Well crud

Sooooooooooo basically I started talking to a girl (you can find thread where I asked if I should ask her out by searching me).. anyways we've been dating for actually a while.. but I realized she is weird.. like the thing is she's a super christian/smart and most guys would rate her like 6-7 so she's really marital material.. like I can't cuss around her or stuff like that.. and she won't hint at sex or anything..

Thing is, I'm starting to lean on fact that she's kinda... weird...

Like she always sends me pictures of animals saying 'loook howw cutteee' or things like that.. or she would do things like browse youtube for weirrddd videos.. videos like http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z6oV6S1wqHI&feature=a*******&list=UUbhNxkjmpQcTJDrabiyzHUw&playnext=1

... it's just I am kinda interested in other girls and they're interested in me.. ones I can actually cuss and not get a weird look or ones who don't watch youtube videos/animals all day..

The other thing is that I lead her on though.. like I'm such a nice guy to ladies and well everyone except Shoop <3 but just that even her friends start messaging me on fb saying how she's addicted to me and stuff like that.. I would love freedom, but I don't wanna let her down hard.. her sisters are friends with my sisters and my parents would find out somehow and give me shit for letting such a nice girl down..

I just wanna venture out.. 'go fishing'.. I want someone fun and cool.. not someone who lives on youtube/pandora and goes to the humane society after school.. short of calling her a nerd she doesn't have a life really and it's depressing but I'm not sure I love her anymore.. the other thing is that she's clingy as hell..

I get texts EVERY MINUTE OF EVERY HOUR.. I swear she doesn't sleep.. so most of time i'll say ttyl gotta do this or do that or go sleep etc just to give my phone a break.. and i mean she's planning so much.. it's not driving me crazy.. truthfully I like being wanted like that but I'm kinda not liking that it's with a girl who has personality like her guess I'm trying to say..

I mean she is all over everything.. like i'll copy the last few things she's said to me

ha wow

yeahh

i never looked at any of those vids either.. just saw title and said things like 'omg i love _____' ..


I guess this post is half a letting it out/seeking advice.. my head is in the clouds.. I still talk and flirt with every other girl I meet.. I can't help it.. so Sythers halp plawks.. should I slowly break it off or get more into it with her.. so damn confused

 

just tell her you are a normal guy looking to have sex, due to her religion she should just tell you to fuck off.

hope i helped

 

not lookin for sex so much as lookin for girl who's chill n all.. like one who I can tell a sex joke to or a black joke to.. or even a jesus joke! I mean I feel like I gotta be someone different when i'm with her but still.. I like being with her..

We do go to different schools and I do maybe possibly kinda flirt with the other girls at my school.. and I know she doesn't flirt with other boys because she's not like that..

 

You're obviously having doubts. Dump her before you hurt her even more than you will now..

 

thing is.. idk how I could let her off easy..

Like to the point where not only do I see, but her friends see how attached she is to me..

And yes I am having doubts majorly so clearly I'm not sure if I want her or not...

Need someone with experience on this.. need a way to kinda let her off easy slowly like over a long period of time or so

 

Do what i do. Stop talking to her randomly and cut all ties to her. LOL. seriously. do it.

 

Dude I'm not a dick.. and I mean like for example my neighbors are really attractive and they come over and I actually invite them over and for example today I got home from school and when they got home, we played basketball and screwed around.. and we like spending time with each other.. the way it should be spent.. I actually didn't respond to any of her texts this afternoon and I told her I had left my phone at school on accident and had to go get it.. she bought it, but with 20 unread texts from her.. it's killing me guys it's killing me..

 

To be truthful there is no way you can let her off easily. If she's not the right girl for you, you should definitely "go fishing." Happiness is a key component in a relationship, and if she doesn't fulfill your happiness you should walk away. It's probably going to suck to break her heart, but do what you have to do. There's no point in trapping yourself in a relationship because you feel bad for her.

 

^Yo dawg, your signature fail is obnoxious.

Honestly hombre, it's not worth the headache. It's pretty obvious to me that you really liked her, you started dating, but you realized shortly after that you just weren't into her. It happens. I went through about 200 girlfriends before I asked Amanda to marry me. A few of those were super religious and I am also not big into that.

Be honest with her. Tell her how you feel. Don't lie to her, and don't manipulate her. Don't try to change her, that's not fair to either of you. And don't stay with her just to say you have a girlfriend, that's really unfair to you both.

It sucks when things don't work out, but that is not always the case. Take it from an old man: don't grow up too quickly, and never settle for anything less than perfection.

 

<3 my signature fail.. but yeah I mean thing is.. I don't want to confront her about well.. her. 99% chance she'll cry.. then her sisters will talk to my sister.. then my sis will fuckin murder me in my sleep.. I've known the girl for 14 years.. Fourteen fuckin yearsssss... and she has digged me ever since we met.. So I guess I mean I'll still stay with her and all but slowly like for example I don't put hearts in texts as much or i'll just randomly stop texting and next day be like 'sorry i fell asleep'.. I also talk to girls publicly like on facebook or twitter i'll tweet them or something where she can see.. or I'll hang out with some girls or go to party or just stuff that she would frown upon because she's such a huge religious girl.. I guess I'm gonna go with flow for bit but I mean idk if I should tell her.. everyone's telling me to confront her, but it's a matter of 'what to say' or 'how to do it'.. without makin her feel like shit

 

How hard do you think that's going to hit her? Honestly, a lot harder than ending the relationship entirely. Have you tried just talking to this girl, telling her how you feel, and explaining to her the way you are and the way you think?

 

Agreed, you have the ability in your relationship where you two are close enough to be completely real with one another. Simply tell her what your true feelings are towards her beliefs, but be subjective during the conversation. Allow her to respond to each one of your statements, and if you do this calmly she will have to respect your words.

 

I don't think you guys can quite understand how attached she is to me.. she is so attached I'm afraid she would even contemplate suicide because I would have left her.. like I mean she LOVES me.. Quite frankly, I keep putting off seein her and stuff.. like I'll occasionally be busy that day or stuff to kinda slowly work off seeing her, but I mean I can't help but egg her on when she starts texting and I end up replying saying yeah I love you more and then that shit happens..Basically I'm gonna sit her down.. and give it to straight.. I've gotten that much down.. but what the hell do I say? "Hey yeah sorry I'm kinda not interested anymore.. bye"? I mean I wanna be blunt.. straight to the point... but not hurting her at same time which is IMPOSSIBLE..

 

No, you don't beat her up with it. You sit her down and explain to her how and why you feel the way you do. Try this.

"I'm not breaking up with you. I want to say that before we talk. I want you to know how I feel about us, though. I want to explain to you what I'm looking for in a relationship and try to compromise with you."

Don't just give up on her. And don't blow her off. Leaving her to wonder is much, much more dangerous than just being strait with her.

 

Alright thanks I think I see where you're going with this.. So I'm gonna take her out for supper then pretty much sit her down at like a park and give it to her

 

Yeah but be gentle. Assure her that you're willing to compromise, even if you're not. It's worth hearing what she has to say.

I dated an extremely religious girl once. She wasn't giving it up and was pushing her beliefs on everyone I knew and I had a talk with her. I got laid that night, and we lasted four more months, until she moved. We're still good friends.