day at lunch. We talked for some more and hugged at the end of lunch when we both had to go to our classes.

After that day, I began to develop an attraction for her already. It seemed that she had too but I didn't notice/was too unexperienced to notice. So anyways after that we began to talk everyday and had a great time. She was kind of sensitive about her weight and one day when I was texting her and had to go, I said "Bye Fatty " I had no idea it offended her as I meant it as a joke. I didn't get her hint when she stopped talking to me for a couple of days and I had trouble to get her to respond with texts. After a few days she forgave me and we began talking again. But it turned out I had offended her again during another text of mine saying "C ya tomorrow Ugly " So that caused another few days without contact. When we began talking again she invited me over to her house and I went. I had a great time. I was told by my parents that we were going to leave the US and go back to our home country in December. (They told me this around September/October). So after I left her house, I got a bit emotional and kinda broke down. I really liked this girl and I only had around a month left with her. She said lets make the best of what we have. But when November came, my parents said I could stay until February of this year. (2011) So I was like YESSSS!!! So my dad left by himself and went back.

After finding out I was able to stay here I was like . But soon after me and that girl stopped talking again. I can't remember the reason but I'm pretty sure I offended her again in some way. I think it was jealousy of some other guy? She said we couldn't be talking if I was going to be jealous of her friends. So anyways this was like for a month or two. I was sad and didn't really feel great each day. This was around November-December. I had basketball tryouts and I didn't do very well so I only made the JV team. I wasn't really focused on anything in school and was more dead than alive. I began having some horrible thoughts and in general it was a bad time.

But one day I was in that office again and she was there too. We sat on opposite sides of the office for around 30-40 minutes. Then I got the courage to say hi and it turned out she was waiting for me to talk to her again. I was like )). So anyways we began to smile and I loved my life. We hung out at her house a few days after. So the day we began to talk again, she re-added me on Facebook and we both agreed to make it official. So I was really happy throughout the weekend. On Monday though, I was missing her a lot and decided to spend the whole day skipping and hanging out with her. But she got very annoyed and said she needed personal space and time alone. So we broke up and I didn't feel great again. After that we begin to kind of hate each other. She would say she'd meet me somewhere and she'd show up and she would say "say what you want to say". But it would usually be in a bad place so I couldn't say what I really wanted. So every time she would say text it to me then and just leave. I began kind of walking around school a lot skipping classes. I happened to see her sitting by the front of the school and she began to call me a stalker and got very pissed. She said "how did you always find me". I wasn't even stalking her but I just happened to walk around the school a lot so naturally I ran into her a lot. (So after she got pissed the situation turned into a huge mess so I got out quick.) This went on for like a week or two then my friends convinced me not to talk to her again. So I didn't.

During this time, I was talking and getting advice/help from one of her female friends. She was really nice and helped me through this time. She was the one that kind of got us back together one time before. I began talking to my friends a lot and forgetting about her. This was around January-March.

During this time I would go out to lunch with a friend and have lots of fun. Around March-April, I had the urge to talk to her again. It turned out to be enough time for her to forgive and forget so she began talking to me again. We had an awesome time. She could drive now so we went for lunch most days. She was with some other guy at this time though. But she broke up with him because she knew that they got together too quick. (She met him through a friend) So she broke up with him and we began to be together "unofficially". ( I didn't like that guy either) So anyways we had a great time and then school was over.

The first day of summer break she invited me and that female friend to watch a movie at the theater. So we went and watched the movie. After the movie, we went back to her house and went downstairs to watch another movie. Me and her were curling on the couch and the female friend was on the floor. Her mom came downstairs and saw us lying on the couch together and was like "when did you guys start going out again" and I was like . So she went back upstairs. It was around 9:30 and we had to go. Turned out I had no ride since my mom was working. So I had to beg the female friend to let me get a ride with her dad. She was like no no and I guess the other girl's mom had to convince her. So I went back. The next day I texted her and she didn't reply. I was like WTF did I do again.....Turned out her mom got mad because I didn't have a ride back to my house. (URGGG SHE GETS MAD AT LITTLE THINGS) So anyways we didn't talk during the whole summer.

September of this year, school finally started. I had mostly forgotten about her. But when I went to go see my coach, she was in the same office. . So I basically pretended I didn't see her. I'd see her in there around 6-10 times before we talked again. So one day I see her in the hall during lunch and I decided to talk to her again. I was like hey and she was like sorry I was being a bitch. This was 2 weeks ago. So we re-added each other on Facebook and made plans to chill. So during lunch we went to her car and went to some places. This happened for around 2 weeks. Until this Wednesday. Then on Friday on her Facebook it said she's in a relationship. So I was like WTF?!?! But I inbox'd her and she didn't reply. Then some guy asked who it was. And some other guy said it was him. IT TURNED OUT TO BE THAT SAME GUY THAT SHE DUMPED EARLIER. WTF!! So I was like ^^LMFAO. And then she inbox'd me back and said be mature and just let it be. So I didn't reply back and she deleted me again. Any advice?

 

Let her go. Find a sane Girlfriend.

 

for real, let her do her crazy shit

 

Trust me, you don't want to be involved with girls like that... They're just crazy and immature.

 

It was an interesting read. Honestly, it seems as if this on-and-off relationship is going to always be like that. It really isn't productive, and you're just wasting time. It's partly your fault, partly her fault..but, regardless, you should forget about her and just enjoy your last 4(?) months before you go back home.

 

Forget her, she sounds like a selfish bitch anyways. Sorry but it's the truth, and the truth hurts sometimes.

P.S. ILY Gohan

 

I actually took the time to read it all, I'd let her go.

 

Wow, thats was actually worth the read and pretty interesting. if i was in your shoes i'd let her go.

 

She's obviously very important to you, but at the same time, you need to decide whether she is worth it.


IT: you've grown up.

 

Don't chase her, replace her.

 

I read it all, When i started reading i thought the girl was shy and timid, It turns out she's a crazy weirdo. Let het go seriously she's treating you like a door matt. It seems she's instigating everything, You should try get back out with her then YOU finish it, Might be you acting like the bitch but it gives her a feel for what it's like. Just say she annoyed you because she said something random some day.

 

Dude forget her. I read this all and it's a never ending cycle. You guys are going to talk, something stupid will happen and then you'll stop talking. And then that repeats. Do you really want to face that type of situation everyday?

 

Just tell her straight up; I like you. But i'm done chasing you. If you're not willing to be mature and take me for what I am, i'll stop talking to you. Forever. no more "sorry I was being a bitch", etc. This is now or never.

and give her a day to make her decision or something, and that'd be that.

 

She seems a bit psycho, just never talk to her again and find another girl.

 

it appears to me that you are her backup plan for when she gets dumped/breaks up with other guys. let her go because she is just using you to help her deal with her own insecurities

 

She tells you to be mature right before she constantly deletes you off of facebook because she's scared to face you? She needs to mature. Forget about her.

 

This.

I know it's hard to just forget about her completely, as it appears that you really like her. She isn't who you should be looking for, but if you really want a way around this situation and get back with her, give her space. If you see her in the halls, classes, etc, say hi to her, don't ignore her. But don't arrange anything with her. If she talks to you, reply, and dont expand on things too much. If she really likes you, she'll grow up and talk to you maturely. If she doesn't, she'll keep using you and just acting immature.

 

She's not worth being all kooked up for. Shes obviously not considering your feelings and being selfish. Replace her.

 

She seems like the kind of girl that needs a new guy every month to feel good about her self seeing how you said she ignored you for making those jokes about her . Personally you should try your best not to talk to her and maybe try to talk to her friend she seems like she was interested in you if she talked you through the whole situation .

 

dude she is crazy man, dont waste ur time. some girls are just plain weird. too bad you wasted all that time though