For my friend.

This is for the my Best Friend. In the world. Since forever.

Her and her boyfriend, a good couple, they go great together. Fight, a lot. I mean big fights, and they break up at least twice a month. (Abusive fights too) I'm officially tired of it. So please answer this poll and let me show her and see what she thinks about it.

Comment too, I've tried to tell her that she and him should just go spererate ways. She cheats on him anyways it's not going to last. But she won't listen to me, so maybe if I have a ton of other people chime in she might come to her senses.


(EDIT) They just broke up again tonight. And I think they're making up already...

They're also engaged >.>

 

If you were a real friend you wouldn't be asking a bunch of internet pricks for opinions. Act as a real friend should act like.

There's no guidance for you here.

 

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  It's not guidance for me, it's for her.

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  What else am I supposed to do, I've tried talking to her with her other friends and family.

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  This is a last resort.

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  It's better not to comment if it isn't advice or constructive critism that is revolving around the point of my thread.

 

Unresolved separation will be worse, so no. Perhaps they should discuss separating while still being friends.

 

Unresolved seperation is worse than this which has been going on for over a year now? It's just hurting her worse each time this happens. I see nothing good that can come of the two being together.

 

OK. Things I notice.

• Have you considered her feelings?

Maybe she REALLY cares about this guy, so she's willing to put up with all of the crap that goes on.

• Well, obviously the man has anger issues..

If he's abusive in the relationship with her already,
could you imagine the rage he'd be in if she broke up with him?

• Maybe, she won't leave him, out of fear/paranoia.

She could be so scared into the relationship, maybe he's threatened her, if she has tried to leave before?

One last thing:

• Perhaps you're trying to break them up, so you could get a shot?

Well.. It seems you care a lot about her, possibly you have feelings towards her, and just want her for yourself, when you know she's already in a relationship with somebody else.. And that drives you crazy.

These are my thoughts, don't flame, or respond with a ridiculous "OMFG> I DONT LIKE HER! GIRLS ARE GROSS" or some stupid comment along those lines.
And really.. If you wanted to help her.
Do something about it.
Don't just stand by and let her get abused, confront the man..
You have no problem posting this situation on the internet, might as well speak to the damn guy.

-Influenza

 

wow oh

 

It's not really a good thing to discuss about this here on Sythe, because we are just strangers, and some members here are just jack-offs

So, for serious things like this- ask your parents? ask your other good friends? ask your relatives? stuff like that would help instead of getting an advice from us

The reason why I voted yes was because what is a point of a relationship when their are always fights? especially if their is physical abuse just like Tyro said, then they relationship should end immdeiately. no comment. end.

 

so your friend is going to take action on the outcome of this poll, knowing that it's been answered by some faggots and kids who have never even kissed a girl in their life?

 

If they actually hit each other, tell them real couples don't physically fight. If she doesn't realize then, leave her ass and let her ruin her life.

 

If they are finding ways to come back together, they would make a great couples. Life is just not about being together...there will be break-ups but the good ones are the ones that find a way to come back together. Its very important...so, you should leave em be.

 

Yes I have, But this is not just for her, it's for the boyfriend too. He's also my friend, and I can see that this relationship is ruining him too.
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Not really, he's pretty rational about the stuff, it's her that over-reacts and starts most things.

She's the abusive one >.>

No, I've known her since I was born, and she's not my preferred gender.

As Said above, she's the abusive one. It sounds funny at first, but she's sent him to the hospital before.

As I SAID ABOVE This is a last resort, I've done the stuff you listed. This isn't going to help if she reads this and see's stuff.

Please people, if this is all you have to say I really don't want to hear it.

He's never hit her



And as for the girl. I didn't want to say any of this to offend her, but she really isn't mentally stable. She has temper issues, along with bipolar disorder, and if she gets mad she blacks out and doesn't remember what she does. I've experienced this stuff first hand.

 

Internet forum posters opinions will significantly change her opinion about a serious relationship?


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She's an impressionable person, and I wouldn't call it a serious relationship. She'd believe it IF people would actually JUST POST THEIR OPINION about her situation INSTEAD of this crap.

 

IS your friend the guy or the girl? Because the girl seems like a real bitch to cheat on him, hit him, etc.
Tell the guy that she is cheating on him, it's the right thing to do. If not, just tell the girl that compatible couples don't break up twice a month.

 

They are both my friends, I'm just closer to the girl. Way closer.