Phone Sex

So this girl I like keeps asking me to talk her through my fantasys and imagination over the phone, and I feel bad because I can never bring myself to get to the point where I'm talking about it. I always skirt the issue because it just seems ridiculous.

She's not at all shy about it, and I suppose it's just because I'm not too comfortable with it yet, but I really just don't know what to say.

All of Google's results are focused towards girls not knowing what to say. It just doesn't make sense to me, really. While I find it erotic, I just don't know.

I want to please her by being more open, and I feel this may be something I'll never be good at. She accepts it when I tell her I just don't think I can, but I'd prefer to be able to explain it.


So, what do you say during phone sex/your boyfriends say? I don't need deep details, just basics, I figure I'll start small >.<. I'm really good at Cyber Sex, haha, but I've been doing that for YEARS. >.>.

 

Wait, are you going out, or not?

 

No, lol. We just like each other.

 

all i can say is phone sex is stupid

 

Well then I suggest you ask her out. You'll feel more comfortable with her and therefore, be able to have phonesex.

 

I don't disagree. But I hate being incapable of doing something.

I'm comfortable with her, I just really don't know what to say, or how to express those things. I told her I was going to write it down and then read it because I can't just talk, it doesn't work like that for me.

But I see no reason to be 'together' to have phone sex, to be honest.

 

There should be many steps before you start having phone sex. If you are not going out, ask her out because that will give you an opportunity to get to know her better and give you a change to become at ease with her and yourself. After that you can start having phone sex, and quite honestly you could probably tell her all this and if she cares for you she'll stick around.

 

I have told her all this, we've talked about it a bit, and such.

We know each other pretty well, I just haven't asked her out yet because I don't see a reason to. Phone sex is harmless in my opinion, and like I said, it is erotic, so I have no problem doing it with even a complete stranger, if I knew what to say. Lol.

But that's my big issue, what the hell do guys say in phone sex? I know what girls say, but what do I say >.<?!

 

I feel you man, its really sort of strange, because most women don't really know what to expect out of a guy, and nor most guys know what to expect out of themselves. you could just start with gushy mushy love you baby talk and move into it, but you start talking like your having sex what next? I have always wondered that question, and maybe if you dare and experiment you can get back to me!

 

+1

I have never had 'phone sex' or 'cyber sex' with anyone. I really don't see the point in it. If you have sex with her though, then when you talk on the phone you could discuss what you want to do next time.

 

Indeed, maybe I'll have her walk me through what turns her on, and I'll write a guide about phone sex for guys. .

It's a bonding activity, really. I tell her she's putting bad thoughts into my head, she says "orly" and I say "yeah" and she says "like what" and my mind goes blank and shuts her out. That's not a good thing >.>.

 

I think its normal for a guy to feel awkward while saying sexual shit over the phone. Maybe thats why you feel uncomfortable.

Edit: 600th post:love:

 

You should have real sex with her first, then once you are both comfortable enough with it, tell her what your fantasies are.

 

Bad thoughts
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orly
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yeah
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like what
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like maybe somebody needs a spanking? *que erotic music*

Just a suggestion.. not really sure what I would do myself.

 

haha this is so pathetic I've flirt with girls on web cam but this is just ridiculous haha that girl is so desperate why don't you just have sex?

 

Just text it. That's what i do.

 

If you two like each other perhaps you should just start dating? Phone sex is quite strange and, frankly, juvenile.

 

Phone sex is older than all that >.>. And it's quite common amongst couples, you should read up.

That's what I told her I'd do, since it was easier for me that way, and allowed me to think about what I would say more.

Why should we start dating? Everyone rushes into being together, I'd rather take it slow getting together but do all the things that people together do, but then you know that when you are together it actually matters >.>.

 

Why? /

 

What exactly is phone sex? someone give me a example... -_-