Need relationship advice.

Hello Sythe.

I've known this girl for a few years. And this year we started making things a bit more serious but recently it has being going really bad between us.
I screwed up big time, and she doesn't want me back.
But does anyone have any ideas of a method to maybe get her back?

 

How did you "screw up" exactly?

 

Don't act like you want her back. She'll have time to cool off about it, and maybe realise it's not as bad as she thinks. Dependant on what it is you've done to screw up I suppose.

 

Depends on how you screwed up, but yes acting like you don't care to have her back anymore either will most likely pull her back in unless you were constantly ignoring her or cheated on her in which cases you are fucked.

 

This ^

Although to get some better advice you'll have to tell us exactly how you screwed up.

 

Already mentioned but yeah just move on with your life.
Not sure where you guys went wrong or how you 'screwed up', but just be happy and she'll see you're a changed man.
Just don't go chasing after her, that'll just make you seem desperate and needy. Girls are not generally attracted to those kind of guys

 

The main thing that screwed it up was the part I changed a bit and became more selfish and crossed some of her boundries.

 

Yeah, but what boundries?

A don't sleep with my mum kind of boundry? Or a don't wear shoes in my room kind of boundry?

 

When we were together I started doing thing she didn't felt comfortable with me doing, and she started being afraid of me.

 

Im not being harsh when i say this but, it seems you are kinda being standoffish whenever we ask what type of things did you do, the first advise i would give is be open with us its the only way your going to get some good advise man. "what are things she dosent feel comfortable with"

 

Well if she feels uncomfortable and scared of whatever it is you're doing, surely if you love her and care about her you'll stop? I know if my girlfriend was scared of me I'd quit it. Like Nerfed said, you're not gonna get any good advice that will properly help unless you tell us the exact problem.

 

Time. Time heals.

 

The only real reason a girl would be scared of a guy is threats/implied or actual violence. Boundaries sounds sort of like you drinking/doing drugs too much, so logically based on what you have told us you probably get drunk/high and either fight others around her which pisses her off or you actually hit her.

If you seriously want her back, go check yourself into rehab because if your habits are negatively affecting your relationship with her (by your own admission) then it is a problem. After you get out give her a call/text and tell her that you are trying to clean yourself up and you need her help kinda ordeal.

If you hit her though you are completely fucked both situationally and in the head.

 

I've never hit her and never have my intentions been to hurt her.
And I have barely been drinking when being around her.

 

Then what have you done to scare her?

 

Sometimes I can be too desperate about things and at other times barely care at all.

 

Just Walk up to her with flowers and ask for forgiveness sometimes works.

 

Write a hand-written apology letter, seems to work better than a facebook message or email...shows you put time and effort into it.

 

Not sure if this will help you but uhhh...worth a shot I guess.

http://advicetogetmyexback.com/