What to do..

When your wife/husband or girlfriend/boyfriend dies?
is it different if you are married or is it the same both ways?

I think its weird moving on to another person if someone you were married to died
but... i dunno what would you guys do?

i feel like it would be disrespectful to move on but at the same time you do need someone in your life too

 

There's nothing wrong with being with someone else, but you probably wouldn't want to disclose it to certain people until a bit of time has passed so as not to upset anybody. Somebody shouldn't be forced to be alone because their loved one died.

 

Time heals bro.

After enough time you will feel fine to be with someone else.
I'm sure the person who passed will want you to be happy and if being with a certain other person makes you happy, then that will be the right thing to do.

IMO

 

I don't think it's wrong down the line, I think your spouse/gf would want you to be happy. I have never had a boyfriend die to be honest so this is just from perspective.

 

Yeah I know EXACTLY what you mean had this thought like last year if your married spouse dies ofc you will have to move on eventually to be happy i think if you have a CHILD then that feeling of meeting someone new sort of scares you because will your child accept the new person? I know for a fact that if i had to deal with a step mom i would make her life a living hell thats just me i would not want anyone else like that in my life at all

 

It's probably not best to rush into a relationship after you lose someone close to you. Take time to heal but at the same time there is no reason why you couldn't eventually meet someone and fall in love again. That doesn't take away any love you may have had for the person you lost, but you do need to move on with your life and be happy.

 

I'd leave sufficient time for grieving first and foremost, as to not upset anybody else due to mixed feelings about things. Make sure you're ready, and when you're ready to move on that's completely fine you deserve to be happy. I don't personally know how it feels to lose a spouse, but I could imagine it being quite upsetting. Just don't trick yourself into thinking you need someone to move on and be happy, just think positively and try to focus on the life you do have instead of the life you lost.