2nd day at new school

After quitting school 4 years ago i decided to get my diploma. I'm following lessons in 2 different schools. In the first school everything is ok, great people, i enjoy being there. But at the 2nd school, I'm feeling uncomfortable, a feeling that i haven't had for a long time.

I can't seem to find my way into the group. I mean, I do already have a group of people who I stay with at breaks but whenever theres a conversation I just can't seem to say anything "constructive" about it, ever... Even when it's something I know much about or something i can relate to. And when I do I've got a dry mouth or it feels like somethings in my throat or it comes out in a boring way. I can't seem to speak in a confident way, like i usually do.
The only things i'm doing is yes-ing/agree-ing & no-ing & laughing when a joke is made for some reason :/. I can't seem to be spontaneous about anything either. Aside of that I'm also making stupid mistakes which i never make which makes me look like a confused person? The group is very nice to me (the "tuffest" guy even waited for me after he finished his intake-exam(while i'd have gone home) and offered me a ride home, i refused cus i didn't want to end up in the above situations any longer), they are very social and i do like all of them, but i always feel like im holding back, my brains are 'blocking?' up, i cant be who i usually am..? I really don't know why this is happening. In the morning however, everything is fine with me, i can speak like i usually do but as the day passes i end up in the above situations.

All of that is making me very uncomfortable throughout the day and its pretty frustrating/demotivating aswell. I have always been the 'good talker' of a group and the one who breaks the ice when meeting new people but this time i'm the total opposite of that. Some sideinfo: this is not an issue of being left out and all of the people are 21+ year old adult/mature guys/girls who quit school when they were younger and who wanna get their diplomas. I'll have to spend the next 2 years with all of them.

Help :x? what can i do meh If anyone can relate to this i'd like to know.

 

Might just be nerves. Could also be due to new surroundings or unfamiliar territory. The second school at which you're uneasy at, how does it differ from the school you're confident and your normal self at?

 

At the 2nd school there's a different type of people, I think that's the best way to say it? I think I am definitely nervous but there's no reason to be, yet I am :s. I just can't seem to "snap" out of it.

 

It'll take a while to settle in, but you will eventually. "New" students are alwys shy and awkward to begin with, especially because the others probably feel the same way. You'll get to know them as individuals and you'll feel more comfortable. It wont last

 

you just sound shy homie. happens to almost all of us, very few people are truly confident in social situations around people they're not all too familiar with.

just try n relax, quit trying to force yourself to fit in and be you. this also might sound dumb, but if you have xbox live or psn and your new crew does too, play some call of duty with em or some shit. believe it or not and this sounds nerdier than fuck but i became waaay more comfortable with some people by playing xbox live with them. you feel a lot more comfortable when talking to people than irl.

just a suggestion

 

You'll get cracked in there man its just the butterflies, I used to get them all the time sitting in class thinking im way dumber than all the other people in the class you'll get over it. Drink some water and wipe the sweat away, close your eyes and say lets get the fuck down to business.

 

Believe it or not, the xbox part is right lol. A few years back, I got my sister's boyfriend into xbox, and I started playing with his friends also online, and now when I see his friends in real life and we play basketball and shit, we act like we've been friends forever, xbox live is actually really good for communication with people you know in real life.

 

Thx all for responding.
Aboutthe xbox tip, its a decent idea that could help some but im not THAT shy. Im usually very social, but in the 2nd school i just dont feel like my usual self(unconfy,nervous,stressy).
All the guys on the school are new students btw, just like me, so im not being looked at as a new studeqnt or something.

 

You just need time. everyone needs time to adapt to the new enviroment. So do not think too much and take it easy. I am sure you will feel better in next 2 weeks

 

You just need to relax and stop over thinking the situation. You guys are all new, your not trying to impress a girl or anything so I'm not sure why you seem "seized" when your with them.

You say your a good talker, so just be chill about the conversations and get some of your words in there every now and then. Just don't be that guy that talks about everything nonstop. (yanno what I mean.) We are just all human beings, nothing more.

Enjoy the schools and hope you have a stress-free year.

 

Yea thx man

 

Take comfort in knowing that they have accepted you into their group. They obviously like you, no need to act like jabbering jackass now

 

Yeah, if they have accepted you then I would take that, but in all honest your at school for you and no one else and at the end of the day they won't be there 5 years down the road so I would just focus on my studies if I were you.

 

Hi Franks, I read in some of your posts made on other threads about you going to start school again

Although I havent been very active in Sythe lately I can easily tell that what you're experiencing is something very common: They are probably a group that knows each other for a while, and you might feel that you're the new one there so thats what probably makes you uncomfortable. They are trying to include you so there is no reason to feel like that, it will take a while till you enter the comfort zone as you are just starting to know them

 

Thx all for your responses, it's going better now. I think I just got overloaded by feelings I hadn't had to deal with in a long time which caused the nervousness & lil probs i explained >.<! I also compared the 2 schools i'm in too much. It's logic that won't go as smooth each and every time.

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