Is it okay to want to be a stay at home dad?

So, I guess I've been wanting to know this for a while now.. I know it kinda sounds weird, but I peronally think being a stay at home dad would be great. I am would love knowing I'm the one being there for my kids.. when the time comes obviously. Just kinda curious as to everyone else's thoughts..?

 

Of course. Don't be intimidated by gender norms.

 

Apart from what I gather you perceive to be a stigma, why wouldn't it be okay?

 

Hey, theres nothing wrong with being a stay at home dad. These days are all about gender equality and getting rid of old social norms. If you make less than your significant other, i dont see why not. its actually more common than you think.

 

It's always been really bizarre to me that people /still/ think that it's more a woman's job than a man's. If you helped create a child, you better help raise it. Nothing's wrong with being a stay-at-home dad; if it's what you're happy doing and you can afford to not work a full time job while raising kids, that's great.

 

Never liked the idea of that. There is no stability financially. If the person who is working loses their job, you're basically fucked if you aren't working yourself. This often creates anxiety and loss of self-esteem from the person who stays home with the child. Not to mention you may spoil the child, making it harder for said child to integrate into daycare with caretakers and children. To answer your question, no it's not weird at all.

 

If one's partner can maintain financial sustainability without support from the other partaking in income-generating activities, I think the idea is completely all right regardless of the gender.

 

If anyone tells you no and you shouldn't do it, you should promptly tell them to fuck off. It is 100% okay and it is a personal decision. Any resistance based purely on the sex of the individual is ridiculous.

Now, it is also a big personal decision and it should be weighed heavily, but I hardly think you can argue that spending more time and raising your child is a bad decision; furthermore, cost of actual childcare is outrageous in many places. It could very well be cheaper and a better decision for you to be a stay at home dad while the significant other works (again would need to be discussed between you all).

 

I can expand on this answer if you like, but the short answer is: not really.

Although there is nothing particularly wrong with having that desire, the problem is executing it. Ultimately, I think your partner (assuming a woman) will simply find you less attractive (because you're a stay-at-home dad), and you'll find yourself in an unhappy relationship. That could end in divorce if married, or a break-up. The relationship would probably work however if you ran an online business or something similar on the side where you could work from home while raising the children.

 

Agree, however woman might prefer going to work than spend so much time with kids at home, it really depends on the situation.

I think this could only work for short-term while your kids are really small and/or if a man is entrepreneur/doing something online (but in that case you aren't just a stay at home dad because you have other responsibilities as well).

 

My thoughts as well. You do you, man.

 

Depends if either are fine with it and can afford it financially.

 

I know couples where the woman is the main bread winner, so I can see these people being able to work out like that. If a woman can stay at home and take care of the house and cook and clean, so can a guy. I do find it a bit concerning that you WANT to be one. I've never met a girl who has said "yeah, I want to stay at home all day."

Also, be wary of extreme boredom.

 

I'm a father, I'll offer my opinion.

I would never, ever, rely on my wife to support me in any way. It is my job as a man to support my family.

With that being said, if you work from home, or if you live in circumstances where you can afford not to work, by all means stay home. Being there with your family and partaking in a more active role in your child is beneficial and rewarding.

However, you should also consider that this does not include living with your parents. As an adult, and especially as a father, you should not rely on another person to support you or your children.

 

Let's get back to the basic do what you want

 

Only if it's not an excuse for being lazy.

I'm more of a believer in MGTOW, in short, never being married or held back by women. That doesn't mean not casually dating women, but it does mean not sacrificing future potential for another human being.

It's hard to go into detail in short, so those who question my opinion please research MGTOW further.

 

Stay at home dad may well be the best outcome from the feminist movement.

 

Stay at home dad may well be the best outcome from the feminist movement.

 

It does not matter what gender you are, despite the fact that usually it's the females are the "stay at home mom's" a make should be perfectly fine to do the same.