Life

Hi, i am unhappy with life right now let me start telling you my story

so everything started about 7 months ago when i got unemployed, i also quit smoking that day. slowly but surely i became really lazy and gave up on working out was on a good diet and workout routine for nearly 2 years before that with some amazing gainz. when i quit smoking i lost my appetite for food and pretty much everything else. during 2013/2014 ive lost most of my childhood friends because they moved to different places for uni and such so i guess you could say im lonely because the friends that i have left here never go outside to do something i am also financially stressed. the last problem is that me and this girl that ive known for nearly 5 years just one day recently decided to give up on me just like that which upsets me because i have no idea even why....i really wish i had someone to talk to about all this im just mentally tired and i dont know...the hole is so deep right now and the ladder is not long enough to get me up

 

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Just because you're unemployed doesn't mean you should be unhappy with life ( Well done you for quitting smoking I sure as hell don't want to do it )

That's what happens when you quit smoking, but them side effects don't last for ever you'll start to eat again... you'll notice your skin becomes healthier and you'll also feel a lot better with your self - You concurred a giant step & that would be quitting. If your friends never go outside to do anything then why don't you make some new friends? or try to get your old friends to come out... go kick a ball around or something. Women problems... theirs plenty of fish in the sea although I couldn't imagine splitting up with my fiancee it would really put a hole in my heart.


As Roary said, if you need anyone to talk to I'm here... and they is plenty of other people who are willing to talk to you.


I wish you the best, and just think positive not negative! & what ever you do... Don't pick up a smoke because you're a quitter.

 

Have you considered becoming involved in a sport or club nearby? Always a good start to do networking there.

Try and stay in contact with old friends too, do you use social networking?

 

I'd suggest first finding a job and getting your finances straight. Then the second thing is making some new friends at work, getting to know new people. Also, Like Subaru_Fan said, Try to connect with old friends through Social Networking sites, such as Facebook, Twitter etc. Then the last thing on your list should be to find a new girlfriend and get over your Ex. Finding a job and talking to friends will help you get over your ex and move on past it. Start fresh and start talking to a new girl and get to know her, the rest is up to you.

Let us know how it goes!

 

I can definitely relate man. I've experienced the lowest of all points from standing on a highway begging for money to get my fix each day to having 2-5 girls over every night and finding out I had bed bugs, so I stopped hanging out with everyone and that was a very depressing moment in my life.

Anyways, what I've learned is you just have to take a HUGE step back, and rebuild. For instance, you lost your job. Personally, financial issues are a huge part of my stress level. If I have money in my pocket, I feel like I have power and I can go do something to relieve the stress. If I'm broke, then I'm cooped up in the house b/c I can't afford to have fun; as fun costs money. I would work on going to college (best advice) or find a new job.

I'm sure you have a few friends that will always be friends no matter what, but you can always make new friends. I would definitely recommend college. Unfortunately, I had to drop out and can't go back for another year, but when I was going, I felt like a million bucks. I felt like I was actually doing something with my life, knowing that in 4 years I would be making AT LEAST 50k+/year. Money doesn't buy happiness, but it sure does help.

You can rebuild relationships through meeting people at a college, or work if college isn't for you, and from there, you can get invited to events, meet some girls, and you'll be back on your feet in no time!

Honestly, the hardest part is picking yourself up when your down. Music has always helped me. Talk to your closest friends, they can always help motivate you. Personally, family was never the best solution because their advice was never within my intentions, or they were too high/low for the time being, even though nothing is out of range for me. So, for me, I've always went to my friends. As side from that, you just have to motivate yourself to find an activity/hobby to get yourself out of the house. Being cooped up in the house all day will take a toll on your life (I would know, I'm on a year of house arrest) but I still stay positive and I know that after this year of house arrest (and I just finished a 3 year heroin addiction) that I can go back to college finally, and graduate at 24, even though I should be graduating at 22. It sucks, but it is what it is and that's life sometimes.

Best of luck, if you have any other questions, feel free to ask. I am very knowledgeable when it comes to life skills/lessons. I guess that's because I've experienced so much at a such a young age. I've made plenty of mistakes even though I've always known what was right, but I'm glad I've made the mistakes I've made at a young age, and not when I'm older.

 

I highly suggest you to try something new. Theres always something that will cheer you up and I also recommend you getting a job. It will be really helpful and a few bcks can help you alot.

 

Agreed, I'd suggest getting a job first, you can choose to do a job you don't like, but good money. Or, you can choose to do something you like, and have fun with it and still rake in a good sum of money. If you do choose a job that you don't like to do, but it pays well, that's fine as well. You can easily go to the Movie Theatre and watch a movie. (Maybe even bring a date. :love: )
#1 Thing that needs to be done soon is getting a job, the longer you wait, the worse it'll be. A girlfriend doesn't matter much until you get headed on the right path. Just remember that all of us on Sythe are here to help.

OT: Psycho Sales Why are you on House Arrest?




You've been through it all Psycho Sales -

 

Hi, thanks for all the replies, seeing that im not the only person with issues..I got a job still financially stressed, and about hobbies and such...there arent really anything to do around here, its depresssing tbh- but the girl issue is still bothering me just because ive known her for so long but ill be able to get over it soon i hope

 

Good to hear man. I'm sure your new job will keep you busy and get you back in the swing of things.

Sounds like your headed in the right direction, just keep the momentum going.

As for the girl, true love will find its way back. Otherwise, it's not meant to be. Corny, but true.

 

Plenty more fish in the sea, believe me! All the best.

 

You can always come to the Support Section on Sythe for tips, congratulations on getting the job btw. Have you tried looking around online for other hobbies and things to do in your local area? I'd suggest looking online and I'm sure you'll find something. Your emotions for your ex will pass eventually, it doesn't come overnight. I do understand what you're going through completely, and it'll pass. I'd suggest just keeping her out of your mind and keeping yourself busy. Thanks for the update!