Girl Problem

Yeah I hear what you guys are saying. I have already talked to her about it and I am going to go stay overnight with her on the fourth so we will see what happens.

 

Without really reading the other comments I can tell you this:

Go for it! You've known each other for so long... just be sure to talk things out with everyone but I'd just go for it... especially given the username you registered here with. Make that username a lie!

 

If your family is as close with hers as you claim, chances are they'd more than likely approve of and support the idea of the relationship. I'd say go for it. Do it the respectful way and ask her father about it and see what he says. I believe the fact that you're respecting him enough to ask first would work in your favor and give you a huge advantage.

 

Thank you for the tips guys,and I will be seeing him tomorrow so I plan on sitting down and having the conversation with him and explaining the situation. I believe that I will earn more respect that way. At least that is what I am going for.

 

So I had the conversation with her dad. His only request is that we physically go on a few dates to make sure that this is both what we want before we become "boyfriend and girlfriend" officially. It went a lot better then I thought it was going to to be honest. So next week I'm taking her out we will see what happens any first date idea's? Beside the movie and dinner idea.

 

You'll never know unless you give it a try!

 

I'm glad to hear that man, you did everything right and I hope it works out. Why don't you text her and ask if there's anything she feels like doing?

 

Yeah I did we went out on a date on tuesday it was pretty nice. I took her to a expensive restaurant and then we went to walk down by the river.

 

Expensive restaurant so just wrong. Trust me when I tell you this. Restaurant is the worst place to go on a 1st date if you have known her for so long. It might be just me but I'd want to be close with the girl of my dream (and she would want to do the same) and restaurant isn't the place for that. Should have organised an empty house and prepaired a nice meal for the two you you. Eat, joke around and later give her a massage, start by touching her hands and move slowly up for the shoulders and let the magic begin. It works like a charm. Later she could do the same for you. That beats a restaurant meal any day of the week.

 

Well it couldn't have been that bad because she wants to go on another one. Plus I'm not in a rush for "magic" to happen. So no reason for all of that in my opinion.

 

I think you misunderstood what I ment with magic. I DID NOT MEAN FUCKING. Just saying that sitting in a restaurant is far from an ideal date.
Movies > restaurant

Well ofcs she wants to go on another date since she likes you, but don't think that she likes you because you took her to a restaurant lol. She would have gone fishing with you and still gone on another date with you.

 

I never claimed nor thought she liked me because I took her to a nice restaurant. I would hope she likes me for being me. If not then there isn't a point of us dating anyways. Also the night consisted of mini golf, followed by food and then a walk down by the river and icecream. It isn't like we just sat in the restaurant all night.

 

You say both parents have known each other for 22 years? with that being said, her parents would have known you whilst growing up? I'm sure her parents would much rather someone that has been in their lives for years, so to speak, rather than to have a stranger date their beloved daughter. Go for it mate, you can't control emotional feelings toward a significant other, you have a chance, take it!

 

Yeah they have and they have "approved" so to speak. It's just about making sure everything is going the way that it should or how you want it before you go and make that jump in a "serious" relationship.

 

take your time, there's never a rush when dealing with a significant other.

 

Update: I just talked to her she said she wants to keep dating for about 2 months before we do anything serious. Just going on dates here and there. Does anyone feel this is to long to wait for a chance with someone? I personally don't.

 

Its up to you to decide if its worth it, if you like her of course it is.

 

If you really care for her and think shes worth the wait the it must be. Every female deserves respect so if you respect her wishes to take it slow, dates here and there then shes more likely to respect you too. 2 months is a long time for a guy to hold of from things, specially for someone they fancy. It's commitment but I wouldn't deem it impossible.

 

My advice is to first go to the softer parent (your mom or your dad) who ever you are comfortable with the most. Then slowly bring up the topic but don't get too specific. See their reaction and if it is a good reaction keep going with the topic. If it is a bad reaction end the topic but still be with the girl you love. You don't need their approval to love.

 

The person you love should also be your best friend. Go for it and I wish you the best of luck. If you have known each other for so long and things don't work out, you will eventually be friends again.