Would You Date a Transgender?

I value how people perceive me way too much to ever be caught dead with a trannie.

 

You can always be like the guy who cut of his legs and became a women

 

^ I remember that video. Still makes me cringe...

@OP
It all depends on how I feel about the person. If I feel a romantic connection and they happen to transgender, I would go forward with it and see what happens.

 

As much as people say looks are obsolete you wouldn't date someone that looks like this regardless of their personality

 

If that's what you felt was you, why not? Why live an unhappy life because you can't be what you feel?

I bet there's someone out there that finds it attractive
I think what she's trying to say is responding to this topic with "only if she was hot" etc. is generally just stupid

 

I guess man but it was just my 2cents.
I don't understand it AT all

 

no never thats fucking gross

 

nope.

 

Would rather die.

 

I could not have put this in any better words to be honest.

 

This is a complete lie. I've done my research and I know FtM transgenders. It's actually harder for them in several ways.

For the most part, it's always been easier to add things via hormones (aka estrogen or androgyn, etc) than try and counteract the hormones that are already there. Same goes for surgeries. It is very hard to make a feminine chest look masculine, but, with breast augmentation, it's relatively easy to give a man a feminine chest. Facial feminisation surgery is amazing and actually gives you a very feminine jaw, cheekbones and chin, whereas I don't know of any such surgery for FtM transgenders. You may think that this goes for genitals too (Harder to remove a penis and add a vagina than to just remove a vagina and add a penis) but it doesn't. A vaginoplasty is very safe and is easier than the surgeries women are forced to undergo when trying to transition into a man.

Socitally it's debateable. I do know that for me, I face little descrimination as a trans woman. When I do it's never violent because nobody likes to hit a girly girl like myself, but most people would be fine hitting a butchy looking woman.

There's also more resources for us: Makeup, Spanks, Corcets, these things give us a feminine body type and face. I don't know of resources like that for FtM transgenders.

As well, laser hair removal is wonderful and sessions are short, painless and easily managable to make hair go away permanently.

So yeah, I hope I just made you reconsider your misconception

I was born guy, but i'm not a guy. There has always been a separation between gender and sex; that's just the way things are. My sex is male, but my gender is female. Your gender is what you see yourself as - what you feel right being. What you identify as. Ever since I was five, I have always identified as female. Can I explain it? No. If I could choose not to have my gender be female I would choose to; life would be a lot easier and I would face a lot less discrimination. It's not something I ever got to choose, though. Its something that's a part of me. Just how you were born liking women, I was born with a female gender, in a male's sex.

On a side note, i'd like to say I don't hide anything from anyone, which is a major reason why it's hard for me to get past a surface level relationship. I do this because I find it fair for people to know before I get into a relationship with somebody.

I also don't think that I should be forced to do so, even though I do. I find it odd that people think it's OK for people who already have a wife, or have an sti, or are secretly gay to start a relationship with somebody without telling them, but having a bit of extra flesh is unacceptable and needs to be told. We all hide things. Should fat people who wear long shirts to hide their bellies have to tell someone they're fat before getting into a relationship with them? Anyways, i'm getting off topic. The point is I do tell people because of the pressure to do so.

Other than that, I ask you not to pass judgement on something you don't see as normal; there's millions of people in the world. To you, it wouldn't be normal to live naked for the rest of your life, or to live on a farm with no internet, no tv, no nothing, but for other people that's very normal. Broaden your horizons. Accept others.

We need to love and respect eachother. We need to accept that nobody is "normal". It's something society, religion, and the media create for us. We need to understand eachother. We shouldn't pass judgement. We need to do these things. To be peaceful. To coexist.

 

I'd never want to be with a mutilated man that cross dresses and thinks he's a women. People with that sense of mentality scare me, obviously all their eggs aren't in the basket. I'm all for gay marriage and equal rights but transgender people IMO give the gay community a bad reputation and aren't all there.

 

That's fine, it's you're opinion and i'm glad you voiced it in a respectful way.

Personally, I don't like trans people being associated with gays, lesbians, bi's etc, because of this:

Being transgender isn't a sexual orientation. It's being born in the wrong sex. There's straight, gay, bi, and even asexual transgender people. That's not debatable. That's a fact.

On a side note, a lot of your information up top is not up to date. A crossdresser is somebody who hasn't taken any steps in their transition... somebody who hasn't had any hormones, any surgies, nothing at all. Those people have nothing to do with what I am. Most crossdressers are just confused gay guys, I have to admit. Once someone starts taking steps towards their transition, that's when they become a sucessful transgender.

 

Lol if i were you i'd move to either San Francisco California or Miami, those have the highest amount of trannys in the U.S.

 

I absolutely could, I'm a pansexual.

Although all my partners so far have been female.

 

I'm assuming by your name and signature you are female and the blunt truth is that males care much more about looks than females. And not just looks, the fact that the sexual organs have been altered freaks me out. I could make friends with someone like that but anything sexual would be hard to get used to. Not saying it would never happen, just unlikely. I completely support the idea of sexual equality but to be in a relationship seems too complicated.

 

Interesting contradiction you hold there.

So are you saying that before you started transitioning, then you were just a confused gay?

And what if the crossdresser simply does not have the finances to go about transitioning, they are not transgender because "transitioning" defines it? Why couldnt they just have been "born in the wrong sex" as well, they just cant afford it like you can? Thats very bigoted and contradictory.

Really this shit is ridiculous. There is no such thing as "being born the wrong sex". You are a guy. A cat is a cat. A girl is a girl. Period. Now just because you may have some emotional/identity issues, you WANT to be a girl. You may take steps to make yourself look and be more of a girl. But that does not mean you were born in the wrong sex, and it does not MAKE you a girl. It simply means you would rather be a girl.

As such, you are gay. You are a gay who may look/act/be more feminine in nature than other gays, but you are a gay male nonetheless.

 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_identity_disorder#Biological_causes

 

"formal diagnosis used by psychologists and physicians to describe persons who experience significant dysphoria (discontent) with the sex they were assigned at birth and/or the gender roles associated with that sex."

I experience significant dysphoria that I am not a tall african american male. Or an astronaut. Or unimaginably wealthy. But we dont get everything we want in life, and just because something displeases me, does not mean that I am entitled, or even able, to change it.

OP may not like the fact that he is a male. he may take as many steps as he wants to try and change that. he may even be diagnosed with GID (read: he doesnt like being a male). But at the end of the day, regardless of how displeasing it is to him, he is still a male with an identity crisis.

 

There's a difference between not liking being something and feeling naturally inclined that you are another. It's not any different from knowing you're straight or knowing you're gay, you feel naturally that you are.

Calling it ridiculous is a bit unfair. Why people can't just be happy for one another, I don't know.