Girl thread but kinda different

I've made out with plenty of girls but I've always been drunk/rolling for it except my ex-gf in which we broke up over a year ago. I'm a 20 y/o virgin btw.. I've had plenty of opportunities to have sex but what held me back was because I was abusing a drug that made it really hard to perform per say.

That's some backstory. Basically it's a new semester at my school and girls LOVE me. I'm not a cocky sort of dude when it comes to stuff but goddamn, just 2 nights ago me and this girl were hanging out and she was straight up like "Sooo you wanna fuck later?" I said yes, obviously, and she went to take a shower bla bla bla while I tried to hit my friend up to buy alcohol for me. On the way back to her dorm she started asking me how many girls I've been with and that she's been with 4 fours. I played it off all confidently like "oh just count every tire on every car in the parking lot" [obviously way over the top lol]. Since I didn't give her a straight answer she was like "oh man don't tell me you haven't been with any..". If I said yea I knew we'd never end up having a sex. I don't know what to do?.. Just go for it and try my best? LOL. We somehow got into the topic of making her scream so now she has high hopes for me ffs. Advice for this one?

Next girl, I've hung out with twice since I met her and for only like 3 hours total time lol. I swiftly made paved my way by getting her number off the bat (she didn't even want to give it to me "YET" but I grabbed it off her phone anyway). We ended up texting a bit and she hit me up to get ice cream but that fell through since it was mad late. Now she doesn't want to let me take her out on a date "YET" or anything for some reason. Looking bad? No, she's told me that she thinks I'm cute, funny, charming, a gentlemen and fun to be around. The body-touching ice-breaking was done day 1 with our legs all close and I was all over her (physically but not sexually? she thought I was obnoxious about it but funny/cute at the same time. it went well with no problem).

Sorry, anyway today we were chillin on the couch in the library and we were fucking around making jokes and she teased me like crazy about not letting me take her out. It was fucked up. A point came when our faces were hella close and we were facing each other just dead-eye contact and I KNEW I KNEW I FUCKING KNEW I should've went in for the kiss but now I'm mad self-conscious that I'm not a good kisser since it's been fucking forever;

it's funny because the situation went:

her: why is your face sooo close to mine?
me: why not?
her: 'cause i keep thinking you're going to kiss me.
me: so?
her: well you might be a bad kisser..

I should've just went "let's find out" and went for it, but I bitched out and I ended up just leaving after she teased me more.

I disgress so bad but my question is; Does this girl even truly want something to do with me? She doesn't CARE is what I'm taking from her. We barely text unless I text her (but she does reply and usually fast, not really long replies), she doesn't want me to take her out, and I asked if she wanted to hang out during break next time later in the day and she said no lmao. I'M GETTING MAD MIXED SIGNALS IT'S DRIVING ME FUCKING NUTS!

Oh and she said the reason she didn't want to give me her number right off the bat and why she won't let me take her out is because shes "always disappointed and she never meets 'a keeper'".

Idk anymore, what do you guys think of my current scenario and what I should do?

 

First girl... Sounds like a slut. Girls will say 4 no matter what. And who cares if you've never been with a girl. Be confident and she won't care.

Second, hang out with her more. Maybe be less physical. And when the moment is right go for that kiss. She clearly wanted it. Mixed signals are always there. Usually it's just us over thinking things. I'm sure she is having mixed feelings too. Give it a while and I'm sure things will work out.

 

Sex aint hard bru, relax. luckily you have the best advice giver on the website here to help ya out.

just be assertive, and do what you wanna do, hit it from the back and pull that hair and slap that ass (ya buddy), flip her onto her back and poke that missionary, then make her ride you cowgirl, shit it's up to you. she's more than likely going to end up laying there like a sack of potatoes half the time while you go full on battering ram on her vajayjay so just enjoy it and then forget about her after, because she's a mad hoe (seriously, the chick asked you if you wanna fuck, that's a big red flag to hit it double wrapped and then dip hard)

jesus christ you're literally on the edge of getting friendzoned. Dudes can say what they want about the friendzone, but it almost always stems from being a fuccboi and pussying out of kissing her. legit, if you dont get that kiss within like the next time you hang out id reckon it's all over. Don't be worried about being some shitty kisser because in reality, you're just going to sloppily make out. and for her mixed signals, she's trying to play hard to get, seeing if you got the balls to get with her and if you don't want her she's tossing you into the friendzone like a used candy wrapper. all you have to honestly do is next time you're alone with just kiss her, chicks dig surprises. if she pulls back just say alright well i thought there was something between us here but clearly not and then just never talk to her again.

it's easy my nigga, just chill out and dont overthink anything. how do you think so many dumb af niggas get with hotties? cause they dont think they just act, and for whatever reason chicks love that shit. usually.

also maybe jerk off before you hang out with chick A who you're planning to fuck just in case you pop off your nut in 30 seconds and embarrass yourself completely. even then you can just say that her pussy was huggin it MAD tight n you couldn't help it, and then you tell her that you're going to shower and invite her in, then have some unreal shower sex.

 

If she's into you, she's into you, and that's not going to change by you telling her the truth. Rather than being a turnoff, it'll probably be a reassurance since she won't have to worry whether you're 1) safe or 2) going to compare her to previous conquests.

If you don't make a big deal out of it, she won't. Just promise you won't get clingy afterward

 

Thanks for the replies everyone.

Considering Girl A is kinda a hoe like you're all making me realize...eh.. I kinda want to stay away now! Lmao.

I don't think a lot of you understand Girl B. First person said be less physical. Idk, she likes it when I'm physical. Second person said I'm nearly on the edge of being friendzoned. Really? I mean, like I said we've hung out maybe.. 3 hours total in LIFE lol. Barely know this girl and the moment I should've made a move we were in public chilling on the couch in the library so eh. But you're right - shows I'm ballsy and she'd b soooo into that. Sin I don't think you understand it at all lolz. 90% of what I say/do to this girl shows I think she's hella cute and yes, I've verbally announced it.

 

Agreed on the first girl; she seems kinda slutty there.

Second girl, just build up some confidence and make a move when you feel the time's right. If things go wrong, you've only hung out with her for three hours, so it shouldn't be a big deal. Just don't force it.

 

For the first girl you should just tell her the truth, if she can't accept you as a person then it's not worth the time.

Unless you just wanted a one night stand, in that case tell her your the champ and when you fail just use the excuse that you were drunk, ect, it'll be okay, one girl isn't the end of the world.

 

Was really only addressing Girl 1. Hate to say it, but doesn't sound like Girl 2 is at all interested; sounds like she was just too shy/nice to turn you down hard.

 

I agree with Sin, that girl 2 might not be interested in you.

Now mate, if you get SO many girls, how is that you're 20 years and and still virg..? Just be more humble is one of my advices

You totally screwed it when you didnt kiss her lol. But if you missed on that, if she'd be interested you will eventually get one more chance to kiss her

Just play it cool, go with the flow and take the things with ease, they dont know you're virgin and saying things like "I will make you scream" and stuff like that will just show you off that you're a virg, get it? My advice is to go with the flow, text her but dont put the 100% of it, do a 60% and let her do the 40%. Unless she is super shy, if the 2nd one never texts you consider it kinda done

The first one might just like having sex? She might be a slut, and so what? If you're in a relationship with her I doubt she will cheat on you, and what you will receive is just a lot of sex. So just go with the one that wants you and not plays with you.

 

I mention to be less physical due to this

With being over physical it can come across as you just wanting sex. She was saying she wants to find a keeper, so get to know her let jet get to know you. spend more time together. A relationship isn't something you can jump into after only spending 3 hours with someone. hang out in groups so she doesn't feel singled out.

 

Okay thanks again for the replies. Sorry I don't mean to come off as a douche or anything with the whole 'get girls' thing. I'm just happy to notice how I used to get no girls, now the hottest ones are drawn to me. Just happy is all.

First off, I said I'm a virgin because I used to abuse a drug a lot that made it extremely hard (pun not intended) to get hard/cum. Simple as that. I've had many opportunities where me and girls are naked making out hardcore ontop of each other but.. I just can't do it.. Thankfully I don't use anymore. And I never said I was going to make her scream. She said she didn't want to fuck in her dorm during the day because people are studying/around/etc. and I said we could just put some music on to cover any noise and she said "ohhh so you're gonna make me scream then?"


Anyway I have news. I straight up told girl 2 to be honest with me and she said she wasn't looking to go out with anyone right now.

Me: Cool I just wanted you to be straight up with me, I'm tired of girls playing games. We can still b hella chill though

Her: Hell yeah! You're awesome.

Me: You too. We should still def hang out then, no strings attached.

Her: Definitely! I would like that

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So now what? I'm not going to push anything at all but I still dig her and we both find each other attractive.. I'm definitely going in for the kiss next opportunity. FWB please!?

 

you just friendzoned yourself =(

 

I don't think you're quite set up for FWB or anything further than just the "F" at this point. As a result of that ^^, trying to kiss her seems like it could go badly unless it's obviously another opportunity.

 

I don't care if you guys think I friendzoned myself. Her very first text to me was an emoticon blowing a kiss to me and she's told me she thinks I'm cute + like I said, our bodys get so close I start sweating from our mixed heat. That's dead proof she's into me.. I'm going for the kiss next time and if I fail then that's that. Being too physical? Fuck that noise. Also, obviously I'm nowhere near FWB right now.. That's why I have to make my move at my next given opportunity. Regardless I could care less. There's already a new girl who just texted me at 2 AM saying I should come see her because she misses me. Mess up with one girl? Whatever - I like being friends with a hot girl who also finds me cute.

Unless girls are THAT shallow nowadays that I have to go for the kiss the second time we ever see each other ever and if not I'm completely friendzoned - I know I have a shot.

I need some straight answers. Am I R E A L L Y being friendzoned by every single girl that gives me attention because I don't fucking kiss her the second I meet her?

 

You friendzone d yourself tbh, try a new couple hoes.

 

prob not, but there's a damn higher chance you won't get friendzoned by kissing them at the first (good) proper opportunity you get.

I don't know if I said this already, but you're over thinking. chicks don't dig neurotic guys who stress over petty bullshit, they already do it enough themselves. just relax bruh, if you get friendzoned, who cares, ya still got chick #1 who (albeit may or may not have herpes) is looking for some serious dick.

 

Haha your so funny its unreal! Was wetting myself at work haha.

But yeah do what YOU want to do if either of them turn you down (which to me I think they will bcus you come here saying stuff like oh they find me attractive on day 1 and all that shit haha, you can see a ugly fish with 5 eyes and you will look at it because its new sorry to bust your confidence).

Dont be to confident with any of them just be YOURSELF if they dont like you then why be with them? Unless you are just looking for the bedroom and shit just go with number 1 while you work on others

 

Was gonna post a reply, but since you've mentioned that 'you don't care' about half the advice you're getting, why did you make the fucking thread?