Need advice with a girl.

Got good advice, thanks.

 

Well the positive note is she didnt reject you off facebook AND you even managed to have a decent conversation by the looks of it.

Approaching a girl isn't easy, but it has to be done. By this I mean give her a chat up once in a while and ask how her day went.

If your chats are at around the same time of the day on a daily/regular basis. She will be ready to talk to you again at the same time, by this I mean she will get on at that time so that she can specifically have a chat with you.

This is good because you can catch up on how the day went, also give her advice or let her do the talking; ask her advice on things you need advice on, or make situations you think she will be able to help you with. And then you too then give her advice and opinions on things she needs advice with.

With friendship only in mind this should not be hard as communicating via text is ALOT easier than in person. If you guys are really connecting well and getting along, you will know if you like her then or not.

So option b. Hope this helped.

 

Thanks for the reply, it was very insightful. The only thing is that girls' actions are very hard to interpret. She may be acting extremely enthusiastic but actually is bored out of her mind. I want to be friends with her at this moment, and my current goal is to have her start a conversation with me. If that happens I'll be ecstatic.

 

Doesn't happen in a day my friend, and yes I know they're actions are sporadic at best.

Try to keep it cool for now and talk to her regularly, preferably at the same time like I said before. If you see her on that time everyday, you know you must be doing something right.

The chances of her talking to you right away is slim for the time being because you just got in contact with her. However with friendship in mind talking to her should be easy, don't get infatuated and loose your lid too early in the game. Build a healthy friendship before you consider phase 2 haha.

Just a cautionary warning, if you two become good friends, it will be hard knowing that if she rejects you or you two split, theres no going back. :s so decide which is better.

 

Thanks a lot for another post! . Don't you think, though, that if I keep talking to her about relatively juvenile things such as how her day went (I know these are important but aren't exactly the essence of conversation) she will lose interest? Or even, never gain interest? :S

Edit: I'm front Toronto too.

 

Option B. I've read the conversation but my english is too weak to explain why I wouldn't take A.


(and PLEASE add my msn it is really important, will give you a pin, too)

 

Sure. What's your msn again?

 

[email protected]

and btw, i had the same problem with a girl and i did it like option b and now were some pretty good friends

 

This is what I propose.

Start easy with how your day went and other things like that, keep it relatively short so she doesn't need to use all her energy on that one chat, then start to expand and have longer chats with her as the day goes on. Tell her something crazy or odd that happened to you that day, or even make something up. Anything to hold her attention.

After continuous conversations, start to open up a bit more and go about asking her for advice or suggestions, or be ready at all times to bolster her self-esteem, a few words go a long way. If you live near each other, you could even ask if she wanted to go chill sometime, after you have gotten to know her and such.

Jus keepz it cool

PS: You live in Toronto? How quaint

 

Thanks, your advice is really great and I'm going to follow it. If you want and don't mind I can add you on msn and talk to you about how it's going.

 

By all means, [email protected]

 

Added ya. ^_^

 

Thanks for the advice, that seems like a pretty sensible move. I'm hoping, though, that she won't immediately feel that I am interested in her, but rather, interested in her friendship.

 

I had this thing mate.
Talked to a girl from primary, kept talking for a week then she invited me to an outing. To be honest, it was awkward. Got on well on FB and on the phone but had nothing to do in real life! Didn't talk to her again D: When I said hi she was "busy". My advice, just talk to her and get together and see how it goes. Good luck.

 

^This here is good advice....

But if you ask me, she doesn't seem interested bro. With the length of the convo being fairly short and spanning 17 minutes long, it seems as if one of you is taking a bit long to reply and I have my money on the girl. Also the way she left, she didn't seem very interested in you. Perhaps it was because the topic was a bit off-putting(Ugh School :S), her generally not feeling like talking, really having to go, or she doesn't want to chat with you.

With all of this being said, there's still much hope. You can do what fin said, talk to her a few times (Make sure it's interesting), and then stop all of a sudden and see if she comes to talk to you. If she doesn't oh well, if she does it's that much better.

But if you do prefer your option A over B. I figure the best way to do this is to get her you notice. How? Do social stuff like sending those chain messages to all of your friends(No you gonna die in 7 days stuff mmkay?). or perhaps send a message to all your friends about something pretty cool and maybe she will come talk to you about it.

But if I would have to select a method, it would be fins response. Seems easier and a bit fool proof.

 

It's hard for us to give correct info because every single human being is different, and we cannot say whether she feels something for you based upon a 17 minutes long internet conversation.

You should sometimes start talking to her, but not always. The times you don't, watch whether she starts talking to you or not. If she doesn't, she's most likely not too interested in you. If she does, wait like a month and ask her on a date after a few decent conversations SHE started.

 

I have found every girl called me "CUTE" Has turned out Emo, NO bs.

W8 for her to talk to you =] Dont Push her into talking either, If she talks then doesnt ever talk again, Id suggest removing her from facebook.

 

Why would you remove her from facebook? Seems childish. Ask her to come hang out, but make sure there's other people around so it's not just a Me-You thing. Invite a couple friends. That reunion she was talking about seems like a great time to talk to her. If she declines, don't stop talking to her. Play it off cool and unswayed. After a couple days to a week of talking, if she isn't talking to you first she probably isn't interested.

 

Thanks for the reply. An experienced opinion always helps.

Yeah, it did seem a bit like that. I was so nervous that I didn't really know what to talk about. =/

My problem is that I get nervous, and when I get nervous I guess I don't really talk about interesting stuff. I really need some sort of line to keep me in check.

Hmm...Thanks for the suggestion, though I think at this present moment I'm going to try to have several conversations before I move to real life affairs. My only problem is trying to constantly be interesting. :S