Feelings - generally useless?

Now i'm not talking about all feelings, i just didn't know how to word it. Is feeling bad for someone/something, generally useless?

Personally, i see feeling bad for someone or telling someone sorry is useless, because there is nothing you can do about the situation in the first place. So if you are saying sorry, what good is that doing towards the situation at hand?

 

If i have done something bad to someone, in which i regret, i say sorry so that they know that i would not intentionally repeat that incident.

Though, if someones grandparents die etc, i don't do the whole 'sorry for your loss' etc, since i don't really give a shit. It doesn't effect me.

I don't ever 'feel bad' for someone, considering everyone has their own problems that they should get over themselves.

 

That's exactly how i feel. I usually don't feel sorry, but i feel that because society usually says it, i say sorry for your loss.

 

So not feeling, but saying what someone wants to hear? Everyone does it.

I'll say "I'm sorry for your loss" at a funeral, when in real, I don't even know the person who died and to be honest I could rather less care. (Not in a rude way) but if someone I don't know dies, It doesn't greatly affect me.

 

Like most people on this topic, I don't usually fell empathy for someone's problems. I say comforting words to them and help them cope with their loss, but I don't feel any personal pain for their loss.

 

no feelings that a human can feel are useless because the only real things that humans accomplish in there lives are feelings and having kids.

 

I don't think so. The main reason we are here is because of reproduction and evolution, not our accomplishment.

 

only reason and also counting the human too (accomplish was a bad word though)

 

It's just the expected and polite thing to do. It's not like anybody actually gives a shit about it when they say it, unless it affects them closely.

 

You don't have to feel bad, but sometimes it's polite to pretend, and offer them your condolences.

 

The human too? Are you taking about feelings? Feelings had nothing to do with natural selection, just instinct and the ability to think.

 

I agree with you TJ. It is pretty useless, but unless I do something really bad to the person to cause it, I don't usually say sorry.

 

A lot of people call me "emotionless", so I dunno. I generally fake most interaction with people, for the sake of having friends. Usually something has to be genuinely funny to get a real laugh out of me, and something needs to upset me for me to genuinely feel sorry for them.

 

Yeah, im usually one to be called emotionless. Like unless the action involves me, i usually don't care. Poor kids dying in africa? I don't care. Oh, your grandma died? It happens. Stuff like that.

 

People actually say that about me a lot too. It's not necessarily because I'm unmotivated or apathetic, or even emotionless at all, it's just because I feel like certain things don't deserve my full attention and response. When I get into something, then yes, I will be animated about it.

 

I think it is, unless you believe in Karma.

 

If karma did exist, then why would there be karma because you don't care about something? thats a bit ridiculous.

 

even if you don't feel sorry for someone, you ussually say it so the other person feels better.

 

Do you honestly feel any better if someone says sorry for your loss? For me, it makes me mad because im aware that they probably don't care.

 

This. I generally don't flaunt my problems like most people do. I'm more of a crying on the inside kind of person, because nothing anybody says can make most situations better.