Sex with my brother?

You should seek for help because having sex with your brother isn't right.

 

She (if she is a she) posted a reply on the previous page, you all missed it with the arguing.

 

It will have to stop sometime... when you get a bf, of course =o. From what I gathered online (I have no personal sources for this) these type of relationships sometimes turn into a casual once in a while thing, but there are also occasions where, of course, you guys go your separate ways and are busy with your own lives then you guys see each other again and >.>.

You're clearly a very open girl, again provided this isn't a troll (I always have my doubts) and you shouldn't care about other people judging you. Of course, you cannot let it go in the way of real relationships.

Also, it's something you should tell your bf once you're comfortable about it =o. Boy, do I mean comfortable lol... because yikes.

 

Although I am 100% against it, there is nothing wrong with it assuming you do not have children. Take away all the negatives that come from two genetically similar humans having a child and you have nothing more than a taboo. Although not going to lie it kind of disgusts me (blame society).

 

Ok so while i personally believe this is morally wrong i will add my advice on it and my thought on it.

This is something where you and your brother have known each other for literally your entire lives and it feels like a comfortable situation, this is something that while I do not believe you HAVE to stop but you should, it is unhealthy and it will lead nowhere, we all seek companionship and it would be almost impossible to maintain a long term life where you can hope to have a future. I thoroughly hope you never tell any of this to your mom, if you do she will be devastated and it will be a very long time before she forgives either of you.

My hope with this is that you take a long thought on this, my motto is if its something you'd be ashamed to tell your parents about it then its not something you should do, i would approach your brother and just lay it out that it needs to stop, that way its not all on you to stop it.

 

Please don't talk about subjects you know nothing about. Yes, there is a risk that the child would have some disabilities but only if there were malicious allels in the bloodline.

I'll make it simple for most to understand:
If person A has a malicious allel (allels are different variations of a specific gene) and person B has the same malicious allel in his/her DNA (this doesn't mean either of them have any disabilities). If those 2 were to have a child then the odds of the child getting malicious allels from both parents is there. If that happens then the child would have a bad genotype (if you put 2 allels together you get a genotype) which would lead to a disability or worse.

A child conceived through incest just has a higher chance to be subject to genetic illnesses that are already in that bloodline.
Children consived through incest might also be a lot faster/smarter/stronger than other children. It all depends on the specific bloodline. If there aren't any genetic diseases looming in that bloodline then the risk of disabilties is close to none.

PS! Incest is very common when it comes to drug trial on animals. Incest leads to offsprings that a genetically identical. Making it easy to see the effects of different drugs on the same subject.

OnTopic: I personally think this is a troll. There are surely many other threads like this on the web and if she really needed this sort of help then she would have surely found some of those threads. And if not then I wouldn't say this isn't something I'd personally accept. As long as you use protection then do what you wish, it's your life etc, but the idea of playing Russian roulette with the child is just wrong. Protection isn't 100% and you have been warned.

 

1. Stay on-topic
2. Don't assume anything here is a troll
3. Keep your personal arguments private

OT: I think you should break it off with your brother. Is it worth losing your family over for a relationship that has to be kept hushed forever? Personally, I'd leave it there.

 

Thanks to whoever cleared out the thread! <3

Why though? =/

Thank you! With seeing someone else there is no one I'm really interested in at the moment. I also feel I can only love my brother because I KNOW I can trust him with anything. And no I'm not going to tell anyone else.

I don't really care about the law as its nothing to do with the cops. I don't think anyone is going to find out unless we tell, which we are NOT planning on doing. If we're ever feeling 'intimate' we make sure the house is empty or its at like 3 in the morning so there is no chance of us being caught...

Well that's a whole 'nother problem... I don't see myself with anyone else right now, and I don't think he does either. We are happy with each other and we know can trust each other, so I guess I don't see the want to go out with someone when I know I already have someone who cares for me and is someone who I can trust with anything.

I suppose I am pretty open... although I don't care that much what people think, if mom found out then god knows what would happen to us.

Yeah, I understand that. And no we're not having kids at all, no way!

Well yes, we have known each other all our lives. He's always been there for me, especially when I'm feeling unhappy. I don't know how long this will go on for... a week? A month? A year? Maybe forever... I don't know, I suppose we'll always love each other no matter what happens. I don't plan to tell any of this to anyone.

I spoke to him about it again earlier, his reaction was a little different than last time, though. He seems to be taking an interest in us a little more now, he doesn't want more and more sex, just more time spent with each other. If I think back to our lives so far we've always been 'close', for example he has his arm around me or we go to sleep hugging each other. This is the first time we've ever been 'this' close, though. I think I could just say 'let's stop', but at the same time I feel happier than I've ever been with him.

Life is so confusing... >_<

Thanks, Roary! I suppose it is a big thing to think about. Then again it would only end in disaster if mom found out, which seeing as we're not gonna tell anyone, she shouldn't.

Thanks for the replies everyone. They really mean a lot to me.

 

I honestly felt touched by this, as someone could love one another like this,even if they're related.I don't think it's "wrong" as all sorts of animals do it all the time and humans ARE under that category.All I see is someone in love.That's it, anyone that says you need professional help is most likely under social pressure to feel a certain way or do something a certain way.For example ,Homosexuals, some people see at as wrong or immoral, It's not, all you are is a human.Enjoy it and live life to the fullest, don't regret, and do as many socially weird things as possible.


Regards,

Corey.

P.S
Good luck with the relationship.

 

Well, I mean, it's obviously not socially acceptable.

However, royal families would commonly inbred to keep their lines pure, so obviously it's been done before. (Not saying you should have a kid, as research does prove higher rates of disabilities)

Personally, I would say you shouldn't do it, simply because it can cause a horrible reputation and inner turmoil within your family.

But, it's not up to me or any of us. Just you and your brother.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

 

While this is true it isn't relevant as they didn't marry first degree blood kin, it was usually 4 or more degrees of blood away. It also was the reason the Russian royal family (before the whole nasty revolution thing) had really bad problems with free-bleeding and other well publicized handicaps.

On topic:
Socially it is wrong and if it ever came out, on purpose or accident, then you would be completely ostracized. It would make it difficult to maintain a normal life if you maintain an active (sexual) relationship with your twin. It is going to make it emotionally difficult for you personally to develop some sort of relationship outside of your brother, and will stunt your emotional and social growth. Not to mention that if something screws up (condoms and birth control is not a 100% thing) and you get pregnant, well then you're pretty much up shit creek - if you know what I mean. Therefore in my (most objective) advice I recommend breaking this off and seeking professional help immediately.

 

Lucy,
First off, i apologize for the rudeness of some of our members on sythe. Truth is, having sexual relations with a sibling is VERY taboo in this day and age. As stated before it can lead to not only unwanted children as with all sex, but a higher rate of disabilities if the child is born. While no one can tell you how to live, i believe you should honestly do what you feel is right. We CAN'T choose who we fall in love with, as we can't control them chemicals in our brains. Just be warned, if you do continue this you will inevitably face hardship for the rest of your life. Including possibly causing turmoil within the family, being exiled by friends and family, and harassed by most people.
Good luck with everything,
Smoke
(add my skype: hncdicer if you wish to talk more)

 

lucy, i won't judge you for your own mistakes or choices whatever you want to do, these days people do crazy things and also having a crazy mind. this is probably kind of a space out for my self. i'd recommend you to find help if you cannot solve this by your own.

if i were your friend, i would support you to avoid this mess if you want to.
i'm suprised you dare to make post about this and if it's really true, i find you a very strong girl.

 

Yeah I know... someone you already live with and everything... the main con would be judgement from people, as you can see already on this thread. You'll probably start to worry and think that people know, though... so in the end it is up to you but you said...

...which makes me kinda iffy about your situation. Forever? o.o it has to end sometime... I hope =p.

You guys can start a porno business based on twin porn... "Lucy XXX and her twin have crazy sex" then the plot twist is that it is a twin brother >.>. I know a girl with a twin brother, though... you better not be her! =p

 

Imo this is very wrong, but you can do what you want its your life. Just an interesting fact: A very long time ago when there were kings and queens and people used to fight wars with spears and swords etc, siblings would engage in incest to keep the bloodline to the throne strong and pure.

 

This. Without judging you I can recommend this. What you guys have may be great for now but think every relationship has its rough patches. You can break up with a boyfriend and sure its awkward but hes gone. Breaking up with your brother is awkward forever. I think of it as getting intimate with your best friend it may be what feels right at the time but it'll just leave you more lonely in the end when it ends. Just my 2 cents.

 

I find this very very wrong, you both came out of the same mother, and now you are having sex with eachother it is just wrong.

Why would you even do it with your brother when there are 7 billion other people out there? Just find someone else you like, just not a family member. You think you are liking your brother but no thats just because of the situation you are in.

I strongly advice to stop doing this with your brother.

 

No ACTUALLY you're wrong, the reason why they would have a genetic defect is because this is called in-breeding. Why do you think in-bred dogs have so many defects? Because the genetic variation of chromosomes is so limited, that they are so vulnerable to disease/illness. Sorry anatomy man, it does this to you.

And about you're issue.... yeah no, thats wrong in many ways, seek some assistance and figure your shit out. He is a blood related sibling not a boyfriend. You two are nearly identical with the exception of you being a girl.

 

I didn't say that it wasn't a risk, I said that its grossly exaggerated.

Take Elena's post for example "If you had children they WOULD have disabilities." This is something that many people hold to be true, when in reality there have been tests suggesting only a 30%ish chance for there to be any kind of disability whatsoever (some tests slightly higher, some slightly lower). In families where there aren't big medical problems this number is going to be on the lower end of things. I'm not saying its a good idea to risk it, I'm just saying that its a good idea to have some perspective.

 

I've stayed out of this thread 'til now, but it seems like a good idea to steer this back away from petty arguments that only sort of pertain to the topic at hand (if the OP is legit and still reading the thread).

Here goes.

OP, what you're doing is completely against my moral views. From that perspective, I totally oppose incest to any degree, and having sex with your twin is about as extreme as it could get. I'm usually quite open-minded and accepting of people, but this is too much for even me.

But me giving you a simple opinion like a lot of people have so far is pretty much irrelevant. This is me trying to take a step back, be as objective as possible, and ask you a couple of questions in return (answer them or don't; just think about them) that may help make up your mind about a course of action for yourself and your brother.

You're here on the Sythe personal support forum asking us something extremely personal. Anonymous advice is surely an attractive concept, but we're just random people on the internet - my point is that you obviously do have some fundamental issue with incest. If you didn't, you wouldn't be here in the first place, and you'd have already let your mom know what's going on as well.

If this all feels "right" and "perfect," why are you here? Why haven't you told your mother, or your friends, or anyone?

To me, something that's so perfect would be something I'd want to share with everyone. When you're ready to step out from behind the anonymity of your computer screen and tell people you're having sex with your twin, maybe you'll know that it really is "right." But from everything you've told us, it doesn't seem like you'll ever be ready to do so. I think you should stop.