Depressed as fuck, now what?

Aight, so me an my lady have been dating since January 12th, 2009. We started getting sexually active and she got pregnant. She is about 3 months pregnant, and we were madly in love, so I moved in with her and her parents. I had lived there for about 3-4 months. About a week ago my lady kicked me out cuz we had been getting in arguments constantly, and it was putting too much stress on both of us, then last night she's like, "Hey can we stop dating for a while? I don't want to break up but I think we need to stop dating. At least for now." And I'm like "ummm wth? you have OUR kid... as much as i don't want to, if you think it's for the best, then i guess so." I still love her, and always will, but I dunno, I jus feel like shit. Anyone have some advice to get my mind off this until we are dating again? Would be much appreciated. Thanks.

 

Man that would be REALLY Hard, especially as she is carrying your kid. Man im not sure what to do, just don't do anything stupid stressing over it

 

If shes pregnant. DONT PISS HER OFF.

 

Perhaps taking steps to de-stress yourself would be a good place to start. Try things like Yoga or picking up a hobby that you enjoy. I also would say that couples counseling sounds like a necessity if you are having problems in your relationship. I've always found that a professional, third party opinion is sometimes better to have. In all honesty, she should not have a problem with counseling, because after all, she is carrying your child. If she does though, then seeing a counselor on your own and talking about those issues could help you find a viable solution to the current issues.

In short, I think it's necessary to get your mind of the subject to some extent, but it's bad to act like it's not there at all. You should be proactive in finding a solution, not hiding away to find out if she still wants to date later on.

Hope that helps and good luck.

 

I would definently try being way nicer to her, and def. watch what you say cuz pregnant women are very very moody

 

Yeah, I walk basically EVERYWHERE I go, soz I get some exercise. And I've tried talking to her but it doesn't work. For Example, today[6/10/2009] we went to go find out the gender of our baby and I got there a bit earlier, and she walked in with 2 friends (there's only 2 people allowed in the visiting room at once) which I was ok with, but they ALL walked past me like I wasn't there, or like I didn't even exist. I asked her if I could go in the appointment and have one of her friends stay out, she said 'ok', and we're sitting in the room waiting for the doctor, and she was having a conversation with her friend, and when I'd say something, or try to start a conversation she would ignore me, or act like I never said anything.
So I was like 'Fuck this.' and left. It hurt so bad, that she wouldn't even notice my existence. I texted her to at least tell me the gender when she found out. And I'm gonna be having a daughter.

But yeah, this shit sucks so bad. And tbh, I have been smoking more as well as cutting to relieve stress.

Thanks, I love that song too.


EDIT: I posted a bulletin on myspace about this shit too, and here's what one of my friends said which is some GREAT advice. It's hella long so I wouldn't reccomend reading the whole thing...

 

I know it sounds retarded, but classes you can take together are great for bonding. Yoga, parenting, stress relief, look up some couples classes for things in your area.

 

Use Condoms.

 

I doubt we'll ever be back together by the looks of it.

A little late for that...

 

two things play runescape smoke weed...enough said.

 

start working out, best thing to get your mind off things and it'll help you sleep

 

ahahha sucked in!
u fucked ur life up hahahhaahahah u got a kid..lmao

 

How about weed and Guid Wars? It helps, but the pain is still there afterwards...

Thanks, Been trying it, and I've been sleeping a little better, but not by a whole lot.

 

Dude i feel really bad for you but whatever you do just be their for the baby even if your having problems with your girl.


i suggest haveing sex with another girl to get ur mind off of the other girl

 

just keep smoking weed mayun

 

This girl is the immature one from the sound of it. Not wanting to start dating, when she's having a fucking kid with you? She's fucking retarded. Just start ignoring her and she'll realize she needs you in her life. Trust me. Girls love hard to get.

 

Second that

Yeah just like take time away from her give her time to think about this stuff, then when its closer to the birth date, come, help out, take her to doctor visits [if you can drive] but untill then just rest talk on the phone. . .etc

Good Luck bro

 

Time to zip up the pants and hop the train man, hopfully she only got your first name.

 

LOL rune LOLOL.

 

i know people say this a lot, but go jog a few miles, it seriously makes you feel really good.
if you play an instrument, go play some music, if you don't, go learn one, i don't know why but it takes your mind off everything.