Girl Help.

Hey all. From reading over the forum I've found that a lot of people have been seeking advice about girl "situations" - so why not post mine? Fortunately, however, I would consider my predicament a relatively favourable one. Alright, let me finish with the intro and give some background on the situation .


I am 16 years old and a senior in highschool (skipped two grades). I'm 5"11, considerably strong (exercise regularily), and pretty good looking; well, at least according to some people. Over the course of my life I've been moderately successful with girls. The problem is, I'm quite a shy person. The four girls I've been with have come forth confessing some sort of feelings towards me before I had the guts to do anything. Once I learned they were interested in me, however, my shyness evaporated instantly. I suppose it's a fear of the unknown.

Anyway, I work - twice a week - as a leader of a youth program taking care of children. I also have to do some general management of the institution. Last week a new girl was hired to run the program with me jointly, and it turns out she's a junior at my school (older than me by about 4 months, though -.-). After only a few minutes of working with her I immediately realized how painfully beautiful she was. I'm not even sure how I never noticed her before at school. Naturally, however, all the other guys working around the place began to gravitate to her (while I, unsurprisingly, sat on the sidelines, shy, passive and crestfallen.). Still, I've managed to convince myself that she's been eyeing me regularly, and she has definitely smiled at me a few times. Unfortunately, it would be very rare when unintentional interaction would occur, as there is a physical separation between her section of the program (girls) and mine (boys). Any advice on how I should talk to her, etc.? I'm trying to get over my shyness.

Thanks.

 

Why are you named Hilary? I'm sorry but I got confused for a second...

 

Not that that's really relevant, but Hilary was the name of my last girlfriend.

 

Can anyone help me?

 

If she has been eyeing you then she definitely has some sort of feelings toward you. Start talking to her about work or school and break the ice. That should lead to a conversation in some sort of way.

 

I make the same suggestion. Talk about school (it's a great ice breaker, believe me) and just act like she's a classmate. Don't act like a best friend though, as they seem to easily misunderstood people who like them with best friends.

 

Thanks for the responses. How should I initiate the conversation, though? Just walk up randomly and be like "Hey!"?

 

Just talk about how you like work and stuff, then lead to a different topic. Then every time you meet her make a conversation.

 

But how should I approach her? Should I just kinda walk up?

 

Dont walk up to her and be like "Howdy!" But when your work brings yall together or by each other try breaking the ice. Ask her what classes she is taking. then lead on the conversation from there. Hope i helped.

 

Talk to her casually and get to know her. You can usually see if she likes you then. After a while, you could ask her out, and see what she says. More than likely, it'll be a yes.

 

Yep, start of casually; maybe share some work loads etc. If you do decide to progress, invite her to go have coffee. It's not a date; it's a better way to get to know someone. Get to know them, before you try to date them.. Assuming you're not thinking with your dick.

 

bro just ask her if she wants to get a coffee after your youth program?

 

Thanks for the advice . Next time I work (saturday) I'll try this out. I'll post an update.

 

Just sayin'.. We're due an update, man..

How's it going?

 

her eyeing u doesnt neceasarily mean shes in 2 u bro

 

LOL he got banned. Well I guess we will never find out what happened.