Personal support topic

I take friends to eat all the time..

it doesnt mean that you are dating.

 

That's you. And I doubt it's 1 on 1. You probably bring a friend along.

BTW- I saw a picture of you on faces of Sythe, I don't know how hot these "friends" of yours are. Most likely a reason why you take them out.

 

Um first of all, it is 1 on 1

we also go see a movie..its really nothing major if you are friends.

I do have some hot friends..and i have taken them to the movies, dinner, etc.

 

I didn't say I have a problem with the movies, but dinner rather.

And I'm not sure we're on terms about hot. You're definition may be a little different than mine...

Yours \/


EDIT: No more arguing. Back on topic before infractions fly in etc.

 

Like i said, if you take a person out to dinner it doesnt mean that you are going out with them

And, there is nothing wrong with the lady that you showed.

 

Whatever, not important.

PS-ROFL...you think the girl looks nice

One more thing, your reason for editing your post was "Grammer Mistake" LOL! Too funny!

 

Rooney ask her out now!!, girls don't like to make the first move and they certainly dont like to wait very long......ask her, the worste that can happen from asking is less harmful than not asking and not knowing what could have been....or watching her with some other guy... DUDE ASK HER OUT and post to let us know what happens

 

That's exactly what I don't want to do. Rush in and make it worse than a good friendship. If she's with another dude, then whatever. We're still friends. But if I ask her out and she says no, then the friendship goes down the drain. =\

We have a 3 day weekend, she'll be on AIM alot. I'll hint to it and see how it goes. =p

 

Nah not exactly..i asked a girl out she said she didnt like me like that, and we continued to be friends.

 

That's fine. But I'd rather not take your advice. No offense, you don't seem like you'd have the most sound relationship advice.

 

Well tell me this.....if she wasn't a girl would it still be as good a relationship..HELL NO right? the only reason you see it as being a good relationship is because you are attracted to her,... believe me leading yourself on...can only make things worse... and yeh dude take it slow.. hint at it, joke around about it...see what happens. Kind of talk about taking the relationship to the next level in code....

 

Yeh, it'd still be a good friendship. If you're not friends, then why get into a relationship with somebody? Friendship should be the basis of any love related relationship. And wtf do you mean "code" lol.

 

okay, I applied for helping you but I need some advice as well..

I seen in one of your posts you said long distance relationships don't work, well I'm going out with a girl and we've been going out for a month as of today, and she lives 4 1/2-5 hours away from me, people call me crazy but I like this girl, ALOT.

She used to live about 10 minutes away from my house but she moved up there last year officially, and we never really talked much untill she moved, shes seem to have made alot of mistakes in the past with other guys if you get what I'm saying, and well, it was all when she was drunk, I'm not the controlling type of boyfriend at all, but I told here when she comes down in 5 days for her spring break that she can't drink with any other guys, and I don't want her to hang out with any guys down here, because it seems as if she does she might end up doing something she will regret. I didn't want to sound like an utter dick when I told her, but I think that I did. I do trust her, but you can't exactly trust someone who gets really sappy when they're drunk, can you? Am I overeacting or am I just looking out for our relationship? I don't want to be controlling at all, and I don't want her to cheat on me at the same time.


EDIT: When she comes down for spring break, the majority of the time shes here I'll be back in school.

 

^^^^^ to the person above


thats tuff situation

but yea i would say this to her...i dont have problem with you drinking or hanging around other guys but i would rather be hanging out with you wen u do these things....which makes sense...you should b hanging out with ur gf

that way ur not too controlling...your letting her do wat she wants at the same time ull b there...so either it wont happen...or it will happen and you'll know about it

pls rate this advice 1-10
and lemme know how things work out

 

I think you have every right to be concerned. Alcohol cannot be used as an excuse to cheat one someone, when you drunk you still know what your doing and that its wrong. all alcohol does is lower your inhibitions, if she cheats on people when shes drunk, then she would prob think about it when shes sober. Your a cheater if your sober or not.

The best thing to do is to tell her exactly how you feel, if she does get all cranky and not want to listen then id say she isnt your type. Iv been in this situation before, I couldnt trust my girlfriend with alcohol because she couldnt even trust herself. i tried talking to her about it and she wouldnt listen, said i was being possesive. and of coarse that relationship didnt work, we where on and off for 1 year.

Also if things do go sour, its really not worth it. dont try and make someone into who you want them to be, you cant change people.
hope i help

 

i need help

las night around 2:30 am i was sitting in bed trying to go to sleep and my sis room next door( she is 16 yr old and im 19)she was snoring really loud for like half hour then out of no where she starts saying stuff in her sleep which she does all the time so i didnt worry about it

then all of sudden i here her get up walk over and open my door and walks a step in and says something about 'the back of the classroom' with this dazed look on her face, so i say wat r u doing go bac to bed. she then stares at me for a sec then says 'im going to sleep' and then goes back to bed and shes snoring 5 mins later

should i worry about this? cuz me and my sister dont get along at all actually a couple times she said 'i hope u die' to me(not in sleep)

is it possible for her to pick a knive and come in my room in her sleep?

im scared pls help

note: i dont have lock on my door and would feel uncomfortable asking for one.

 

me and her discussed the issues and shes not drinking when she comes down, and the only time she is is tomorrow the first day she comes down, with me of course, so me and her are drinking with some friends and it'll all be good, she understood it fully and listened, thank god.

thanks for the advice.

as for enjoi, don't worry about it, if you get to paranoid close your door at night and lock it, but other than that just don't worry about it, your sister did not mean she wanted you to die when she said it, it'll be fine.

 

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K well this is hard to explain and this is only the jist of it from my interpretation, also i have no clue how to respond to it since it just seems very very insane and it involves a very close friend's problems. He only recently confided in telling me this seeing as i moved away some years ago and have kept in touch regularly. Anywho, here goes:

He's been quiet throughout high school, him making fun of people was basically non-existent he just kept to himself yet people ridiculed and made fun of him and etc. during his teen years about his 'puberty acne', he had friends whom he said could be great at times but at most times, publicly, he would be the punchline of most 'jokes' if you can call them that. Most teachers said he was one of the brightest students they ever taught, he was good at most things he did, when he did them, which was rarely due to complete depression. Yet he is able to put on a smile and say he's ok when asked even when on the inside he is torn apart.

He's never had a girlfriend due to his shyness and such, and he has been alone basically all his life even with his family all around him. He wanted there to be one and only one girl in his life whom he could cherish and be beside for for the rest of his life, and vice versa, and he has strived after this even though he said he 'knew' that is not possible, "especially for me" he says. Don't get me wrong he's a decent looking guy but this is a result of some of the most fucked up things i have heard from him which have happened/occured within the past year or so.

Ok so, remember the mention of how he strived to have one single girl whom he wanted to cherish forever? Well on his 19th birthday there was a party and his so called friends took him over to one of their friends house and while he was drinking with them due to his confided trust in them, he blacked out and was taken advantage by a girl there, totally SMASHING his beliefs and values of what he wanted to happen, he said that he can no longer tell that special girl, if he ever meets her, that she is his first and hopefully only, It was only a 'BJ' that happened but it judt doesn't work with him.

Ok so that event above ^ on his 19th birthday doesn't sound so bad right?

Well take a look at this one. Ok, so he was at home and he was drinking by himself while his sister and her gay friend were out partying. So he gets wasted by himself since he doesn't really hang out with anyone anymore because he is receding from the world/people around him and because he is in the safety of his home. SAFETY OF HIS OWN HOME?! FUCK THAT SHIT. This next part pisses me the fuck off to no extent i mean like WHAT THE FUCK HOW COULD THIS HAPPEN TO A PERSON WHOSE BEEN NICE TO EVERYONE HE'S EVER MET (during those odd occasions when actual spoke to people, they thought he was pretty nice and 'ok') I MEAN LIKE HE'S ALMOST NEVER BEEN SHOWINGLY HATEFUL TOWARDS ANYONE, all he did was cry it out and confide in me and i would help him through it.

WELL, HERE'S WHAT HAPPENED

He passed out in his bed and YET FUCKING AGAIN he was taken advantage of by his sister's GAY ASS FUCKING FRIEND, he said that when he woke up his chest was red and had fucked up red bite marks on his chest and excuse my language but his Penis was wet and he was naked and His sister's friend was sleeping NEXT TO HIM, WHAT THE FUCK?!?!?! Well he went to have a shower and he said all he thought about in the shower was "why me?" "how could this happen?" and when he got out, the guy was gone and he was so ashamed to tell his sister what had happened until like 8 hours later. After he told her and showed her his chest and stuff, she was blown away.

Conclusion:
He said that he's been crying everyday since it has happened and all he thinks about is committing suicide most time of each day and how he can not bear to live life anymore. No lies, I even cry for him when i think about how fucking hard it must be for him to be able to live each day with what has happened to him and still be able to 'put a smile on'. I really don't know what to tell him to be able to put to rest these events. There's more things which have happened to him, too many things to list and it really is saddening to no extent. So yeah.....what do any of you think would be life-saving?

 

Gekkostate, you need to tell your friend to go to the police. He was sexually abused (and yes, this DOES happen to males, not just females) and the offender needs to be put to justice - not only because being a rape victim, your friend has the right to have a psychiatrist sponsored by the government, (depending on which country you are from) but also because the homosexual friend of his sister can repeat the crime towards someone else.