Dates.

Alright well there're a few girls who like me in my school. But I know they're waiting for me to ask them out.

The problem is, I lack self-confidence. I look quite average and all but self-confidence has always been the problem. Anyone know how to help myself be more confident when approaching girls? And how to ask them out?

What to wear/tips on preparing myself for a date would be great

Thanks.

 

lol. Welcome to my world. I always found that the only way to really get the job done is just to dress casually like you normally would, then just up and out "would you go out with me?". Sometimes you get shot down, sometimes you get surprised. If you know they like you, then there really isn't any harm in asking them to a movie or just to hang out sometime. I've ALWAYS lacked self confidence in myself. I've missed some good opportunities because of it :\

 

There probably isn't. I'm not really used to this as I never cared for dating before.

 

I developed confidence by moving out of my parents home and into the real world. I learned what it was like to actually have a life with no rules, and what people had to do to get by.

You just need something that makes you realize that the people you meet today are more than likely not going to matter several years down the road. Also, that you have many talents and are very worthy of them, but they are barely worthy of you.

Also, one thing I found after I started flirting with girls (which is honestly a rarity for me as I too lacked confidence for the longest time) is that I've never once been rejected, I just had an innate fear of rejection. Once you shake the idea that you'll be rejected, you'll do just fine. Go in there expecting to walk away satisfied, and if she doesn't satisfy, walk away knowing that she would never satisfy .

Think with your penis, best I can say.

 

Thanks for that Deacon. Any tips on how to actually ask a girl out?

 

For a first date I recommend it be a simple get together with more than 3 people, including you two. Removing intimacy you get to know the person on a friendly level and if both of you bring a friend, you're not as nervous as you are at least with someone you know.

Just ask them if they'd like to come with somewhere sometime .

 

If you actually get to know the girl(s), make sure you get to know their likes/dislikes and all that. If you talk to them daily, just start a casual conversation. Near the end of the convo, just be like "Have you heard of any new good movies out?" "Tru, true... You wanna go see one this weekend?" etc etc. If you're using that move make sure you're the one that's ending the convo. You want to be in control of the situation. "hey i gotta go! but you want to catch a movie friday?" Something like that, there's other techniques if you want, it's honestly that easy. My weakness is flirting with random girls I've never seen in my life, I needa work on that for clubs lol.

 

^this too , good advice and I also have a fear of rejection... I have too much pride.. "would you go out with me?" "umm ... sorry no " "FUCK YOU THEN HOE!" LOL that was me last year... I haven't gotten rejected in a while