Confused about a girl.

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I'd say go for it, text her or facebook her and just ask her, what have you got to lose? Just don't push the point if she says no because she might back out, having your heart broken can cause someone to have a lot of trust issues and she sounds like she's starting to open up again to another person.

Just go for it bud, good luck.

 

we talk all day everyday basically x) I forgot to add in she'd be ready to date in about a month or something, I think I may just have to show I'm worth it and won't hurt her or something? doees that make sense? :/ I'm not that good with the thoughts that girls think or some bullshit, thanks for your reply!

 

I will for sure! She also knows I'm not the kind to use her, or any girl, as I established that I'm not even the kind to just go for girls for sex or anything, and I wait till both are ready, and the feelings are true and shit. x)

 

Don't txt or facebook her, lol.. It's not a matter that should be dealt with virtually. You need to confront her, face to face.

Lemme tell you a little bit about my girlfriend, that I am now with and have been over the past 2 years. It all began when we just started hanging out, as friends, even after the first time we hung out I said to myself, I like this girl, I'm going to go for it. She had come out a hefty relationship, within months. After months and months of me trying to crack the shell, with persistency and not giving up, she started to tell me that she feels as if she's not ready for a boyfriend, not ready to commit to something as she's afraid of being hurt again. That didn't deter me, I kept trying, kept being persistent and kind, showing her that I really did care for her.. then bang, one day, out of no where I knew it was time to ask her, and you obviously know what her answer was.

My advice, don't give up. You have an inner voice called instinct and intuition - listen to it. Don't be swayed by anything else, if your soul is telling you she is your life, don't give up.

 

That is actually great advice, I wasn't planning on giving up, I just feel a real connection with her, She's not hard on herself about her body, she knows shes' pretty, same interests, etc. I am not gonna give up.

 

Just take her out for a dinner and talk, really talk about everything you feel!

 

Buy her a red rose ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww,actually you know what really works! Dude lol,i know you be thinking your crazy,but cook here a freaking cake,it works lol!I tried it,in my case it worked 199% better than any other shit i bought or whatever.find out what she likes most,like do u like chocolate? yes no? dont ask what cakes u like,theres plently of recepees on internet.im not sure about you tho,if your like nerd type,that might look too soft,but since i was little with bad side,the cake turned my good side in and out and it worked out unrealiscticly like i said before haha LOL!I was typing i wouldnt do this shit now,cus im little older,but fuck it,i would do it now and even make a freaking much better cake and impress even more ( and believe me,that chick was hot,everyone wanted to get in love with her,VERY HOT!!! ) but guess who got the spot? Thats right,and I was the poorest of the competitors i think lol.

 

I'm confused. You asked her if she was ready for a relationship last night, and she basically told you she wouldn't be ready for a few weeks or month. Then on the same night, she said she'd commit to a certain person if they asked? Few questions here, you may have to clarify how she told you in a "nutshell" that she won't be ready, and how you asked. Just to make sure she understood what you meant. If it was on the same night she said she'd commit to a certain person. Whatever site that is, does she know she has you added or that you browse that site? Basically if she knows you might read it?

I feel a lot of detail has been left out before I can give you any advice. Doesn't make sense that she'd tell you she wouldn't be ready for a relationship then on the same night she says on a site that she'd be ready to commit to someone.

You might be jumping the gun if you've known her for 3 weeks and hung out once. But I don't know the whole story or pretty much anything from what I've read.

 

Take things slow, three weeks isn't a long time. Sure, you could tell her how you feel, but respect the fact she isn't ready to commit to anything seriously yet. Goodluck, just listen to what you heart tells you. Nothing to lose

 

Nothing to lose, everything to gain, right? If you're talking all day, then she probably would lol. I work at a different level... I am always blind to these sort of things. I could be talking to a girl who likes me for years and I'd never know (I heard so many times "OMG I used to like you so much" I was like "wtf!?!?!@!!!@!@ Why didn't you tell me!?" So yeah, I believe these things shouldn't be held back.

I hate how girls keep everything shady like that... just drop the name, and stop screwing with guys' heads.

 

No, I did not ask her if she was ready for a relationship, I had asked why she was acting different the past 3ish days, and that was her reply in a longer message though, and yes she knows I'm on that site and stuff, so maybe you're right there, and she said "There is someone I'd totally commit too if he'd just ask" not that she would be ready, I dunno if she meant she'd be ready, I'm not sure. & I

@Game, Eventually I was planning on something like that, tbh. xD

@Divica, Things are being taken slowly, and she knows I respect it so I got that going xD

@Alex, Same! It happens to me quite a bit! Agreed fully, drop tha name makes it easier for everyone!

I am not going to give up though, too good of an opportunity to pass up xD

 

Well, if she didn't exactly tell you she wasn't ready to be in a relationship, and she did say that on that site. I'd suggest meeting up with her again to ask her, to me texting or telling her on facebook chat if she wanted to be in a relationship would just be a bit awkward once you meet up again. I mean sure, she says yes, then the awkwardness ensues once you both meet face to face when the time comes.

If you ask her to hang out again, and she agrees, that would be a good sign and odds are she was talking about you. From there, make the day special when it comes, and ask her at the middle or in the end.

 

It's already been established we're hanging out again. ) I shoulda mentioned that

 

As long as you personally feel you won't hurt her by trying to start a relationship, I don't think you have much to lose. My only advice would be to take a quick step back and survey things to make sure you're not rushing. If you do go for it, you'll want to make her feel special without being overwhelmed.

 

Your 18 and seeking advice on a website for relationship advice! man sort it out!

 

That's why the section is called ''Personal Support'' and most of the people talk about this on this section so deal with it.

 

Thanks for your input.

 

3So last night, she told me she likes me back a bunch, I'm the only person she opens up too, wants to hangout more, etc, etc. :3

 

IDE say take charge and ask her out, you are the guy bro, you shouldn't be the one kept waiting. If she delays it even longer then you can't keep up some fantasy that she will just turn around and change her mind, I know what your feeling towards her, but don't let her string you around when she is just taking her pick from a bunch, stand out and be yourself don't depend on her decision alone ask yourself wether you want to be in a relationship or not or maybe she is just cute and you guys get along well, wait it out but don't keep yourself unavailable cause you are potentially prolonging a rejection.