So Sythe.org, I bring my issues to you.

Well, it's a really simple issue. You might think this is pathetic that I'm calling it an issue, but I really need some opinions.

Basically, I have a girlfriend right now. I'm a Junior in high school, she's a sophomore. I'm about 6'00" with brown hair, great eyes (as the girls tell me), and weigh about 150 pounds. I'm not a twig but I wouldn't say I'm huge. Either way, just giving you a picture of me. I don't struggle much getting girls.

My GF is a taller than average, but not huge blonde. She's got a great body, and the sex is really great (we've been together for almost 2 months). I love spending time with her and I can actually hangout with her as a friend as much as a girlfriend.

Then there's this girl. Also a sophomore, but honestly, the most beautiful girl I know. She's not that girl that you think about like having hard-core sex, but she's amazing. Drop dead gorgeous. She was in my Spanish class last year (and is in it this year too) and we might of spoken 5 times, which for me, being an arrogant, cocky jock of a student, is not a lot for me with most girls. But she actually intimidates me. She's pruder than most her age, and that just makes me more interested.

OK to the main point. Today in school, me, my GF, and my GF's best friend were walking. My GF's best friend goes to my GF (while I'm way too high to focus) so yeah Mia (girl in Spanish class) was like wow you have a really hot BF (talking to my GF) and that she went on to say that she always had a crush on me.

I texted my gf tonight, and here's the convo (didn't ask out of the blue, this is middle of our normal convo):
Me: Who was talking about me today that Madison was telling us about?
GF: Mia?
Me: Yeah does she smoke? (Said that because I sold my GF's friends weed and thought she was one)
GF: No and she's never touched alcohol in her life and she's the prudest girl I know (this made me think my GF was a bit defensive?)
Me: Lol then what was she talking about?
GF: She said "you have a hot boyfriend" and a little more.
Me: Oh haha cause she was in my spanish class lat year too and I was like wow i didn't think she smoked but now I get it.
GF: Hahha yeah she's crazy
Me: You must get the hot bf thing a lot... whatever nbd
-convo about mia ends-

I felt like I played it pretty cool.
I guess the decision that I'm asking for help with is really simple. My GF is great and all, but thinking about the other girl makes me just as happy. What should I do?

I've come up with the idea of slowly sparking up conversations with the girl who isn't my GF, while keeping things normal with my GF. Test the waters, see if she talks to me like most girls do that have a thing for someone. That being said, I don't want to be known for like using girls or jumping from gf to gf too fast, if that makes sense?

IDK, but I'm straight up mind-fucked. Help me!

 

What was your gf's reaction when mia told her that?

 

Mia didn't tell her, my GF's best friend said Mia had told her (my gf's best friend) that. Haha, small detail.

I texted my gf (adding this to OP) tonight, and here's the convo (didn't ask out of the blue, this is middle of our normal convo):
Me: Who was talking about me today that Madison was telling us about?
GF: Mia?
Me: Yeah does she smoke? (Said that because I sold my GF's friends weed and thought she was one)
GF: No and she's never touched alcohol in her life and she's the prudest girl I know (this made me think my GF was a bit defensive?)
Me: Lol then what was she talking about?
GF: She said "you have a hot boyfriend" and a little more.
Me: Oh haha cause she was in my spanish class lat year too and I was like wow i didn't think she smoked but now I get it.
GF: Hahha yeah she's crazy
Me: You must get the hot bf thing a lot... whatever nbd
-convo about mia ends-

I felt like I played it pretty cool.

 

A lot of details in this we didn't need to know, such as hair colors, your height and stuff, but nontheless this is easy.

It breaks down to you. We can tell you that you are in high school, so go experiment with the other girl to see how it is. Or we can say that you should stay with your current girlfriend to see if it amounts to anything. Both suggestions are seemingly good, but for us to tell you what to do is not acceptable. Life is not black and white, and this is one of several grey areas you will encounter. Some questions you should ask yourself though would be: Do I see a future with this current girlfriend?, Is this other girl just going to be for sex (haven't spoken to her much)?, Does current girlfriend back me up in what my plans are after high school? Etc...

If you do decide to break up with your current girlfriend to chase this other little honey, and talk with her more that's great. Thing is, if you are having such this great time with girlfriend number 1, then why waste it? Either way I do hope this helps, and yes I am direct.

 

The seemingly unnecessary details were supposed to give a little idea of what the picture should look like.

Anyways, I'm not looking to get my answer from here. I'm simply interested in how people feel about the situation, and it's easier for me to get feedback from here instead of from people I know, because I couldn't really ask them.

 

If I were in your position I would honestly stick with your current girlfriend. From what you tell there is nothing bad going on between the two of you, which is not to account what will unveil in time come. Don't risk going to a different girl, because then you will probably lose your current girlfriend.

 

That's the thing. The other girl is so damn tempting. I admit that she's hotter than my current GF, and I'm not the lovey-dovey type by any means.

But the thought of getting shot down by the other girl makes me second guess choosing going for her, even though it seems overall like the best option.

Do you think it's right for me to talk to her while staying with my current GF? I wouldn't be talking to her on more than a friendly level for a while at least.

 

Lmao, you're such a tool.

For one, she's defensive because she's your girlfriend, and she's supposed to be defensive. The day your gf is not defensive at all, she probably doesn't care about you or is cheating behind your back. My opinion based on all of this is that you are not very pleased with your current relationship, if it's easy to just look at someone else because she's pretty. Now I've read that you're basically a stoner, and you're going to be seeking out a girl that doesn't even smoke or drink? Doesn't sound like a great formula. As for the solution: if things are fine between your current gf and are even progressing, don't change anything. If you leave her, and go for this other girl (and let's say things don't work out with her either/she uses you), you will be in for a nice reality check.

 

Lol I added the douchey text to make her feel like I wasn't considering anything.

But yeah I totally understand some of your points. Idk, there's just always been something about a girl that would be a challenge for me that interests me. And my current GF and I just have a good relationship, not an amazing one. I'm not like obsessed with her, and that's kind of how I feel about it. It's laid-back. The thought of being with the other girl currently interests me more. She's not just pretty either. She's smart, sweet, and funny when she decides to be talkative.

 

As long as you know the boundary from "friend" to "girlfriend" then by all means talk to the other girl. If the outcome provides evidence that you are attracted to this other girl more then politely (gentlemen like) break up with your current girlfriend and pursue a relationship with this other girl. Do not step over that boundary while in a relationship though. I will pm you if you want to chat more in detail about this with me.

 

The problem you have now man is that you've let yourself become more convinced than just curious. I'd say you have to make a decision soon, or things will get worse. Talk to the girl, and ask her what she means by what she says - if she's trying to go somewhere with it, or not. If you feel this way about this girl now, and you haven't connected with her too much yet, trust me it's only going to get harder on your relationship. You have to think about your feelings, but at the same time, you have to think about your current girlfriend's feelings too. We can't help who we like, but as long as you don't end up leading her on the entire time that you're trying to to seek out your own personal satisfaction with this girl (and take care of it in the beginning), is what will be important to her in the end. A break up is something hard, especially when it's spontaneous and not easily understood. But knowing that you were just lead on without any communication will hurt someone longer.

 

That's the thing, I can't help myself but think about all the bad things that could come out of talking to her. She's so quiet and such I feel like she'd just deny it (although it wouldn't really make sense for my GF's friend to make it up as it's pretty random). But it's like if I try to talk to her and it goes wrong, I see her every other day and that'd be too awkward lol.

 

Yo I don't mean just ask her "hey what did you mean when you said that to my gf's friend?" Talk with her, establish a simple connection, and see if you want it to go from there. Get to know her a little bit, and see if you're willing to take the risk or not. If not, just stay as friends, and wait for her to eventually come to you. Like I said, you want to keep in mind the feelings of your current gf throughout all of this, too.

On a side note, why is your name spelled differently in your sig? Just wondering lol

 

I just want to say that was gold.

And that you should listen to listen to young money. See what I did there?

Okay, now that I got my jokes aside, he really does give some good advice. Upon reading the OP, I just kept thinking that it could have been an argument that could have went either side, and I didn't know which to side on.

There's that quote where if you really loved your girlfriend, you wouldn't have fallen for someone else. Then I read LTYM's post, it made sense and I missed out the most crucial details of the post.

You don't know if you love her, you just see a girl that is beautiful and has a great personality. How do you cope when you are with your girlfriend for long periods of time? It also seems like you're seeing her more as a friend. The other girl just made a good first impression on you, you don't know much about her. All the other girl thinks is you're hot, but she doesn't know you that well, if she knew more about you it may not be smooth sailing if you decide to pursue her and leave behind your current GF. I mean you don't know if you both have the same interests, it's a risk that you should not take when you have a good thing going with your girlfriend. And you would definitely be seen jumping from gf to gf fast, more of a player. You have been with your current gf for 2 months and already had sex, 2 months doesn't sound long and there is no doubt how it would change how people sees you if you just leave her for another girl, and it might not even work out with the other girl.

If I were in your position, I would avoid talking to Mia unless she approaches you. Your girlfriend just told you that Mia thinks you're hot, and the last thing she'd want to see, right after she told you, is you talking and hanging out with Mia more often than you did before she told you.

You can leave your GF, it would change how people sees you (and might affect any future long relationships with others). And you don't even know if it would work, because if you do this to your GF, there is no going back. You will be left hanging if it doesn't work with Mia.

tl;dr Don't pursue her unless you and your current gf are taking several big bumps in the road, and of course depending on how you 2 handle the bumps.

 

Not only is that advice really solid (as is yours, Apith) but you pointed out something absolutely retarded of me. Lmfao. Thanks for the sig tip, I'll fix it sooner than later.

 

Hey man I haven't taken the time to read everyone else's reply, but keep both your own girlfriend's and your own feelings in check. She obviously likes you a lot, and talking to this other girl, whether you realize it or not, could really hurt her. Make sure you want to keep dating her or make sure you want to talk to this girl. Creating a relationship with Mia while with your current girlfriend is both unhealthy and could potentially sever friendships forever. Be careful with what you do man and always think how they would feel in the situation and how this could affect them rather than you. Keep that in mind and I'm sure you'll be fine man. Best of luck

 

Golly, this looks like a nightmare about to happen. If you want to pursue "Mia," and you've decided this is no longer mere speculation then break up with your current girlfriend. No matter what you do, she's going to find you shallow, etc. However, I wouldn't recommend doing so as your current girlfriend seems to know this girl. Usually girls respect ex-boyfriend boundaries, but sometimes that's not the case. Nonetheless, it's a gamble that you would have to be willing to take. Just realize that you're trading in a functional relationship for the sounds of it because the other girl is highly attractive. Looks can be deceiving, that's my bit of wisdom for you. Sounds like you have a good thing going, why bother trading it in?

 

Do whatever makes you happy, life's too short to do otherwise. If you're not happy she'll know, and that'll just make you both miserable. As Rue said, don't make the judgement based purely on the looks of this other girl, but think about the relationship you have with your girlfriend, how would you feel if she left you for someone because they were 'better looking'?

 

UPDATE: Had class with Mia today. I caught her looking at me and she smiled. I sparked up a brief conversation with her when we were waiting for the bell to ring, and not gonna lie I was pretty excited.

I also hung out with my GF after school, and she actually had the audacity to not only make plans with her friends to hang out in an hour (while we were at dinner), but she went on to not understand why that would bother me.

It was pretty weird that this happened the day after I posted this, haha. I guess I just payed more attention to it.

That's the thing. I don't like either of them based off of just looks. My GF is funny and great to hangout with, and Mia is as sweet as can be. I might be a douche bag here and there but I'm past junior high dating levels, haha. I'm well aware of the fact that judging girls by just looks is wrong. My biggest struggle is that both bring so so much to the table.

 

pretty smooth scamming 200m and walking away