What is up with all the sex?

Honestly why are all the kids now a days all gung ho about having sex?

let me rephrase my question.

Why are kids (10-15) so adamant about having sex, like if you want to be cool you are supposed to have sex. If you don't have sex you are lame. "She wants the D" the fuck? no. She wants a nice guy that will take care of her. It's all about sex now. Sex this sex that, boyfriend here girlfriend there. All the hit songs talk about sex drugs. What happened to the days where you can have a girlfriend and not have to have sex?

 

It is all about the opening of culture. Essentially we are just coming out of a period of repression, something like 200 - 1000 years of personal repression at the hand of those who are perceived to have power. In Roman times sexuality was openly expressed, in times before that you can go to India where an entire temple was devoted to sex, and before that sexual manuals were produced in the Asian continent. Study history a little and it can give perspective as to the 'antiquation' of the beliefs that were developed (and really honed by the Victorians) due to the rise of religious culture.

 

let me rephrase my question.

Why are kids (10-15) so adamant about having sex, like if you want to be cool you are supposed to have sex. If you don't have sex you are lame. "She wants the D" the fuck? no. She wants a nice guy that will take care of her. It's all about sex now. Sex this sex that, boyfriend here girlfriend there. All the hit songs talk about sex drugs. What happened to the days where you can have a girlfriend and not have to have sex?

Secondly yeah ok so what? there is history about sex ans sexuality. Thank god otherwise I wouldn't be here. I'm not saying sex is a bad thing. All I'm saying is that KIDS DONT NEED TO BE HAVING SEX. Why do they think they need to have sex?

 

Kids will be kids, the ones who say that are immature and should stay virgins, to eliminate the risk of their reproduction.

 

Why do you have the authority to say they shouldn't be having sex? I may think they shouldn't have kids, but I have no right to say YOU DON'T NEED TO HAVE SEX. I mean really, if you look back or even if you look at many of the third world nations today they start having kids at 13 and 14 to make a subsistence living. It's all sociological factors that play into it. Sex has been taboo for so long. Technically you are old enough to have sex once you have been through puberty, but we label children under 18 incompetent. So once the hormones take effect and kids start having sex people like you are like 'OMG, U KIDZ HAZ NO SEX!' It's all cultural and sociological.

Life is all about sex, we are biologically driven to reproduce to continue the race. Every animal is.

I forgot about the eggnog guy, either way. OP should have posted it in GD if he isn't going to make some sort of argument.

 

The reason is because we live in a broken society. It's like an evil living and breathing organism trying to spread across the world.

 

the days were "you had a gf and never had sex" NEVER existed lol. This has been going on for generations sorry to say. The sex revolution was in the 60s and 70s. Way more sex was being had then in 2013. WE MUST have sex that is what our body tells us to do. Now since we can't have 14-17 year old kids, humans have used our brains to create things like condoms and birth control. In my country the pill/morning after pill can be free to persons 14-17 for free/min cost and with out parents knowing. Also schools(highschool and college) give out free condoms to those who need it. You can't stop someone from doing something that they are biologically set to do. You can only prevent STI's and un-wanted pregnancy's.

EDIT 10 year olds can't have sex. Also all the music was about sex/drugs 30-40 years ago as well.

EDIT 2:

No one is forcing you to have sex with her. If you are not ready don't do it. If she really cares for you she will understand. If not then she never cared for you in the first place.

EDIT: You really should not care if people in your high school think you are lame for not having sex. You really have no idea how insignificant their opinions are. You might not realize this until you are out.

 

I'm asking you these two questions, before I answer the above quote: How old are you? Are you a virgin, or do girls not like you? You don't have to answer if you feel it's private stuff.

So; wtf is "KIDS DONT NEED TO BE HAVING SEX." As you phrase your sentences, and the way you react leads me to believe you are a kid yourself. Also, have you ever thought, that only the people who don't live a sextual life are bothered by others living one?

Also, who exactly do you think you are to judge who needs what? I mean, who are you to say they don't need to have sex? Sex is not only about making children; I'm not sure if you noticed but sex is also for joy - Now, would you tell a grown up he doesn't need to play with LEGO for instance, just because they are not children anymore? I don't think so. Classifying activities with age groups in today's society is in itself ridiclious.

Why do you think you have the autohority to decide who needs what?

You are ready for sex, once you've gone through the phases of puberty, you aren't ready for sex when you turn 16, or once you've grown up, I don't know how you came up with this missconception.

 

How is it broken?

 

I am wondering much of the same thing to be honest. Seems like some of the beliefs I was referring to are prevalent in that argument. Sex is a biological function, just like breathing but it has been demonized.

 

Shitting is a biological function too. We don't want people shitting in the streets and so there definitely is a role for society to play in determining the role of sex in society.

 

Yes, and so is masturbation. Being a biological function does not mean that it is justified (I know you're not arguing for that, I'm just supporting your point).

I actually agree with the OP here. Sex is slowly becoming more prominent in our society. It's important to understand why sex is oppressed in the first place. I would suggest reading Aldous Huxley's "Brave New World" to get a hint at the answer.

It's because sex makes us irrational. Try solving a difficult math problem while you're horny. Better yet, try to solve an easy math problem while actually having sex.

Sigmund Freud would probably denote it as something that epitomizes the animal-like behaviors of our "id". In his book "Civilization and its Discontents", sex would be one of the entities that we must be willing to give up to coalesce as a society.

By doing so, we provide a rational society. By removing the impulsive aspects of our "id" from the society (such as sex), we are thereby opening the gates to predictability, which in a way, can be shifted towards social progress, or improvement.

 

How old are you? 19, turning 20 in April, so kinda sorta technically could be a kid.

Are you a virgin, or do girls not like you? Not a virgin, i feel they do. but not every girl.

"So; wtf is 'KIDS DONT NEED TO BE HAVING SEX.'."

They honestly don't. 13-15 year olds hardly even know what a penis/vagina are let alone know about reproduction and taking care of a child.

Also, who exactly do you think you are to judge who needs what? I am basing it off my own experience and knowledge.
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I was 16 my first time, sure it was good, but was it needed no, it is probably one of my worst mistakes. Nothing good came of it really.

"Sex is not only about making children; I'm not sure if you noticed but sex is also for joy"

If you think you need to have sex to feel joy, I feel sorry for you. Sex shouldn't be tossed around willy nilly, yeah it can be pleasurable but so can other less intiment things.

You are ready for sex, once you've gone through the phases of puberty, you aren't ready for sex when you turn 16, or once you've grown up, I don't know how you came up with this missconception.

Just because you are physically capable of having sex doesn't mean you are ready. You are ready to have sex when you know what happens, when you fully understand sex and know the pros and cons of sex.

 

I have read Brave New World. I have also read Plato's republic which is what Huxley based Brave New World on (you should read them both at once. At least the parts where Plato is constructing his city).

You don't need to do math while having sex. Sex is perfectly healthy and it is also good for you. Teaching our kids about sex and when to have it and stuff would be much better than trying to repress it more. American culture already shuns basically anything to do with sex. You don't talk about it. It's seen as dirty. It shouldn't be. It should be open and honest and we should all talk about it. There's no reason we can't.

 

I never said anything different, but it has been demonized by the powers that be. Society tries to hide it like a dirty secret.

 

Or maybe that you're being biased based off your own experiences, sexual nature is becoming much more open than it has been in the - recent - past. Hell, people no longer need to try and find a Playboy magazine to see porn, the internet is readily at their disposal.
If they know about sex, they know about reproduction.
As prior stated, sex isn't only for reproductive means, but also for pleasure. It can be seen as a way to take a relationship "to the next level", or simply to have fun on a night out.

If it wasn't needed, you shouldn't of done it; that was your decision. If you weren't 100% sure, you shouldn't of done it.

... I think he meant that it's more of a.. perk of sex and it's a way to have some fun. Less intimate things? You pretty much got masturbation, that's bout it.

Unless you live in an extremely sheltered home, by the time you're capable of having sex; you know what it is. Like seriously, no shit it gets people pregnant, hell I think most kids know that by the age of 10. As for the pros and cons aspect of it, I'd like to think most people don't just blindly jump into sex for the first time, but actually think about it. Not counting, there aren't exactly a large list of cons: pregnancy (easily avoidable), STD's (wear a condom and don't sleep around). Sure there may be others, but those are the first two big ones that come to mind.

 

That's the thing, people are starting to believe you NEED to have sex to take a relationship to a next level. People have sex just for fun, THAT is the problem.

One word: Hormones. Raging teen hormones cloud you judgement, they basically take over. Yes, i shouldn't have done it, and i regret it. It was a stupid mistake. But what my point has been is that children are proud about it, they are engulfed by it.

you dont need sex to have fun, what's wrong with going out and doing something active, ice skating, climb a mountain, something you both enjoy, have fun that way, don't rely on sex, find some common ground. A relationship built on sex will not last.

Do you think kids fully understand sex, and the responsibilities involved in taking care of a kid? Condoms break, you dont know who the other person you are getting into bed with, has done the exact same thing with. Most people with an STD don't even know it.

 

Having sex does take a relationship to the next level, quite frankly it's a very important part of a relationship. Jumping into it, maybe not; but the physical aspect of a relationship is important.
That is a problem says who? It's their own body, if someone wants to go to a club, and have a one night stand; go ahead. Not counting that I don't believe many 13 year olds are sleeping around with loads of people. Hell, most people don't lose their virginity till 15-16 (at the minimum IMO.) Sure, there are cases where people lose it earlier, but I'd say that's the median age (someone feel free to Google it, I don't feel like it atm.)

Lol'd, that's not an excuse. It's like using alcohol as an excuse for a bad decision, take control of your body and your actions. If someone doesn't regret a decision they've made, of course they're going to be proud of it.

No, you don't, nor did I ever say you did. There isn't anything wrong with it, but again sex is a different kind of fun compared to going out for a hike with your significant other.

I never stated a relationship built on sex would last, but that's your opinion. Plenty of people have met in a bar, had sex that night, and went on and ended up getting married.

You fully missed the fact that a kid is a possible outcome, that is easily avoided. Condoms breaking is a rarity at best, not counting there's the morning after pill, birth control, and abortion.
That's why you ask, generally if you're in a relationship and you've talked about sex, you've known how far they've gone. Also not taking into consideration that I'd say most teenagers don't have a ridiculous amount of STD's. (Also not sure, but aren't you legally required to inform your partner if you have an STD?)
Mind showing me that statistic? A majority of the time it's pretty obvious when you have an STD, not counting doctors visits and tests and such.

 

Do children really need to take their relationship to the next level? lets focus more on kids because that was the whole point of this thread. I'm kinda in different on kids not sleeping around. I would say that 15-16 is a good estimate but it seems as if that it is getting younger and younger.

Never said it was an excuse, i take full responsibility for it and like i said i regret it.

kids dont need to have sex to have fun. plain and simple. there are many other things that they could do.

again irrelevant to the current age group

what 13 year old would buy a condom, not saying they dont but still, fairly unlikely.

again, buying them, abortion some places you need a legal guardian there.

yes you are legally obligated to let them know but how do you know if you have one? and i doubt the first thing to pop into a kids mind before they do have sex is Oh, do you hav an std? they are most likely excited because they get to see boobs.

http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/news/20020212/most-people-carrying-stds-dont-know

 

Um.. If they're happy with where there relationship is at, sure. All they need to do is be safe, and either way it's their decision. Age is just a number, once someone hits like 15 they're pretty sound. It's not up to older people to dictate how one-each-other feel.

Says you. You do not have ANY right to dictate what other people do with their body. It's a different kind of fun, they can have sex and still have a perfectly fine relationship that does plenty of other activities. Just because they have sex doesn't mean it's going to be detrimental to their relationship.

Any 13 y/o that would want to have sex? Hell, if they're scared to they can get one from school. Sex is becoming less-and-less taboo and it simply ain't a big deal.
Not unlikely at all.

Buying them isn't exactly hard, and they can be received for free from various clinics (not counting from peers.)
Some sure, but there are plenty that don't require it.

Most people have yearly checkups.. and STD's like crabs are quite noticeable. I think you're completely overplaying sex. Sex in most relationships don't just jump from nothing to home base all at once. Not counting the conversation has probably taken place, and if it's a party-scene there's sure to already be rumors of who has what. Most people know who is and who isn't a whore at their schools.

Want to find one more recent? It's more than 10 years old.. wouldn't even be able to use that in a research project.