Need advice on how to ask a girl out :s

Ill try on Friday....

 

+1. Use the simple, but magical, quote - "Would you like to go out sometime?". You can really tell by a girl's actions around you whether or not she seems to have an attraction to you.

I was taught something a while back that seemed to increase my confidence. "What can you possibly lose by asking?". You don't lose anything. If she for some reason declines you offer (Based off the brief information I highly doubt she'll say 'no'.) you're back in the same position you were before. You can only gain, you can't lose. I say go for it and come whatever may.

 

yea but the thing is i dont want to lose her as a friend. Ive seen most of my friends ask out girls and the girls say no then pretend they dont know them anymore or their friendship changes as in the act awkwardly now..... its honestly the only thing im afraid of.... me and her not being good friends anymore and getting awkward

 

If you are already good friend's like how you put it, simply tell her straight forward how you feel about her.

 

Pretty difficult but ill ask her tommorow in the morning

 

Tell her how you feel. Don't make things up to impress her. Make sure you tell her that you have had a crush on her for awhile. Connect with her more, try and find conversation starters that will get the ball rolling. You both have connected this far, but never jump in and ask her out. You have to soften her up. Show her that you really care about her by doing things that you wouldn't normally do for anyone else.

 

ive already done most of that. I hardly carry stuff for anyone else but when she asks me to she looks into my eyes somehow and i cant say no. Idk its kinda difficult to describe our relationship and ive asked a good friend of mine thats knows her aswell what she thinks and she told go for it but i still kinda doubt myself.

 

Don't doubt yourself. You have to know what you want to do for yourself. Obviously you have feelings for her. If she says no, than she says no. It wont be different any other time. If she feels the same as you do, she is bound to say yes.

 

yea the thing is idc if she sais no aslong as we can stay good friends as we are now i dont want to lose her as a friend.....

 

Yeah don't ask her out on the bus, no offense but thats really lame, take her out to a movie or something, just say "Hey (insert her name here), Do you wanna go see a movie with me (whatever day)?". If all goes well there, ask her out and see what happens. The worst that can happen is her saying no, and that isn't the end of the world, as there are plenty more fish in the sea, and it is after all only highschool.

 

Friendships go along way. Your best bet is to go for it.

 

i would but all the movies out right now suck....

 

Let's be real, who actually watches the movie on a date

 

Honestly right? lol

 

Good luck mate, I hope it goes well for you.

 

For starters go watch Kick ass, hehehe.

But Seriously, you could always start like this;

'Will you promise that what I am about to say wont change anything between us?' hopefully a yes.

then just say 'would you like to go out someday? anything you would like, (give her suggestions, but still show that you want to take her out on a date not her making the date for you. if you get what I'm saying)
Then if all goes well kudos.

If she is to say no, make sure you don't crack, if you show weakness towards her from her answer she will feel bad about it, which then creates the awkward scenerio which no one wants to happen I hope this helps.

-Sgt Soul-

 

If you've been friends for so long without anything happening, it's because she wants you as a friend, not a boyfriend.

I hate it when my friends ask me out, happens all the time. Why can't they just be friends with me without trying to fuck me?

 

Thats your problem, i dont wanna ask her out to fuck her thats just pathetic, its because i truly love her and will do anything for her.

 

Going out on a date with other friends helps alot.

 

If you don't want to have sex with her, then just carry on being her friend...