Self Harm..

So I've been self harming for about 1 year now. Mainly with a pencil sharper blade or razor blades. I don't know it just feels taking the pain out on my self for not good enough for anyone and me being a failure in life, not doing well in my GCSE's or A levels. I have literally no IRL friends, I never go out. I work 5 days a week and all the other time I just sit at home on my Computer playing RS. Its my only escape, the only thing I like doing and its the only thing that actually gets me by in life, I just think once Ive finished work I can go home and play RS as sad as that sounds.

It all started when I broke up with my Girlfriend, my world basically ended. She was the one person I could tell everything to, she was my best friend, soul mate, and I still think about her every day and its been a year last week since we broke up. Ive tried to stop cutting but whenever I get upset or lonely it just comes back and I have to cut to make things better, its like it takes the pain of everything else away and makes my life bearable
for a moment.

I want to start a new life, quit RS, find someone who will make me happy but I feel I have no hope or how will someone accept me when they see the scars on my arms and legs. I feel like a failure and I hate myself for what I've done but I want to start a new life, I need to quit RS, my wages goes on GP and its just a complete waste of money when I can save money for my future.

I need help on how to quit, how to stop cutting. I've been to a psychiatrist, who was fucking useless, didn't help one bit and didn't understand what I was going through. I feel if I go out and do something with my life instead of playing RS then I can be happier and meet new people but RS is the only thing that keeps me going at the moment.

Steven.

 

Well it seems like if world things cant help you like a psychiatrist, when you need to work on yourself by yourself, just sit down and jot down some of your thought about why you arent meeting your own life goals and expectations, constantly read them daily and find ways to cope with them. Runescape man id have to say its quite addicting 1st step to taking over runescape and not letting it take over you is stop using IRL gp to buy gold, second step is to plan IRL things before runescape things finally you will find yourself not having time for it anymore....

BOOM !!! Problem solved.

 

I self harmed for a long period of time. I found that counselling did no good, also.

You've got to first accept failure. Trying to stop cutting is an exceptionally hard thing to do. Let's say you go two days resisting urges and then relapse.. that's normal. Just make it three days next time. I'm not going to tell you, just stop it's making things worse, because I know it's hard to do, but you have to want to stop in the first place. You have to rid your mind of all the negativity and think hey - maybe if I give this a try it might just work.

I bet every single one of us on here as experienced or witnessed heart-break. It's a totally common thing, and I'm sure everyone would agree that it heals. Time heals pain.

I could go on, but I'm gonna suggest you add my Skype instead. Good luck with everything.

 

I can't say anything about self harming other than that fact that it literally will make you never have any solid friends and will drive every girl away from you. You say you want to find someone who will make you happy, but that isn't going to happen, you already know the only person who will make you happy and that is yourself. If you don't make yourself happy then nobody will and you will just perpetuate your sadness and loneliness.

First off you are probably addicted to the internet. Just once or twice a week stop and go out and do something else like literally anything. Secondly idk where you work but if you are like 99% of people you work somewhere with a bunch of others so talk to them and you should probably wear long sleeves until your cut marks go away.

Once you get out and about and start chatting with people you will find that you depression and loneliness will start to fade, then you might actually logically think about why you are cutting yourself and decide that it makes the kinda sense that shooting up heroin because it makes you feel better makes.

Being cooped up in a single place goes against every natural instinct that people have which is travelling for food, communal interaction (part of something bigger than oneself hence the popularity of religion), contributing to those around you, ect.

Also going out and participating in activities will allow you to make friends and who knows maybe even a girlfriend, but THATS NOT THE POINT OF THEM, the point is to give yourself some fulfillment. From the fulfillment comes confidence and from the confidence you will start to attract some girls towards you.

 

I agree tenfold with this^^
I was never into cutting but I loved burning myself with anything I could get my hands on. What helped me stop was just not putting myself in the situation to do it... I know that sounds stupid but just keep yourself busy. I know it sucks when you lose a girl that you love but it always happens for a reason. My ex of 3 years and the mother of my child broke up with me about year and half ago. I have to say I didn't know what to do with myself. You will always love this girl but day by day it gets easier trust me! Just make sure you focus on yourself. I have to say what took my mind off of it was work and working out. Like I said before !!Keep Yourself Busy!! When your busy it keeps everything off of your mind and you just focus on the task at hand.