Online reationships

My story;

For those of you who don't know, Jonathan and I met online. We no longer date online since I moved from Australia to the United Kingdom. I want to know if you've ever dated online, if you're against it or for it?

Spoiler: Runescape related online dating series.

Spoiler: Click here if you'd like to read our story.

Back in August 2012 I met Jonathan whilst hunting Jadinkos on Runescape. He was an 'efficient' completionist cape player and asked if I knew how to hunt 'properly' since he was going for 200m at the time and thought he was all hot shit. I replied no and he offered to teach me. I added him to skype and he taught me how to hunt effectively. (most xp p/h without missing ticks)

One night I asked Jonathan if he wanted to watch me a movie with me. (we press play at the same time) he said yes and he called me on skype. This was the first time we had spoken to one another. After about 40mins into the movie 'Bad Teacher' I fell asleep, whilst still on mic so Jonathan ended the call.

The next day we spoke again and continued to speak everyday for the next week. Towards to end of August I had to go on a family holiday to Bali, which is where my oldest brother was getting married. We still spoke whilst I was on holiday as much as we could. Eventually I got back from my holiday and my feeling towards Jonathan were stronger than ever.

We continued to talk and eventually the conversation of meeting IRL came up, it never seemed like a realistic idea since I wasn't working and was living off fortnightly Centrelink payments. (I was renting a room) Jonathan was about to start his first year of University so he suggested that he came in his first break over Christmas. As I joke I replied, why can't you come next weekend. So from there he booked a plane ticket for the 7th of September. His parents didn't really agree, but since he was funding the flight himself they couldn't really tell him he couldn't go.

7th of September came around and I remember going to the airport and thinking to myself 'what if he isn't here, what if he doesn't like me, what if this is just a joke?'.. I remember being on the phone in the airport to my fiend Ben trying not to cry cause I was so scared. Then I saw this tall, fluffy haired spotty boy walk through the doors and I looked down at my phone hoping he wouldn't see me. Not because I didn't like him, but because I was so shy! He walked over too me and we had the most awkward hug and he kissed my head. We walked toward the Taxi rank and went back to my house.

During the 11 days he was here we did all kinds of stuff
> Went to Caversem wild life park and fed Kangaroos
> Went to Perth Zoo
> Went for walks around Perth
- We couldn't really do much since I didn't have any money cause I still at this time wasn't working.

The 18th of September came around and it was time to say goodbye. This was the hardest moment in my whole life. I didn't know if I would see him again, if we would still talk any more. I had never cried so much in my life. I remember my dad picking me up and watching him wave goodbye as I drove away.. It was so hard, I was so sad and this was the moment I told myself to get off my ass and get a job.

So I did, about three weeks after Jonathan left I got a job at Harvey Norman (Australian and Irish will know what this is) and I worked 38 hrs a week saving as much as I could to fund my visa and plane ticket to the UK so I could see Jonathan again (approx $2,000 for flight and visa).

Jonathan booked another ticket to Australia for 3 weeks over this Christmas uni-break. This time was better since I moved back to my mums, we bought a cheap car ($1500) so we could get around and visit more places. I still worked for he 3 weeks Jonathan was in Australia so he had to entertain himself throughout the day. He sun bathed and spent time with my family. January the 4th came and Jonathan left once again. This time wasn't as hard to say goodbye because he had already booked a ticket back for March 16th. The weeks between the second visit and the third went so fast, we still spoke every night and every morning. I continued to work which kept my mind busy.

March 16th! Jonathan's last visit, we still had our car but we ended up selling it since this was the last time Jonathan was coming back to visit me cause I had booked a ticket to fly back with him! After months of dating online and Jonathan flying to Australia three times I got to go live with him. Which was amazing... I flew from Perth to Dubai on the 31st of March and landed in Newcastle Airport on the 1st of April 2013.

and here we are now...

I don't think people can choose who they fall in love with, love just happens. I support online dating because anyone can make it work if they believe they can.

If anyone does have any questions regarding online dating then ask away!

Please also share your thoughts of 'e-dating' or any stories of your own!

 

Really interesting story to read tbh, Goodluck to both of you!

Also answering your question am not against dating online.

 

Personally, i'm not that type of person. I would never online date due to the risks of people not being who they claim to be as well with lack of physical contact.

I don't oppose to meeting people via dating websites but on a game like Runescape, no.

Not only is it risky, you're spending thousands of dollars for a plane ticket to see this person you don't even know if you will get along with in real life. Essentially, your first date was over $1500 for him. That is mental, even if you're family is extremely wealthy.

Congratulations to the both of you for making it work though.

 

I talked to you a little bit on skype about this, I think online dating can be a good thing as long as you actually have intentions of meeting the person in real life. Its a good way to meet people that you might have never come in contact with otherwise in a really casual way.

 

damn thats soo romantic read the it all, i think the hardest thing would be meeting face to face rather than on screen but you overcame this fear.
keep the relationship tight! GREAT STORY!

 

Yeah it was a lot of money, more for him then for me. Each of his plane tickets where about £900 = $1400 USD. But I hopefully don't think he regrets it

Thanks very much for taking the time to read it

 

personally wouldn't work for me, no point wasting time if you are never going to meet the person irl. and even if you did it wouldnt be that often

 

Depends on the situation, obviously she went to live with him.

 

He's comparing the amount of times it wouldn't work to the times it would. If the relationship didn't work out they both have spent over $3000 in expenses. No one in their right mind would spend that much money on another individual with no insurance that it'll work out.

If you take a girl out and she expects you to spend $1500 on the first date the likelihood you won't drop her off on the side of the road before you even get to the destination is extremely slim.

 

that was more or less a fluke, how often do these things work out? i mean i know a chick who did the same thing and moved from west to east coast to be with a guy she was dating on wow for like 5 years and the dude turned out to be a total nut job.

 

Very true, most people who've met online and then continued to date once they've met IRL don't workout. Every relationship if different and I would like to think Jonathan and I stand a chance.

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I never expected Jonathan to come to Australia all the time, he's a grown boy and makes his own choices too. He did spend a lot coming back and forth, but I also gave up a lot too. Priceless things, I wont get to see my family as often and the first time in my life I had a stable job. But I can honestly say we both have no regrets.

 

I would never do this simply because I watch a TV show called Catfish, and to see the disappointment on some of the peoples faces I wouldn't want to but myself in that position. Yours was a little different from what happens in catfish usually but I would still be to scared.

I'm glad to hear a success story from this though, it's nice to see people come threw when odds are against them (living in different countries and all).

 

I've seen the show Catfish and I don't understand how people can date someone as long as they have without calling them, without seeing them on cam, without even meeting them! Some people on the show had been dating for almost 5 years + . Crazy lol

and thanks

 

The emotional stress of a relationship yet no physical benefits? ya no

 

I met my ex at a music festival, and we online dated for around 6 months before she moved in with me. It was expensive travelling to see her every few weeks, and a real pain the arsehole. We broke up in may.

 

Due to the number of e-whores out there who use fake Skype voice changers to try to rob and gold dig off children who don't know better, not a chance.

 

Never experinced e dating as i married my highschool sweet hear. I watched catfish and it seems all those people were not smart.. If you take the right precuations just like you do in regular dating then i dont see anything wrong with it. Also the people talking about money. Is there a value on love? Mines priceless

 

I met my girlfriend online

When you think about it, the chances of the person you're going to spend your life with being in your area are pretty slim.

 

Slim enough to spend $1500+ on the first date?

Did you meet your girlfriend on a dating website or literally "online" as she did?

 

You can't put a price on love though.


and that's lovely Roary. People find love in the strangest of places.