Friends & Drugs

Hey sythe,

So basically i smoke cigs from now and then and weed pretty regular but i dont drink.

Recently literally all my friends have been taking all kinds of drugs, even trying to get me to it. (im pretty stubborn and wont ever simply cus i now how easy i get addicted to things)

And i have been thinking alot. Is it my responsibilty to stop them? Im not going to name the drugs but some of you will know, its the typical stuff and it keeps getting more.

If yes, how the hell to i get at that? I already told them i dont think its good and they should take less/stop but they obviously dont care and think im just boring for being against it? And additionally 90% of those guys used to be just as against those kind of drugs as i am.. which makes me scared ill be there soon :/

 

So, first off, taking drugs under pressure of friends that do them too, is never a good idea, so keep true to that mindset and if you reach a point of curiosity where you do want to try them, do it in a safe environment.

Here's a relevant video:

Next, you need to realise you have no control over what your friends will do, you can tell them not to do something, or moderate their behaviour to a point that you deem acceptable, but its futile.

If you fear being dragged along by the behaviour of your friends and really don't want to be like them, it might benefit you to meet some new people. I'm not saying you should straight up lose touch with them completely, but you should consider yourself before trying to please others.

 

If it's not smack (Crack), Meth, Heroin... Don't worry about it. I did it all growing up with friends.
If anything join them! Some off my best years were spent doing some cool drugs. It's all part of growing up guessing your in your teens I'm 26 now and perfectly normal and fine no longer doing any drugs just social smoker/drinker. Most teens go through a drug phaze its when they are using drugs and no longer social that when the problems start or wanting to try something that is hardcore like the ones mentioned above

PS. Been watching southpark while writing this taking breaks its no massive but its enough to run off track and am too lazy to reread it.... *Not drug related*

 

If you don't want to do drugs and have refused multiple times, your friends should respect that.

 

I think i need to clarify, im fine with any kind of psychadelics and will do alot in the future. I take more issue with speed/ketamine and other stuff especially drugs you can easily overdose on..
Also the ones taking these actually hid it from me for weeks then as soon as i found out have basically been asking if i want to try everytime we meet.
Also some of my friends take party drugs to party but then there are others who take party drugs at home which is strange to me.

Yea thats what makes me worried, before they started there wouldve been 0 chance they try to get me to take drugs and now it nearly feels like they want to me take part so they feel better about the whole situation.

 

It's part of growing up. People do their own thing, everyone's their own man and you're not responsible for their actions. You can offer advice but beyond that you're not their parent or babysitter, you have no control over them and they'll do what they want to do. Sometimes you gotta let people fuck up, it's the best way to learn

 

I've tried all the "clean stuff". My personal advice would be to stay away from Speed, keta, etc. Those drugs have alot of chemicals and added shit to it, that will get you addicted quicker, and the after effects take longer. If you really want to try drugs, do cocaine, some weed etc. Those drugs are clean and come from a natural origin.

 

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As it's been mentioned above I won't elaborate mate its not on you to tell them what they can/can't do , yes you can offer advice and support but don't be suprised if it falls on deaf ears. Every other movie in production today idolises drug use , and the bottom line is it is to dumb down your average human and get them addicted to drugs . I've been there and got the t-shirt cocaine, mdma, acid, ketamine to name a few. Once you start that slippery slope prepare to battle for the rest of your life. I slip up every now and again , but I'm a human being and we learn from our mistakes .

 

Its much harder to get someone to stop who doesn't want to stop than to get someone to start who doesn't want to start.

If they're in to it, chances are your opinion wont change that. It's not your responsibility by any means but you can always try to voice your concerns.

And to be brutally honest, if you don't want to do it and have said so but are continually encouraged then you can't really call them good friends. It's one thing to do you and be in to what you're in to but you don't try and drag anyone else in to it who doesn't want to. Be clear on that.

Other people aren't you, dont worry about it.

 

Listen. The worst mistake I ever did was try drugs other than weed.

If these friends are making it seem like you're boring and a majority of your friend group is doing these drugs, get out. It might suck but get away from them. You'll end up in that situation eventually, it's bound to happen even if you don't believe you'll crack. I got sucked in by brother's friend group and it was a horrible mistake. One that lasted over a year and a half. It increased my depression and anxiety by an insane amount. I never thought I'd get over it.

You won't be able to change their minds. Let them ride it out. As bad as it sounds, you can't help. To them, it's fun, it's a thing to do. They don't see the bad side yet. When they do, the most you can do is be there for them and help them when they want to stop but don't feel like they can.

Also, as R said, they aren't good friends. But I do understand that drugs can control some people so this may not be their true colors. It's unfortunate.

Being alone is better than being an addict (whether physical or mental).

 

If your friends are trying to push you to do hard drugs, they aren't the friends you want in life. Make sure you let them know how you feel and if they're still pushing it, its best to push them out. I experiment, and I mean experiment with almost anything I can get my hands on but I'm not one susceptible to a drug addiction unlike most, and I'll tell you a lot of drugs will fuck you up and lots of people definitely can't handle it / cope not being on it. Its best to get a new friend group, which may suck but if they get consumed by drugs and are pushing it on others (you), they aren't the people you want in life.

 

Are these friends who you smoke weed with?

Most "friends" who you only blaze with are not friends. (nobody can convince me otherwise on this)

I've tried a lot of drugs and most I regret. It wasn't even worth the curiosity in most situations.

I also have an addictive personality and I wouldn't suggest getting involved in this 'drug culture'.

Only liberal hippy idiots are 'open minded' to these things, and it's an excuse for self destructive behaviour, and nothing more than cancer to the gene pool.

 

You shouldn't tell anyone how to live their lives. If someone wants to do something, even if it is self destructive it's their choice leave them to fuck their lives up. Remember that plenty of people still see people that smoke cannabis as low life losers in the same category as harder drugs, because when someone doesn't know about something they hate it based on how they are taught about those things.

Personally I've smoked weed for the past 5-6 years on a daily basis, week and month breaks on occasion to get a new better paying job, etc. And I would do Adderall / Shrooms / LSD given the chance but that's my limit. Lots of people are judgmental as shit, and those aren't people you like to hang out with, so if you are judgmental towards others who will want to hang out with you. At the same time don't put yourself into sketchy or uncomfortable situations just to hang out with your friends. If they are doing something you don't want to do, you don't have to do it, maybe they just offer to be polite.

 

Don't be friends with anyone who's addicted to hard drugs. They will steal and take advantage of you. They're not your responsibility, but they'll make it seem like you owe them. Cut they off quick. They will talk a lot of shit. Say bye to the haters and live a better life.

Smoke weed by yourself or with a someone you know you can trust.

 

Essentially trying to keep somewhat respect without seeming lame (as pathetic as it seems), give your mates shit about using, in a joking sense. getting peer pressured into using will lead to abuse of a substance, if you dont personally have a reasoning or make the choice to consume a substance steer clear from it.

 

Definitely don't give into any kind of peer pressure, people who want to bring out the worst in you aren't true friends. My suggestion is that if you do give into their pressure that you at LEAST do it in complete moderation, and don't take any highly addictive drugs (Heroine, Cocaine, Meth, etc). Best of luck!

 

Listen man I know I'm late to the discussion it's not your job to be their moms. If my best friend or girlfriend was starting to develop a drug habit I would step in but otherwise they'll just end up resenting you. Don't give into peer pressure, know your limits. Any actual friend isn't going to be mad at you if you don't do their drugs, and if they are-- or if they become actual addicts I would consider leaving then. Personally when I'm around people doing coke I'll just get drunk and pretend to act more pumped than I am lmao. Most of the time it's not as scary as it seems though-- the kind of people who are going to steal money from their friends for drug money and shit are few and far between. You don't usually meet these kind of people in college you dig?

 

hi man ultimately its their own choice to do so.

i myself have personally taken a many of drug but if its when your not even going out that could be a problem.

just either join in or ditch em