What should I do?

It isn't normal for me to ask others for advice, or to discuss my personal issues. But this is one problem I just cannot get passed.

So the story starts off..

I met this girl around February of last year, she came to visit my best friend so I hung out with them. We imminently hit it off, but unfortunately she couldn't stay. I live in California, her mom lives out here. But she currently lives with her dad in Minnesota. So we've continued to talk throughout the past year, and she told me a couple months back that she wanted us to be more then friends. I was quite hesitant at first, because she lives 1000's of miles away, and I've never had a long distant relationship before. Eventually I did ask her out over the phone, and so we've "technically" been going out for the past few months. She was supposed to be moving back out here soon, or at least come for a visit. I kept asking her when she was going to come out here and I always got the same response "I honestly have no idea". But that's not the real issue at hand. For the past few weeks we've barely talked, I don't know if it's because she has two jobs and she never has time or what. But I told my friend that if she doesn't come out here soon or doesn't start talking to me again, I was going to dump her. A week past and I was still deciding what to do, I actually started talking to two other girls, and I thought I really was going to dump her. About a week ago I got a call from my friend in the middle of the night telling me to go on her Facebook, so I did. I learned that she had been in a terrible car accident a couple days before.

So obviously I've been in a terrible mood because of what a douche I've been. But the thing is, she's going to be in the hospital for quite a while, not to mention the physical theory she's going to need. I don't think she'll be able to come visit for a while, like a year probably. I need to know what to do to stick by her until she can finally come out here, or just to move on?

(And yes, I did start to cry a little bit writing this entire thing).

 

Well its clearly not what you signed up for.
I dont mean to sound like a dick, im sure she is a lovely girl but this is really not what you expected and im sure she will understand that.
If you can talk to her just ask if you can just be friends for now.
The last thing she needs at the moment is more problems as well..
and a boyfriend can bring across many.
quite surprised that you both havent thought you were cheating on eachother.

 

The problem is I can't talk to her, she is in critical condition, she'll be fine but she's on a breathing tube and can barely open her eyes.

 

Don't do it now. It wouldn't be respectful to start see others without her knowing your not even together still.
See her through it but if you don't want to date her because you hate the fact that you don't see her at all, tell her. I'm sure she will understand. And if she doesn't then shes thinking about herself and not you

 

Alright. Thanks for the advice. I'll just wait until she's out of the hospital, then we can both decide whats best.

 

No problem

 

Have a little fun, you're not marrying her,when she's better and you physically see her then get with her.

 

For now, I'd just hope her recovery went smooth.
From their, you guys should figure out where you want to go with it.