Why do I have no friends and why am I bullied?

ON BEHALF OF MY COUSIN:


Hi Everyone,


At my school, I am unknown. I am bullied, and get called a loser, and some other insults associated with my black skin, which I do not want to mention. I don't see why I have no friends, and everyone bothers me, I am as normal as the other kids. The only difference is that I have autism, and have asthma. I want to be friends with people, but they ignore me. It feels like I am a ghost. Nobody ever talks about me, unless it is a subject of ridicule. Please tell me what I am doing wrong and how to make them stop bulling me!!:'(

 

Hmm. If someone bullies me, I usually beat them. You could try talking to people, like go sit by someone and try to start a conversation. If you don't talk to people you won't make friends. Idk what else I could say, sorry i'm not much help.

Show people that your a good kid, and your nice. Make friends with someone thats friends with other people. Once you start hanging around people, you make more friends. >.>

 

Go shoot them all. LOL JK

Anyways just keep being nice to them. Help them with Homework, if you're smart let them copy your test. You would be my best friend if you did those things for me. :love:

 

It must be very acute autism.

 

Try to be funny, and if they bully you cuss them or beat them up

 

Ok first of all I need more info like what grade you are in, what are the demographics of your school, and what part of the country your school is in.

You say you have autism, from which i can assume that you may be a quiet kid and not really talk much and do things repeatedly. Or maybe a bunch of racist bastards go to your school. I need more information about you and your school before I can really help you.

Helping people with homework, like many people here suggested, does not work. People will fake being nice to you and liking you just so you would help them get their homework done.

But what I did to climb up my school's social ladder is study social theory and observe the social structure of my class to find out how to become "popular". This required me to change my whole personality, which was extremely difficult and took a very long time. I just started talking to people and cracking jokes and found out what worked and what didn't, but by the time I found out how shit works it was time for college and now life is great.

 

i dont think your doing something wrong.
But you should be more helpfull(And I DONT mean to let them copy your home work etc..*)
just when they need help you can help them . even if you just need to explain something about a lesson.

*I dont think "let they copy your homework" is a good idea.
then they just will be your ""friend"" for the homework .

thats all i can say

 

^ What comes around, goes around.

Maybe it's the way you act, if you act sorta pushy and insecure when you're around people it makes them sort of.. intimidated? I can't think of a better word for that anyways.

If you be yourself smiley and nice (if that's what you are) then people will think you're more approachable, thus making you more friends.

 

Agreed.

 

first off you have to be cool and not think stuff like this because if you do you are probably a loser, second do/say something funny. Third don't tell guys your feelings or make excusses for sucking at things like: I have asthama or I have autism, although you do and it's not funny or should not be made fun of, kids will hate you if you use it as an excuss. Lastly play a sport such as track or football(NOT SOCCER! IT WILL MAKE YOU EVEN MORE UNCOOL). If those don't work pm me.
p.s. Don't dress Emo!!

 

look bro people might not know you maybe becuase your shy or something right?, just be coo i have asthma too so asthma dont matter be cool talk to people find out what they are interested at and become more knowledgeble then them. this can make u popular, or go to dances parties etc.

 

agreed, go to the school dance or w/e and grind with as many girls as possible

 

Just don't take their shit. The only way possible for you to gain friends is to punch one of those guys.

Right now your probably the most disliked kid at school. So no one wants to be friends with you, if they become friends with you then they'll get bullied as well.

Always in a group of bullies theres that "tag along kid" the guy no one likes, generally pretty weak and just hangs around them for protection. Thats the guy you want to punch, because when you punch him, no one else will care they'll just think its funny.

After that when they see you they won't tease you. They'll go "lol, theres that kid that punched (whatever his name is)" and they might instead be like "nice work dude, that was pretty funny". Then you'll start getting some friends.

 

befriend 1 person and befriend that person's friends

 

Well, if they are "making fun" of you just because you have autism or the colour of your skin that is completely inapropriate. Some of the suggestion's that I see stated above would not really help. Just hitting someone doesn't take the problem and make it dissapear. Create a reputation, "go along with the flow" even though most people suggest that you don't follow others and become a leader I would become a "follower" in this situation.

On another point of view, does everyone know you have autism? It sounds like you might have some depression and it seems like you would like to talk to someone. I would suggest going to see someone, there may be a school therapist you could talk to or you could get one out of school. They would give much greater advice since they have the expertise. They can help you with your problem and that is what I suggest for you %100. You may be scared to go but in the long run it WILL help. Trust me.

 

Agreed. Believe it or not, this is the only way to gain respect from bullys.
Either you beat one up, or you remain a victim, untill they get tired of you, or somehow grow up, which I very much doubt they will.

 

When kids didn't like me for no reason and they were bigger than me and I couldn't do anything about it, I just ignored them when they tried to say something bad toward me, and they eventually stopped.

 

Start by not listening to any of this advice.

 

Lets hear yours then?

 

I vouch for this method, I was bullied upto year 7, as soon as I hit year 8, I beat the crap out of anyone who bullied me... never got bullied again