Pulling the Cord...

Once again I must ask you guys for your advice. Recently my grandfather has not been doing to well, he has been diagnosed with so many different illnesses I can't even begin to list them. Me and my grandfather have always had a special relationship, he has been like a second father to me. With his illness's continuing to stack my family has grown more concerned and talk about "pulling the plug" has begun to stir. Just when I thought things couldn't get any worse my parents began to insists that I be the one to pull the plug, they believe I had the best relationship with him and I should be the one to put him down. They are even starting to offer me rights to their share of his trust fund. I have told them no so many times I am ready to leave the house in anger but they continue to insist I do it.
I don't know what to do...I can't leave the house but I can't finish my grandfather...I don't even want anyone to pull the plug on him.

Edit: I just had a talk with my parents and I must say, I am about to have a heart attack. My parents just sat me down and explained to me how my grandfather has been
running an underground sex ring for twenty years and he may have hundreds of thousands of dollars saved and hidden somewhere in southern Mexico. I have no idea what to think right now.

 

Don't do it. Thats just fucked up you know. Talk to your grandpa more often while it last before he passes away but if he is in pain 24/7 then thats a different story. but wtf a sex ring? I think your parents just in it for the $$$ inheritance after your grandpa passes away.

 

Yeah I know my parents are in it for the money and my grandma is pretty much clueless to everything. I am not going to pull the plug but I don't want anyone else to pull the plug when he still has time.

 

You should do it if he has lots of illnesses and hes very sick he would like it from you more than your mom or dad since you have always looked up to him which makes hims special to you, else if you dont and someone else does you might regret it.

 

I think you should pull it if he's in pain

 

Spend an entire day with him.

Make it last, and unforgettable.

If he is in pain, pull the plug. I don't believe you literally pull the plug, it just means you will stop paying for the doctors to run the machine. They don't literally pull the plug, however.

I think what he has done in the past is entirely irrelevant. The money is, too. It's about what you remember about your grandpa and how you should spend his last hours with him.

Good luck, and if you need any more advice let me know.

 

Think about the quality of his life right now.. It must be awful for him to be in so much pain, and have so many illnesses.. If I was in his situation, I'd want to end it.

But yeah, like ASDF said, you should spend a whole load of time with him, if he seems miserable, ect. then I think someone should. Maybe not you though, you'll have carry that around for years.

 

What does prolonging his suffering do to help the situation, I know that you want him here on this Earth for as long as possible but making your grandfather go through the suffering any longer would be even worse than you pulling the plug.

 

If he's clueless, tell him wtf going on.

 

This is along the lines of the best advice so far


Must have come as a shock that he has sex ring for twenty years maybe you could inherit onto the business if you know what I mean

The money isn't important here unless your going through a downfall, I wouldn't end my granddads life he would probably get me first with his bayonet.

 

No I don't want to run the business, I want nothing to do with it.
My grandfather isn't dieing of pain, he is more in a vegetable state.

 

Your allowed to pull the cord on vegetables? Anyway, why the hell isn't it your grandmother's job? You know.. as in the man's WIFE. If his wife is still alive why the hell is it your responsibility lol.

 

Yeah I didn't think you could do that anymore..
where do you live :\
But thats pretty fucked up.
Just get a doctor to do it..

 

I don't think you literally can actually pull the cord.
As for the situation, I'd first like to give my sincere wishes your grandfather gets better. I really hope it all works out. Wait it out, since he is not in much pain. Don't let greed get you, and fight your parents' selfishness. Good luck.

 

Tell you parents this.

and have High hope, my mother had cancer and I was told by the doctor when I was 9 that she is almost dead, that was the worst day of my life... I never gave up hope 2 Months later she walked out of that hopital and has been healthy ever scince. Dont listen to any one els if you don;t want to do there is no law to do so. I hope you and your grandfather will talk again.

 

How is he now, JP?

I'm in a very similar boat as you right now, strange actually. My Great Grandfather is dying as we speak. Laying in hospital, practically helpless. His whole body is failing him, there is nothing more they can do for him except wait for him to pass away.

I wish I had spent more time with him. I don't really know him but now he is dying I wish I did. I don't really know my Grandparents either, because when I was little my Grandmother had breast cancer and they thought she was going to die, so my parents didn't want me to get too close to her unless she suddenly passed away which would affect me dramatically. Fortunetly, she fought through it, but as a result I hardly know her.

He also has very bad short-term memory loss, and is constantly distressed and forgets where he is. He wakes up every night in the early hours, shouting for someone to help him as he is confused. He has to be given sleeping pills, and can not build enough strength to even press the button to call for a nurse.

I feel for you.

 

I'd do it. It may sound heartless and selfish, but it's the right thing to do. He's supposed to die, why aren't you letting him? What's the point of keeping him alive, really? Sorry if I offended you or anything, but that's the way I feel.

 

Juvenile, please reply. I am curious as to what the situation is like now.

 

If he's absolutely suffering, and he's unable to function correctly, then you have no option but to pull the plug. You're not doing him, or the mental well-beings of your family any favors by keeping him alive much longer. It may sound a bit harsh, but the truth is the truth.

 

If he is in no state of mind to continue living a life worth living, then do him a favour and send him to a better place. It's not good to be in this situation, but you have to think about him, do you think he would like to be laying in bed in pain (if he is in pain) day in day out, on a machine? Or would he rather just go peacefully.

It's a tough decision, and about the money, who gives a shit? Money doesn't mean shit. It's about your family, money comes second. Think with your heart.