Some trouble ):

So, I dated this girl my sophomore year. I treated her pretty badly, made alot of mistakes, and we ended up dating off and on for about 4 months. During those four months, I convinced her to come to my school for Junior and Senior year. After the school year started, we broke up. (Which, was my fault, for treating her like shit) Few months later, she ends up dating this kid Josh, I'm pretty good friends with him.

Me and the girl hung out alot anyways though, just as friends, but we both knew there was still more there. We talk about how theres still something there, and we still have feelings for eachother, atleast once every 2 weeks.

Last night, We had a really long conversation, started out just playing, joking around, then it turned to us talking about "Who remembers more" , and every question was about what happened when we were dating "First kiss" "What We were wearing" "What movie", stuff like that. Eventually it turned into us talking about the way we feel about eachother. We had a pretty long, admittably enjoyable conversation, which at the end, she tells me she loves me, and kissed me, then I drove her home, while we talked more.

Today, I got on facebook, and asked her if she actually meant it. She said that she thought about it alot, and that she means it really more of as a friend, but that she really likes me alot. Then we talked about other stuff for a little bit. Then and I quote myself " Hey, I have to tell you something, I'm going to feel stupid if I don't say it. I love you, and I mean that as something more than a friend." She asked if I was only saying it because I feel like I need to. I told her "No, I'm saying it because its true, and I'm a dumbass, for messing up everything I had with you, because you're amazing." Then we had another conversation about how we feel about eachother. (There mostly all the same, those parts were just exceptional)

The kid shes dating, Josh, apparently is really insecure, and feels threatened when I hug her, or when shes with me alone. At school, I hugged her a few times one day in front of him, just to mess with him. He texted me "Stop hugging Brianna, or i'll make you" Which really just was a mistake on his part, since all it did was make me flirt with her more.

Basically, what I want to know, what would be the most effective way of getting them broken up? Because quite frankly, him having a girl that I deserve and love, pisses me off. I'm pretty sure she has really strong feelings for him too (I might not say love) Since they go on pretty long trips together, like out of state, keys, and stuff. (No sex, nothing even past kissing.) Which makes me pretty happy. So yeah, whats the best way? Considering he threatens me and stuff.

Pretty important tbh.

 

Why would you want to break them up? I mean like dont you want her to dump him for you rather than you breaking them up. In my opinion i would want the girl to say adios to her current bf because she loves me and wants me? So maybe explain this to her and tell her you want to have a relationship and now your more mature.

 

I want them to break up, because im selfish. She has told me she loves me, and that she does want me. She your classic, good girl , with values , and differs between right and wrong. I think that she isnt with me, because well for one i treated her like crap, and for two, in all honesty, it would be wrong for her to simply break up with him and be with me. But I dont care whats right and wrong, I love her, and I want her. Fuck all that movie bull shit "Im happy your with him shit"

I want her, and to be perfectly honest, I really love her, and feel like I need her :/

 

If you loved her you would want whats best for her. Tell her you love her and want to date her, and that your feelings have changed since the last time you have been with her and that your mature so the bs is out the door and its a new you.
If she says something like "but what about so and so?" simply tell her "look i want you and i love you and if you felt the same which is what you tell me then you would leave him for me, but then again i respect how you feel and im not going to ruin yall."
Just be caring and nice and sweet. Im telling you if you had good swag you can win her over my man.

 

Thanks.

And as for the swag thing. I'm actually pretty popular and cool in school (YEAH I RHYMED ;D) But shes up there too, so its not to easy. :/

 

Not getting any other answers....


FTW.

 

Trust me, it only gets harder my friend. You just gotta go with the flow. And Respect how she feels. From past experience that "Movie BS" actually attracts girls. Just FYI

And anytime man! your welcome.

 

Care to elaborate on how it attracts them?

Lol.

 

Okay ill use my situation. I fell in love with this girl, we dated for 1 year...but we broke up for about 3 months until i got a message from her one day... we slowly started talking again, thing is she had a bf of about two weeks at the time. One night my emotions for her came back and they were really strong. So i told her "******, I love you and i missed you and will always love you no matter what, im not going to lie i want you back, but i know your with ***** and yall seem happy. So i wish the best of luck to you two!"
All it took was two days and she was back with me. The fact that she knows she means the world to you and yet you dont be selfish and give her whats best for her makes her look at you in a whole new aspect you know?

 

Yeah, I guess that makes sense.

Now, I'm kind of planning on saying something like that to her tomorrow. Im taking her to the lake tomorrow, so i'll see how that goes.

 

Okay your time to shine my friend! Keys to success:
- Be sweet (tell her she looks gorgeous... shet like that.)
- Get all close to her (Lots of hugs and maybe try holding hand if not kiss)
- Get it across to her that you have changed from your bad habits
- Let her know you want to start a relationship

 

Dontcha think thats a little fast, considering were not actually dating, lol.

Although, throughout the day it would be pretty good lol.

 

lol your a straight selfish asshole.. your should really learn to be nicer to people, if those two are having a good time together let it last as long as possible, you really should not mess things up for other people it could end in a very serious way

 

this ibeaustin guy is oh so right.

Just be sweet bro, tell her you love her so much, and that she is the most beautiful, georgouss and adorable girl you have ever met.

Also say things like, "Baby, your my life, my all. The only reason i wake up in the morning is because i know i have you, and life without you would simply be terrible. I love you so much, but i just can't express how much i love you, as it is too much. But, i love you so much i want you too stay with "HIM" and just be happy. "

That works every fucking time. ;P

 

Kid, werent you depressed on another thread? If you had any sense at all, you would clearly see, I already know im selfish. I don't care. I love her, and I'm going to do my best to make her mine. I do not care. That actually seems pretty god.

Go be emo on your other thread. Douche.


Edit : @ Took.too.long, for being a prick.

 

lol i hope you like your 30 posts per day ratio, it wont last for long

 

I dont even know how to look at that.
If your gonna be such a douche, Go back to your little emo suicide thread.

I leave you with this statement.

I <3 SUCK MI.

 

was all and well until you asked how you can force them to break up?
why be an ass like that. you told her how you feel and mad props for that. she won't ever forget that and I can guarantee you that. It's only a matter of time before she comes back to you

 

Even if they did break up going out with her right after your friend just broke up with her might mess up the relationship you have with him. Why don't you just find another girl to hang out with, because if things go bad with the girl like they did before then you will possibly end up losing two good friends. It's high-school there should be plenty of other attractive girls that you can get to know.

 

Thanks everyone who gave advice.

And fish, I want her, so I'm going after her, its as simple as that. :/