Need advice on a relationship

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Go with whoever you have the most chemistry with and what your longterm goals are. Are you looking for someone to date while you establish a career, or are you looking for someone you truly want to have a long relationship (years, possible marriage, all that.)

I'm not sure how recently you started talking to this former friend, but make sure you're positive it's not just some infatuation and that you're not running on nostalgia/old memories. You say you have a lot in common, but she parties and so forth. Make sure you're fine with such characteristics, you cannot go into a relationship expecting to change someone. Also, be aware that just because you end a relationship with your current girlfriend, that does not mean you're guaranteed a new one with this girl.

There's no harm in the continuation of talking to her as long as it's just that, a friendship. Do not cheat on your significant other, it is a shitty thing to do.

No one can really tell you who you should date. You know yourself better then anyone else ever will and I would say go with your gut. If you're not satisfied in your relationship now, you probably won't be in the future.

 

I completely agree with Tmoe. Though I'd like to suggest that maybe you should rekindle some things with your current girlfriend. Maybe things are just starting to get a little too predictable in your current relationship, which bores you a little. Honestly, who knows, maybe it bores her a tiny bit too. I'd say to try and liven things up a bit with your current girlfriend and keep your interest there on the side as a friend. If things don't work out between you and your current gf, then you now have someone to go to if shit doesn't turn out right.

 

Tmoe summed this up very well. Ending a relationship, especially one that has lasted longer is 12+ months is a big risk. You most likely want to feel something new, thats why your attraction for your old friend is skyrocketing. If you were to have a relationship with the party girl, I'm sure this would stir up some problems. Parties have alcohol, and someone will end up doing something stupid trying to get with her, meaning you would have to be there to keep idiots away. (Assuming these are house parties, if they are casual get-together's then you most likely won't have to worry.) You need to outweigh the pros and cons, and as Tmoe said are you looking for a girl that you would see yourself marrying or a girl that could be short-term.

Try doing some new stuff, do a google search and you get results to spice it up. Things off the top of my head is going back to basics. Ice cream, roller skating, movies, amusement park, walk in the park, outside picnic, stare at stars? See how it goes, and if it doesn't feel like any spark, then maybe you can start re-evaluating. Best of luck.

 

If you're thinking about the other girl then you should end it with your girlfriend, you will never be 100% if your mind is on another girl.

 

let it go with your current gf

 

The heart chooses who the heart wants in my personal opinion.
Although if you do decide to stay with your current girlfriend, I recommend having set weekly date nights, nights you two just sit around and have a drink and reminisce on past fun memories. I've been with my fiance for going on 4 years now and I love her more now than I ever have since we've been together. The relationship will get boring regardless of what you do, but if you actually have real love for this person you won't care because you know that's what you need to do. As stated, the heart will choose who the heart wants.

 

you should go for the other girl cause you obviously are more attracted towards her

 

Relationships do require work or they will run out of fuel. I honestly don't see how a relationship with a girl who likes to drink/smoke/party will end with something great. It's more likely that it will end badly. But at the end of the day it still comes down to what you want. Do you have short term goals (the party girl) or long term? To me it sounds like you have already found a rough diamond which needs some polishing. The party girl sounds like a fake diamond which will lose its shine rapidly.

 

Give it your best shot.

 

shine bright like a diamond ;D