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  1. Unread #1 - Apr 12, 2009 at 9:52 PM
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    My girlfriend and I have been going out for about a month, and everytime we talk on the phone or through texts I don't know what to talk about. It's usually like "I miss you" and "I love you" texts. Like, we can't get a conversation started. Like, sometimes I can get a decent conversation in but is it because I'm not really opened up to her? I never really had a hard time talking to anyone, I love this girl, yeah we've been going out for a month but I've known her for about a year.

    Any suggestions?
     
  3. Unread #2 - Apr 12, 2009 at 9:54 PM
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    I have the same situation lol, i love you and i miss you texts are good tho. haha, i think its just we dont have a topic to talk about so we say that lol
     
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    Yeah, but most of the time it's like that. It's not really common that we have a long conversation going.
     
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    Same with me tho, i guess its just life? lol
     
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    We're both like that.. and I feel like we don't even know each other.
     
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    Talk about your runescape goals and accomplishments. or try to start a convo about school and what type of sports shes into and tell her like i hate this one teacher and blah blah blah..
     
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    She doesn't play RuneScape. She's all I've ever wanted though.. and I always compliment her, I think I over do it though. Like I've never been so close with a girl before.
     
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    You've known her for a year and you don't know what she's interested in?

    Surly you must know something just get her talking. Or talk about yourself tell her some random thing about your life and it'll go from there.

    Don't kid yourself. She's not that close to you if you can't make basic conversation, and don't compliment her unless you very sincerely mean it.

    Possibly useful guide:
    http://www.sythe.org/showthread.php?t=426187
     
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    Well, I haven't really talked to her much in that year, I've really just started to get to know her.

    But thanks for the tip.

    EDIT : I don't really know how to say what I meant to say, but I haven't really known her for a year, but like, I've talked to her a lot, I fell in love with her personality, and we started dating.

    I don't know how to explain it. ;x
     
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    Well im 17 i never had a girlfriend lol. I get asked a lot but i never try to become a bf i just tend to go to proms and parties but lets say your around your best friend what would you talk about? usually i have a lot of friends that like different things and i tend to split it up..

    like 1..we talk about school..and what we got like grades don't know him much
    2nd one...we talk about sports a lot and stuff
    3rd..we talk about games like runescape/call of duty...super smash bros and what not we argue whos best..

    so not all of my friends are the same different things each one likes so try asking her what she likes to do and maybe you can take her to something related to what she likes and start a random convo about your past...like for me i hid inside a fridge at the age of 5 for 4 hours until my parents found me..

    I have also known this one girl since 2nd grade...known her for 9 years now we talk to each other always about volleyball she plays it i play it..just start something that you both like may be hard at first..
     
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    What's her AIM name and I'll get you plenty of things to talk about, I'll make no mention of you.
     
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    Yeh, my girlfriends a gamer, which I think is pretty cool. We used to talk about that and then kinda stopped. I guess it's just lack of interest, I don't know. Thanks for the tips.

    EDIT : She doesn't go on AIM/MSN/Yahoo/ICQ etc.
     
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    What, she's not much of a girl then?

    What's her phone number I'll text her.
     
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    Lol, just because she likes games doesn't mean she's not a girl. I've always wanted a girl who enjoyed games as much as I do, we share a lot in common.

    I can't give you her phone number, that's too much.. sorry.
     
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    Naw I mean that she doesn't go on instant messengers.

    Lool yeah, but I'd do it anyway.
     
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    Oh, well she has aim but never goes on. xD
     
  33. Unread #17 - Apr 13, 2009 at 12:14 AM
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    Stranger things happen to me. Oftentimes when I have no idea what I'm going to say to someone, and I know the time we're going to spend together is going to be awkward, it turns out completely the opposite because I spend 20 or 30 minutes talking about the introcacies of the same thing (introcacies was the best word I could think of lmfao) but yeah conversation just forms out of nothing. Make that happen. Talk about whatever you can think of, trust me it always works out
     
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    I had this same problem with my last girlfriend.

    Just try to talk to her as if she's a friend, at the same time be a little flirty.
     
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    Cut yourself.

    You'll have something to talk about.
     
  39. Unread #20 - Apr 13, 2009 at 12:40 AM
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    Find a common interest.

    Then you can talk about that thing that you both are interested in. Conversations on a common interest can last hours

    Other than that just talk about what you did that day, ask what she did that day.

    Stuff like that, just talk about anything, its better than nothing. Generally once you start a conversation, no matter how pathetic it is, it'll get a lot better once you mention something that you both can relate to.
     
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