bully problem

so... I got an interesting situation. I'm stuck in a living situation with an abusive asshole. He's toxic as fuck. He's physically assaulted me couple times. threatened my life. trashed my bedroom. chased me down the street , driven me out of my own home.

I called the police last time he chimped out and nothing came of it.

wut do

 

I REALLY wann move but don't have one dollar saved. he is a lot stronger. I'm more androgynous.

interesting thing is he only gets tough in the house. he'll chase me out of the house but won't follow me outside.

 

This is a tough one when you're in a unhelpful financial situation.

For now I'd say report him any time he touches you so that if it gets bad enough, there will be a known history of reports made on him. Hopefully it doesn't get worse. Abusive people will continue to abuse if they are able to, and I know the law doesn't really help ever in these situations until there's a broken bone or something more serious. Even then it can be unlikely they will do anything, especially if you have to live there.

Start saving now. Do you know anyone else you can live with, perhaps temporarily 1-2 months until you can save up money to move? I'd even settle for sleeping on a friend's couch than living with this guy. If you have any family too, check with them if they have a spare bedroom or don't mind you crashing on the couch for a while. I'd move back home if I could. Literally any other living situation that is possible or slightly possible, check into it.

 

the guy is family. ye when I called the police the one time I wassurprised how ineffective they were. my bedroom floor was literally covered in glass. he smashed the glass desk. I also had glass bottles on a shelf which he smashed as well. they did nothing.

I had poor quality of life for months and have been trying to build myself up.

thanks for advice.

I have no phone no car no savings

 

forgot to mention he got violent with brother and verbally attacked my mother so that's just the type of person he is.

 

charlotte add my on skype?

happened again

>guy chimps out
>banging on bedroom wall 4am
>go to leave house
>he chases me down road
>go to pharmacy
>dial 911
>police come drive me home
>officer is considering arresting him
>bedroom door busted
>officer doesn't arrest him
>he chases me out of house again
>sleep at grocery store
>have some beer
>bedroom wall is gone and door missing

what do i do

 

If your personal safety is at risk try getting a job and moving out and getting a roommate situation? All you can do now is help yourself, i would recommend you finding a job somewhere and trying to find someone that can house you. What country is this in?

 

How did this situation of you living with him even come up?
Staying in a household like that isn't safe, and I think you shouldn't tolerate it, because it will just get worse over time. If there's any chance you could find a job and renting out an apartment, if money is a problem, try finding roommates who you could rent out a place to live in.

 

Restraining order. And leave asap.
Don't let others toxic moods and life destroy yours.
Ive learned from this

 

How do I get restraining order on a person that lives in the same house?

willing to pay for any solid advice

z1ren: he's brother,

no money saved

 

bravos:

live in US

currently work online so have to be home to work...

 

Who's name is on the lease or property?

 

It sounds like mental illness of some sort, and unfortunately you won't be able to fix somebody like that. Whether they're addicted to drugs that may lead to them doing this, or have mental issues to lead to extreme rage... Maybe one of these times they'll get arrested, but even then that sounds only temporary. You'll have to be proactive and motivated to leave.

 

picked up on the bipolar vibe. mother name on house.

 

I suggest acquiring a job that gets you out of the house, so you don't have to deal with him so often.
Then, I urge to start saving until you have enough for a month's rent. Browse craigslist and look for a roommate. If you're worried for your mother and brother then express your concern to them both. They may have more power and authority than you think. If you physically fight back, you'll lose so you need to think of a different way to overpower him--mentally. I understand that the cops are borderline useless, but if they keep receiving calls when your "guy" is going ape shit...he will be taken away.

 

good lord problem is still persisting

 

problem persisting

 

Definitely keep a log of whatever happens without telling him in case you need to get legally involved. Best of luck brotha.

 

@Blue Jasmine sorry to hear man. I know it might be frightening but don’t allow him to bully you. Bullies r cowards, they prey on the weak so don’t put yourself in a position where you are helpless, because they will abuse it. Best advice I have is to either get law inforcement involved or to maybe call a friend over or something.