Advice: Big time crush on a girl

So she just likes the attention. Could be. Girls are fucked huh...

 

I actually was in a fairly similar situation to this, pm me your discord if you want to hear my story which is kind of similar (she wasn't friends with any of my relatives or close friends is pretty much the main difference). I ended up letting go and now, 5 years later I'm in the 4th year of a happy relationship with someone else.

 

Andy literally said everything I was thinking.

Be yourself Syfiends, you're a great dude so theres no reason to why she wouldn't like you.
Don't be afraid to talk to her or ask her out in the future. Be confident and don't get nervous when you're talking to her, don't push it yet with any comments that can make it awkward again.
Honestly what I'm trying to say is be yourself and no one else when you're talking to her. Take everything off your mind, take a deep breath and do your thing buddy.

Also another thing, don't constantly message her if she doesn't want to talk, give her some space. You can probably ask your sister to talk to her about you if that's something you'd prefer.
You know you can always PM me if you need someone to talk too <3

 

Thats great news man, keep at it show her that she's not the only girl & that your not desperate or needy for her attention! Keep it up bro!

 

My old crush was the same, she literally admit to a mutual friend that she "kind of" liked me because of the reason that I still like her for 2 years. We never really became friends, not even talked once because I was very shy of her and my shyness just built up bigger as time goes on so it's practically impossible now lol. She found out I liked her not too long after I asked her name from someone we both know that was 2 years ago and I still liked her until last year. Kind of disappointing on my part though because last year was the opportunity for me to get to know her because we both attend the same class but she turns out to be a very different person than what I expected her to be and she's also very passive agressive while I'm the complete opposite and I expected a lot of her because she was basically trying to catch my attention everytime she knows I'm around, turns out she just liked the thought that someone likes her but I think my judgment isn't good because we never really got the chance to be friends. She is attractive but no where near 8/10 in hollywood standard lol but still attractive.

Somewhat not related to your situation OP and I can't give you the best advice here since everyone have pretty much said what I had in mind too. It's good that you were giving your attention to other women too because on my situation I only had all of my attention to my old crush and it fucked me up real good and it's probably something I will still regret 5 years later (disappointment that she turns out to be a very different person)

 

Any update on this ? @Syfiends

 

@Syfiends should keep us posted on this..

Anyway, I’ve been in a solid relationship for 4 years now. It’s been ages since I were single but I’ll do my best to help ya out.

Girls really ain’t that complicated, if the situation were reversed and she had a crush on you; and you were unaware about it, ask yourself: how would I like to get approached?

That is what you gotta do. Just be easy with her, send her a message ask whats up, ask her out? But do NOT overcommit, girls hate guys that r desperate. Just be really easy and gentle, don’t message her 24/7, don’t ask her out more than once a week.

Girls want more once they get it, thats why you gotta pretend like you’re into her, but not too much into her. Know where I’m coming from? They want what they cannot have.

To summarize; don’t overcommit, be easy, be honest and don’t hestitate asking, be reserved, show her you’ve got a life outside of her once u start dating and that (girls LOVES busy guys)

If you need more advice hmu on discorf Hex#1245 always happy to help with stuff like this

 

don't be pushy

 

Honestly, I was in this situation a long time ago. I had a huge crush on my sisters friend. Showed no interest in me. I eventually ignored her and wah-la, a year later she was snapchatting me, giving me hugs when we saw each other, I just blew her off. Don't want me when I'm on the ground, don't expect me to come after you when I get up. I was depressed, fat and lazy, got my shit together, and all of a sudden she wanted me. Stay away bro.

 

Your not gonna find better advice than this

 

So update on this,

She's back from living abroad for a semester and from the stuff she posted and from what my sister has kept me updated on what she's been up to. It looks like she kinda turning into a hippie (not that big of a deal i've been in relationships with hippies). She dresses like one, talks about the power of love and how it is the "strongest and most important force in the universe "

I started dating another girl and that's when i recieved those sudden likes to my photos when i last updated you guys, was weird. Unfortunately things only lasted for 2 months with that other girl i dated. She was 19 but she was a little too young and immature for me.
I started dating this other girl in December, really cute and hot solid 8/10. I had some problems with her i could tell she had emotional baggage and caught her a couple of lies so i decided to break up with her. On the same week i decided i wanted to cut off this other girl i get a like from crush on one of my old insta pics. I sent a dm asked her if she was back from abroad and said the following, "you were present in all of my trip now it's time to share with you" lets make some music together", messages to which i replied to with a nice date invitation that weekend.

Response? None. Left me on seen for like two days and then replied with "I am going through a transitional state from moving back home, i've been kinda sad lately and we shouldn't plan our date it should just be spontaneous"

Kinda just let me shook, she knows how i feel about her and i would like this stuff to be serious. I believed her and messaged her for a bit more, event sent her a songs i wrote for her on my guitar on V-day, real romantic shit she seemed to be into but the replies have been short and vague.

I've kinda interacted with her for maybe 3 weeks now since she came back and it's like an on/off thing with her. She replies to some of my insta stories and randomly asks me what zodiac sign i am.

The thing that happened today that made me come reach out to you guys again was the fact that she got kicked out of her house maybe around a week ago and has been couchsurfing on her friends houses, she told me she had been out and got too drunk, bs. I talked to her about it the other day and said that she was allowed to go back home but she didn't want to because she wanted to be independent which makes no fucking sense because she's still in school.

Anyways, today my sister tells me that crush had asked my sister if she could stay at my place for a bit.

And i said nah. Did i just cockblock myself? I'm starting to believe that this girl is not who she says she is.

Whats your take on this?

 

Nah fuck that you don’t want her getting this free pass and becoming a user and using you for all your shit.. it all depends if you want to waste ur time with this girl or actually find someone that’s compatible and more interesting

 

Yeah I know what she's doing is wrong. But i do believe she's just hurt. I'll stay away from now and maybe try in the future when she's better.

 

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Did she express interest in you prior to getting kicked out? And has it intensified ever since she got kicked out?

If she is genuinely into you then theres not much at stake, you just gotta find out if this is your type of girl qnd what you are looking for.

Personally she does not sound like my cuppa tea lol.

 

No she hasn't, the only reason she told me all of that was because i sent het a song on V'days.