[PARENTS] My childs mum not letting me see my son..

So because I have a new girlfriend, she's pissed and jealous and won't let me see my son, who was born on the 19/3/15. last I saw him was 12/4/15...

I'm tempted to go up smash her door in and take him. But I already have a criminal conviction for assault, and if she presses charges, I would probably be fucked.

I'm trying sooo hard not to go up, but when you have a child, you will understand, and it's a different story.

I'm getting so depressed and thinking about doing stupid stuff..

Went to the solicitors today, i'm going to take her to court to apply for joint custody, and the police told me if I take the kid, nothing can be done unless she takes me to court etc. etc. but until then, any ideas of what to do???

 

Clearly this forum isn't just only for trading, it's to help other Sythe members with problems that may occur during the time of them being on this website.

Anyways to your situation with your child, your best bet is to at least try for joint custody. Is your child's mother not wanting them to see you because of your girlfriend? Maybe she has something against your girlfriend, or that she doesn't want your child to be around her.

 

Okay don't be stupid and try and break in.
I suggest you go to court and take the legal route, i know your kid is the most precious thing to you right now; so don't fuck it up for yourself.

 

Depending on the age of your child, they can make the decision of which parent to live with once you take this to court or at the very least help your cause by stating you are a good parent and want to be with you if even in joint custody / visitations.

It's an ungodly thing to keep a parent away from their kid. I am guessing you weren't married otherwise you would have been to court already and the visitation issues would be covered unless you had a shit lawyer and it was overlooked or she somehow convinced the judge the child's best interest was to be away from you.

I am not trying to accuse you of anything, just weighing the possibilities of what led to the current situation.

But I would have to say continue down the legal path, get a lawyer and get custody of the kid or at least have a couple days or more a month for visitation, if the cops said you can just take your kid I would talk with the cops again and see if they could go with you to her residence and mediate everything to at least get you in the door and prevent things from getting out of hand.

 

Contact a mediation centre. Work out an arrangement of days where you'll be allowed to him.

 

IF she refuses to mediate this will look favorable on your part, she may be jealous and if there is no "family" for you both to be in, you need to keep it civil for your child.

It will hurt - but you just have to go through this shit:

Check out a single father forum / a lot of good advice. A lot of people only think of fathers as the bad guy, a lot of good blokes painted with the same brush, which just want to be apart of there kids lives.

 

Don't do anything stupid. I know you probably want to kill her, but if you do anything it's only going to fuck up your chances of being with your son. Just go to court. Fathers are entiteled to see their child just as much as mothers are, so you should be able to get joint custody without a problem as long as you have decent means for the child.

 

Go via the court.

 

Any update on this situation?

But whatever you do, as much as it's hard not to, DO NOT break into her house and take your child. That can be classified as kidnapping. The best way to do this is go the legal route. Get a mediator if she's not willing to cooperate. Or hire yourself an attorney, and apply for joint/full custody through the courts. It may not be the quickest process, but would you rather see your child in person, or behind glass at a prison? Keep us updated on your attempts.

 

In this route you will probably have to pay child support i know a few people in this situation

 

I have gone through the same thing with the mother of my three year old daughter.

DO NOT take the child away from the mother as this CAN and WILL be used against you in court. As you've said you already have an assault charge and chances are her lawyer WILL use that against you and try painting a picture of how you're a violent and unstable person, so taking the child from the mother will just make you look even worse if and when you do go to court.

My best advice for you at this point is to file a petition for custody/visitation asking for every other weekend, every other holiday, with join custody while the mother retains primary residency. If you have already been to court and there is a court order in place then you NEED to file a petition to the court for violation stating that the mother has violated a court order. Your best bet is to save all text messages, record all conversations you have with the mother, and make every effort to spend time with the child, that way when you do go to court she can't use it against you that you've been out of the childs life for an extended period of time as it's her fault you haven't been seeing him.

Tl;dr - Petition for joint custody/visitation and listen to what your lawyer says, don't act rational as you don't want the court the have any reason (other than the assault charge you already have) to think you're a violent person.

Source: I currently have custody of my daughter and have been to family court 12 times within the past year fighting for custody.

Best of luck, feel free to PM me if you have any further questions.

 

For what reason in the first place is she keeping you from seeing it? "She's pissed and jealous" doesn't sound like that much of a real reason in all honesty.

 

As far as I know, a child always lives with their mother until they reach 18 and that's when they can decide to who to live with.

 

Tell her you will seek legal advice if she doesn't cooperate and make a schedule where you both can see your child.

 

Dont give up bud. Stay strong

 

my brother is in the same situation, you just gotta do it legally, or wait until your child is old enough to make the decision to make you apart of his life because you are trying to be apart of his

 

His kid isn't even a year old yet and if he's going to wait that's gonna be a long time.

 

my niece is 3 months old

 

Talking to her calmly might just work.