Shall I Marry This Girl...............................

Hey !

Today , I am here to "confide" my love story......
It`s sad that I can not talk to a real life friend about this,
because it`s not any sort of honour...actually,It`s grief!

June,2009,My ex-girlfriend came here and we lived together,till few days ago...
In these 11 months,we have been deeply attached to each other,we sweared we will through a lifetime together,I am 23,She is 22,this is definitely not puerile jokes,
but human emotion is so complicated to understand,we can not reach 100% mutual understanding,so we quarrelled for few times,even for no reason...

However,I clearly understand she never stopped loving me.

Oct,2009,another girl(Let`s call her Jessica) came into our life,she is pretty nice,both appearance and heart.
I know i can not fall in love with her,since I have an intimate girlfriend,but we lost self-control...
Later on,my ex-girlfriend heard these,Jessica left this city for my happy ending,
She said she will wait 2 years,wait for me...

14th,Feb,2010,the most important traditional festival of Chinese--The Spring Festival,it was also Valentine Day!
My ex-girlfriend came to my hometown with me,we made so much sweet memories...

12th,May,2010,My ex-girlfriend left our house,turnned off her cellphone...
I know why,but I just can not accept this fucking actuality...
her puppet is still on the bed,the big dog,It reminds me all of the memories about its owner...I can not find her anywhere...
I didn`t know how to get on in life without her,I even can not find my favorite coat because she was so meticulously to our daily life and I rarely paid attention to it...

15th,May,2010,Jessica came back from Shanghai (where is holding the 41st World Exposition),and we will get married in 1 week,
parents agreed,relatives and friends are blessing us,but I really don`t know whether I am and WILL happy with this...
I know she will do her best,but how can I be happy while someone is taking a lot of pain...

Who can tell me,whether its right to get married with Jessica for now...
I can not tell what is my feeling,happy? excited? depressed? constrained?
I don`t know......


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Posted on 21th-May-2010:

Yesterday, I got married with Jessica,It was 20th-May-2010,In China, the pronunciation of 520 is exactly similar to "Wo Ai Ni",It means I love you. Great day for marriage!

Yes I made the final decision, I love Jessica,although I will not forget my ex-gf, but just "remember",not "love"...Best Wishes to her! and I will definitely love Jessica heart and soul, She is really a great wife!

In the end, Thank You Very Much,Sythe members! You helped me a lots! you are so warm-hearted and helpful !

All The Best !
God Bless You !

Sincerely
Tim & Jessica:love:

 

If you're unsure you should talk to her about it. Explain everything to her, not us.

 

She knows everything.
Generally, for affection issue, those closely involved cannot see as clearly as those outside.so i posted this thread..

 

both girls are worth to be loved, here is idear,
write both names on paper, and the first glance your eyes focused on is the choice,

 

Moved to Personal Support & Assistance.

 

That`s a creative measure,but isn`t it a hasty decision ?

 

So as far as I can tell, you spent a single month with Jessica, then went back to your girlfriend for a long time, now Jessica has come back and you are marrying Jessica?

This just seems ridiculous to me. You are even calling her "this girl" instead of your girlfriend. From the way you've written it, it seems you like your ex-girlfriend much more.

 

Why do you wish to get married to Jessica when it is clear you love your ex-girlfriend a lot more? If you get married to someone, it has to be of your own choice. Did anyone pressurize you into marrying Jessica?

That is silly. Just because your eyes focus on a name first, does not mean you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with them.

 

Tbh I Dont Think You Should Because Yoou Not All That Keeen.

 

I think you should follow what's in your heart. You decide if she is the woman you would want to marry. I don't think we can give you an honest opinion on if you should marry her or not.

On a side note, I like your avatar, however a superstitious ideal such as this wouldn't work well.

 

1st

Ni hao ma? Wo hou shou i diar de zhong wen, ni ne?

2nd It seems like you really love your ex. It will be easier to sort out the problems before you get married then after. I would talk to you ex girlfriend, and try to reconcile.

 

Same fucking problem I have, but my ex takes advantage of my unconditional love and I'm not close to getting married.

Anyways, I say fuck the ex-gf. If she doesn't know what she wants she doesn't deserve your time. Time heals all wounds.

 

Your probably not ready to get married if your asking people on a medieval gaming blackmarket.

 

At the very time when my ex-girlfriend just left,of course i can not shift my affection from her to Jessica at once,
but the current situation is she LEFT...
I know Jessica will be a excellent wife ,and we will be well matched,
She is a understanding girl,she doesn`t mind the unhappy things.
but currently its just kinda unfair to her...

Yes,currently I love my ex-girlfriend a lot more,but she LEFT,and never come back...
No one pressurize me into marrying her,but I can not disappoint her once more...

thats why I posted this thread to ask for assistance.I will meditate on this problem.

In my heart,obviously I want to marry my ex-girlfriend,but now, I am NOT ABLE to do that any more...You are right,but I wanna know how you guys deal with this situation. I need few days to make the final decision,but once I decided,I won`t change my mind in any case!

 

if you love her and you know she loves you to just do it.
else talk with her about it.

 

Tbh recently I am not very well..lol , thanks!
I can barely understand "Wo hou shou i diar de zhong wen"...sorry.
Yes thats true,so I defered making the decision,thanks very much for your kindness!but I even can not get in touch with her...

That`s the trouble spot...she wants nothing but me, became more and more sensitive ,easy to be hurt...anyway,if I married Jessica I sincerely wish my ex-girlfriend could find a nice guy,and they can live happily...

since I joined sythe in 2008,I believe most of sythe ppl are warm-hearted and helpful,and many of you guys are experienced in love as you can see,you guys helped me a lot!

Yes I think so,but the trouble is which one ...

 

I'd personally pick the ex girlfriend, but now that she's gone, i think that just having a relationship for a month with jessica, is just to short, you don't really know each other well, if you do marry her, i doubt that you will marry her the rest of your lifetime, Something that you will keep in mind, are you both successful, not living in a trailer, actually capable of owning your own house with the payments from your job, if not, just forget about it, when your successful, you most likely will be able to maintain your marriage, when not capable of owning your own house, and living in a trailer, i doubt it'll last one bit, but from what I've heard, i doubt you live in a trailer. Well it's your decision, from what your provided, that's just not as much information i was expecting from a "should i marry her" title.

Just remember, your decision

-Intelligent, Cuss you know i am

 

think really hard, is your ex-gf ever going to come to you and have the same sort of commitment ready that you are ready for? If not, move on, it is very possible to love more than one girl in a lifetime, and if you feel that you and jessica are compatible then there is no problem there. Maybe wait on the marriage with her, and live with eachother, remember MARRIAGE shouldn't be a deciding factor here, jessica should be someone you LOVE before you get married, not MARRIED before you love

 

Why the hurry to get married? Take some time with Jessica and see what kind of a girl she is. If she treats you with the same respect you treat her then ITS MEANT TO BE. Seems like your ex no matter how much you love her has no respect for you.

I think this marriage idea is getting pushed a little too hasty.

 

So she left you. Fuck her. There's this other girl that likes you. Your ex left you once. Who's to say she won't do it again? "Oh sorry darling. I found this other really good looking guy who can give me what you can and so much more". What are you going to do then?