Quitting for 4 years, I NEED support guys...

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Quitting is easy if you really want it - everytime you want some, just say you can't, stop yourself - if people smoke it around you just go home and go out later. It's the only advice I can give to you, hopefully you can quit for the period you need too.

 

I don't really want it is the problem. I hope so too.

 

Well use reverse psychology?

 

You say you're not addicted, but then you say you don't think you can make it? Bro, that means you're addicted.

The first step to being clean is to realize that you have an addiction. If you're in denial like this, then you'll never be able to come clean. I've never personally gotten into drugs (doesn't mean I haven't tried), but a lot of my friends have. The ones who have since recovered are the ones who realized what they are doing and that they can't stop on their own. In other words, they realized and admitted that they are addicted.

Your idea about falling in love can be the best idea ever, or it can be a pretty bad idea. I take it that you're 14, since you "can't" move out for 4 years? That's pretty young for falling in love, even for the most mature 14 year-old. Even at 16, 20, and even older, finding love can be difficult. Regardless, it can also be dangerous if you're using a girl to keep you from weed: if something happened between you two, you'll be without weed and without the only substitute. Chances are, you'll revert back to weed in order to cope with the heartbreak. Also, if you're using a girl just to stay away from weed, then your relationship won't be as complete or strong as if you were with her just because you love her. In a way, it's like you're "using" her just because you can't get what you really want: weed. Even if this isn't true, there will be a degree of truth in your subconscious.

Finding a girl is probably the best thing to happen to any young man, though. She'll definitely make you want to do things other than weed. If you fall for a girl because you really like her (and not for any other reason), chances are other things will fall into their right place. So, if you do fall for a chick (and there is no ulterior motive involved), chances are it'll be very easy to stay off of weed. Just be careful.

But my most important advice is that, in order to stay off of weed, you need to want it. That's what I've been told countless times from all of my friends. My best friend is one such friend; he, like you, found a girl and began to realize that he had to stop because he was hurting himself. (Note that he was on much more than "just weed," but he got started with "just weed" and progressed to "just heroin since my dealer doesn't have any weed right now" and then on, and on...). But he met the chick before he wanted to get off drugs, and she helped him realize that. So, yes, finding love will help you, but you need to be in love without any motivation behind it.


Oh, and what you said about drinking will help: it definitely will, but you should choose what you latch to. My aforementioned friend has since started smoking cigarettes, which he detested while he smoked weed. He was actually encouraged to start cigarettes by his NA sponsor, though. You need somewhere to put the stress of withdrawal (even from weed), but make sure you pick a safe substance. Alcohol can escalate to just as dangerous of an addiction as any hard drug can.

 

Hmm, well getting the ban hammer from the parents eh?
Well thats too bad, and congrats on the Amsterdam trip.

But anyways, if your wanting to quit and the girl smokes, you can still be together, it may be hard to not want to smoke when they are. I was kind of in your same situation, I didn't smoke my girlfriend did, I eventually started and still do to this day.

Also are you only quitting because your parents say so or do you personally want to stop as well if so, may I ask why?

 

if you can't quit on your own free will then you're addicted.. it's is either you quit or you get stoned at a friends house or something, you can also put visine in your eyes before you get high so you don't look stoned afterwards.

 

If you can't go without it then you're addicted, you moron. Get some help.

 

Generally, you put Visine in your eyes once irritation has already occurred. It's not a preventative substance. It is only used to solve a problem that's already there.

 

I'm not addicted, but I don't think I can make four years. Yes, I realize this..which is why I didn't limit myself to a girl that doesn't smoke in my OP. Drinking will help, and I realize the dangers. I think it's horrible his NA sponser actually suggested cigarattes...weed could have been looked at as worse because it connected him with the heroin, however ciggarates vs weed cigs are going to cause him more health problems..I detested them when I toked and I still do. And yes I have other stress withdrawals like I mentioned, taking walks, meditating, and i've recently gotten into boxing.

Thank you for your well thought out post.

That's not my situation or the situation i'd be in at all? Unless you smoked then stopped before you met that girlfriend.

Because my parents say so. I don't want to stop at all, I had the best year of my life and not a single thing went wrong.

You've obviously never smoked before. No, once again you've obviously never smoked before. You're clothes smell. Use cologne? Your hair smells. Take a shower? I used to have to. Then I started smoking in hats (not even sure if that did anything) you have to be careful with visine, putting too much in causes your eyes to be too white which is also a giveaway. And them being red doesn't mean your high, you could have something in your eye, just gotten hit, been crying, have allergies, etc. What most people catch is your eyelids lowering...anyway, it's not worth it. They're on high high alert. I can go to the neighborhood park for two hours, come home and get another two hours of questioning! (exaggeration)

This is true, but doesn't help me?

Reported.

 

Weed is not an addictive substance. He can quit on his own, he just does not want to. The fact that he could go clear for 3 months without having serious drawbacks proves that he's not addicted. You obviously do not know what a withdrawal is like.

Not only this, but your friends must have been incredible idiots if they couldn't stop smoking weed on their own when they themselves wanted to.

Cigs are worse for you than weed is, the only difference is that one is illegal and the other is not. His NA sponsor should be fired, and locked up for suggesting such a switch. Alcohol, Cigs, all of that is MUCH more harmful than weed.


@OP: Find a reason to quit. You may have had a great time with weed, it may have been an enjoyable experience, but if you can have that without toking, then try it. Maybe there's something else you want, maybe you want to get a good job, maybe you want to improve your grades or join an extra curricular activity at school so you just can't smoke right now.

Don't think of it as something permanent, that will immediately make you want it as you're losing the freedom to do it. Think of it more as a personal choice, something that you're going to try for a few and see how it goes. When I quit smoking, it was because I wanted to join the military. I had 2 months before my drug test, and I wouldn't smoke to make sure I was completely clean in both blood and urine. So I stopped cold turkey and never touched it again.

However, I wanted to, I really did. Even now, I want to. But part of me thinks that doing so is not safe just yet, because if I want a good job I just can't afford to have it in my system and lose an opportunity because of it.

So find a reason to quit, and you'll be able to. The desire will always be there, but other desires should be the more rational choice. Also, avoid being around friends that are high, that are smoking, or watching shows/movies that talk about it. Watching Weeds made me want to smoke a lot of the time, it's highly tempting.

 

Replacing weed with alcohol is worse on your health. I used to smoke weed but I quit too because of my parents but what I do when I'm bored or want to have a good time is trip acid or shrooms. If your parents don't drug test you then you can hide it from them that you smoke, that's what I'd do.

 

You suggest I do shrooms and acid rather than alcohol? You need to double check your drug reprocussions...and they might eventually; i'm not sure.

 

It's VERY simple.

addicted: compulsively or physiologically dependent on something habit-forming; "she is addicted to chocolate"; "addicted to cocaine".
http://wordnetweb.princeton.edu/perl/webwn

You're telling us that you're not addicted, which means that you shouldn't need our support; just don't smoke weed. There's your solution, case closed, please don't post pointless shit again.

 

Ozaki won this one. If you're not addicted, then you don't even need help. You can simple put the 4 years of weed aside, then afterwards start smoking it and fuck your life up even more or you're addicted and can't put the 4 years of weed aside, hence, need help on how to achieve it.

 

In all honesty most peoples parents don't let them smoke weed.
They'll get in trouble if they got caught. It's really not hard to
smoke and not let your parents find out.

 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soft_addiction

Smoking Weed is like Surfing the Internet, if I quit surfing, I'm not going to experience any major withdrawal symptoms, or anything like that. I would, however, enjoy surfing the internet again.

Weed is NOT an addictive substance, however, it is an enjoyable activity that one may repeatedly wish to engage in, such as playing video games, or masturbation.

Please don't post your stupid, shitty advice when he is honestly just asking for ways to stop a behavioral pattern. It is not an addiction, in the normal manner of the word.

Your parents saying "Don't play video games", if you spend most of your time playing video games, and that's all you have, then you can imagine just how difficult it would be to stop.

There is no 'winning' in personal support and assistance. Weed does not fuck ones life up. Please do some research before you post your mindless, misinformed crap. Quitting weed is very easy, and has no side effects, just like not playing video games, or going without a computer after doing it for a very long time...

if you have something to replace it with in your mind, then you will find it easy to get through it.

Any more posts on addiction, insulting, etc, will be reported as spam.

 

like dude i totaly understand where ur coming from my parents want me to stop so i can get a job.. and its freakin crazy i love smoking. love ripping my bong every night still do behind there backs and all but who cares its what i wana do tbh thats all that matters and hell ya i drink every once in awhile its definitely fun to drink with hot bitches and out drink older guys

 

I explained this. There are things you enjoy doing a lot, even every day. You enjoy the way it makes you feel, or you enjoy whatever it is you get out of it. Masturbation is a prime example. Smoking marijuana is like masturbating. Being told to stop cold turkey means you have to find a reason to stop/occupy your mind with something else.

Quitting masturbation is more difficult than quitting smoking, though, as for those of us who have done it for years have made it habitual.

 

If you find it hard to go without something, even if it's just a habit, then you are dependent on it and thus you are mildly addicted (like most men with masturbation). It doesn't mean you're going to get withdrawals as such, but it's going to effect you in a negative way. It's stupid coming in here claiming you don't have that problem and then asking for help to deal with it.