Is it wrong to want to change for a girl?

Well idk if this is something I should ask or just do by making my own mind up. I just wanted yalls thoughts as I think I love the girl but can't do some things around her if Iwas with other girls or can't just make jokes alot when I'm around her..she's very prep and a model tbh she's out of my league..but we have a good thing..but I feel I'm pushing good friends away to be with her..

 

she should love you for you, you shouldn't have to change for anymore.

 

Umm, interesting question. If she don't like you physically than she doesn't. You can't change it. Because when you change yourself she'll be like wow, that's weird. And she won't think of you as a friend and not a boyfriend. Don't take advantage of your friend relationship.

 

exactly, dont change for anybody... find somebody who likes you for who you are, not who they want you to be

 

It's not wrong and you can... but I wouldn't do it. Just be yourself and that will bring out the best in everything. ^_^

 

Agreed.

If she wants you to change, it means she doesn't like the way you currently are.

 

Actually yes, it is wrong. Pretending to be someone you're not just for the satisfaction of another person.

You need to tell her, "this is who i am, if you're not satisfied with it, then please don't waste my time"

 

dont change for her. dont lose your other mates over her either. Because you and her might have a fall out and then you might be left with no one.

 

Ya.. like anyone would say that..

It depends, how hot is she?

Kidding.

Your personality is who you are, and I guess from what i read you like to joke a lot, and if you have to change your personality a bit and be different around her than that's kinda dumb and unfair.

But it's also not so bad, you always have different personalities with other people, some you can have serious conversations with, some you just joke around with all the time.

I don't know, i don't see it as a really bad thing, but i mean if it starts to go too far, say you have to completely change who you are, or you just really start losing your friendship with your friends. Then just ditch out on her, it's not worth it.

Just actually try out being who you are and joke around a lot, if she doesn't like it, then maybe she's not the right person to be with.

But you say you two have a good thing.

So i don't know, good luck man.

 

It depends. Don't change in the aspect of losing your friends and such. It really depends what you are talking about when you say "Change". But having a girlfriend is one of the best things in the world, so some things I would recommend changing, if they need changing. It's worth it.

 

Well I used to be fat, i got in better shape for her, i used to eat meat, i dont because of her, i used too wear w/e now i go name brand, but tbh i think shes worth it, it just i dont think i should have change competely...

 

Listen to the wannabe surfer...

Not, take his advice if you want her to think you're a dumb ass.

You used to be fat, and you got in shape (For her), no, for your own personal health. The meat thing, that's retarded, someone isn't going to say "I don't love you because you eat meat".... The name brand thing, that's a bunch of shit hun... Yea, name brand is good.. But she shouldn't judge you by the way you dress. She obviously isn't worth what you assume she's worth..

I'm sorry, but this is ridiculous, she shouldn't care what or how you dress, you don't love someone for the way the dress or look, you love them for who they are as a person, and if that person cant accept that then she is obviouslyy a dumb ass school whore. Sorry for the truth.

 

You should always be yourself, keep it real. Although some things I beleive you should change for others like bad habits etc.

IMO
Getting in shape for her is cool although I think getting in shape should be something you do for yourself. No need to go vegetarian unless she can't stand to be around meat, or if you married her lol. Wearing name brand because of her is definitely too much; you just need to look respectable.

 

lol I like the way you said it. Although most people get in shape to be more attractive I agree it should be for self and health

 

Well I can always make her laugh and that makes my day, even if it sucked I fall back on her laugh..I've been thinking sometimes you have to seperate yourself from some things/people in order to go forward..

 

Way to shit on me, lol.

But how can you say i'm a wannabe surfer....

Whatever, listen to this bitch.

 

im sorry, i take back what i said about the wannabe surfer, but not about you're advice.

You made me laugh though xD

 

It's not wrong at all to change to get what you want. Everyone does it, either concisely or not.

But before you go do something drastic make sure you can pull it off.

 

no cuz then ur a poserrrrrrrr

 

I believe people need to change a bit for each other but not a whole personality. I don't think anyone is completely perfect for each other and are happy with all your habits.

If you have to change too much for her than don't do it but if its just some small things then i'd do it.