Love advise.

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Love advise.
  1. Unread #1 - Jan 5, 2014 at 3:00 AM
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    Love advise.

    Hey guys, I will now tell you my story.
    About 3 months ago, my ex girlfriend broke up with me. I loved her so much, she got me out of depression, and well, she helped me a lot with school and such.
    The idea of living without her, without seeing her everyday, without her hugs or kisses or without watching movies with her killed me inside. She broke up with me because she fell in love with her best friend (girl by the way, she is BI). She cheated on me 3 times and I didn't even care back then.
    3 months passed, we never talked.
    Now, today, after 3 months of not knowing a thing about her, finally being happy again without her, she texted me saying she broke up with her girlfriend, and she told me she wasn't ok.
    After talking for about 2 hours, she said she wanted to see me. We live about 500 metres away from eachother so that's pretty easy. But I just don't know. She hurt me so much, and now she wants to see me again?
    I want some kind of advise, or just a message to understand that. if anybody knows about that kind of stuff. Im truly clueless as to what to do.
    I just needed to vent a little about that, thanks guys for reading :p
     
  3. Unread #2 - Jan 5, 2014 at 4:02 AM
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    Love advise.

    Well you said you enjoy her company, and she hasn't even said she wants to date you again yet. What do you have to lose by just visiting her?
     
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    Love advise.

    Going through everything he initially did all over again?
     
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    Love advise.

    The kick down after a breakup is the worst.
    If you only recently got over it, I'd not go for it now if I were you.
    It's still too fresh if you are just now enjoying other things again.

    Let it sink in for a while, and try to think reasonable.
    What if she wants to go for you again, what does that tell you?
    If you feel like being with somebody again, why would she be the one to be that person? Would she even?

    Good luck man, you're going to need it.
     
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    Love advise.

    It's up to you, if you do decide to see her again then you shouldn't get to attached to soon because if she left you once what prevents her from doing it the next time she meets someone else? As for her saying that "shes not okay" ask yourself this, did she care when she left you and you "weren't okay"? Sounds like an excuse to me, and a rebound attempt to help her get over her recent breakup. That's just my opinion though.
     
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    Love advise.

    Do NOT go there.

    DO NOT.

    I repeat, do NOT. Why? She cheated on you 3 times and dipped out on you.

    You made her out to be a good person, but she wasn't. She was horrible for you, don't settle with happiness find it. That isn't happiness, that's bullshit.

    Tell her she can go fuck herself because you're better than second best.
     
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    Love advise.

    I'd suggest giving her another chance only if you truly see a future with her, if you don't, don't even bother wasting your time.
     
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    Love advise.

    Well, once a cheat, always a cheat in my opinion.

    I'd say there's no harm in being there for her and being her friend if you really feel depressed not having her in your life, but you'd need to be firm and set some ground rules first.

    Ask yourself if you can really be around her and not want something more, bearing in mind you could be, as horrible as it sounds, a simple rebound.

    On the other hand, people change, i guess i'm just not one for 'forgive and forget'.
     
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    Love advise.

    No way, if she cheated on you, what's going to stop her from doing it again? When I was younger, I did the same thing. And since then I realized the stupidity of it and realize it isn't worth it.

    To me from what it seems like she wasn't happy with the girl, and now want's what she can at least have to make her "happy" instead of being alone or upset. Don't even do it, if you can make a bitch like her happy, then you can definitely make someone worthwhile happy.
     
  21. Unread #11 - Jan 5, 2014 at 10:37 PM
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    Love advise.

    Best advice ever: Look for a woman that respects you.

    Clearly sounds like she does not.
     
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