How do you work together with people who are mean?

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How do you work together with people who are mean?
  1. Unread #1 - Oct 10, 2012 at 5:31 AM
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    How do you work together with people who are mean?

    Basically i'm doing a school play and rehearsals are 3 times a week for the next 6 months (We get thanksgiving, winter break off, ect). Its basically 15 guys from my school (all boys school) and about 10 girls from an all girls school. We all met today for the first rehersal which was a basic get-to-know each other type day, i had already known about 3 girls there. One of which i hadn't seen in a whole year, but the last time I saw her she pulled some similar crap.

    Long story short, lets call this bitch "Claire"

    The task was to, in predetermined groups of 5, make a ritualistic ceremony performance that ran for about 30 seconds. We were sitting down discussing ideas and Claire randomly goes "I can see your boob". Now i should of foreshadowed I'm a little overweight, but i dont really have issues with anything, but i really didn't expect this out of the blue shit, from a GIRL too, i just sat there stunned and some other girl told her "Don't be mean" and they just carried on like nothing happened.
    I met "Clarie" once last year when i was out with my girlfriend and as a joke she kept feeling up my nipples and calling them 'Man-Tits' ect and just embarrassing me.

    I have to rehearse with this bitch for the next 6 months, how am i going to cope? Laugh and pass it off? Say something mean back? How do i deal with this situation, usually if people talk shit I sock them in the face, but, its a girl so..
     
  3. Unread #2 - Oct 13, 2012 at 9:58 AM
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    How do you work together with people who are mean?

    Being mean back will just escalate the problem, the best way is to ignore it. Because she's only probably doing it because she wants a reaction from you, because that's what mean people want, a reaction. If you smile and laugh and joke like it's not bothering you and be super friendly to her, she'll get annoyed and frustrated that her comments aren't working and move on to someone else. Keep your friends close but your enemies closer.
     
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    I'd just brainstorm ideas of what you could say to her that would REALLY make her feel like shit. Don't say some petty shit, make sure it's real good material and throw it back at her so then she'll shut her mouth forever.
     
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    How do you work together with people who are mean?

    If it were me I would just laugh it off and show that it doesn't bother me. Eventually she'd just give up on it because she would realize that its not affecting you. Thus she wouldn't get any joy out of annoying you with that.

    Definitely dont escalate the problem by verbally/physically hitting her, because as you said, you're gonna have to rehearse with her for the next 6 months. Might as well laugh at yourself (in a good way), treat it as an ill mannered joke and maybe branch off of that to end the conversation. Show it doesnt bother you, and she'll buzz off.
     
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    How do you work together with people who are mean?

    I wouldn't laugh - it sounds fake 9 times out of 10 and it looks like you are forcefully trying to ignore them. It's instinctive but it doesn't help. Find something about her that you could insult every time she tries that on you - ideally something about her boobs if you can. Turn it back on her to show dominance and she'll stop. Not responding/responding badly shows that you are letting her have the upper hand, so she'll just grab you by the throat.
     
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    How do you work together with people who are mean?

    If (hopefully) you are allowed to switch teams because of problems with certain people, I would curse this chick out in front of everyone and then have you swapped into another group. Maybe that will show this girl how to keep her mouth shut. Just my opinion, best of luck.
     
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    How do you work together with people who are mean?

    Say the next time she's giving you her tude' was right before a lunch break, or something of that sort. Buy her a drink, or even a lunch and give it to her. Heck, you can even bake a batch of cookies, just build her up with compliments. Whatever she's doing that's negative, react in the opposite matter. The Bible says "Those who sew bountifully, reap bountifully" and I'am a firm believer of this. Therefore, loving on "Claire" will ultimately be a reward in and of itself for you. That's if you decide to take the next step, in my opinion you've made the first step by realizing you can turn the other cheek.
     
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    How do you work together with people who are mean?

    She might not be trying to be mean, she could just be joking around..
    Anyway, just laugh it off and think of funny comebacks if you can, say things like "I play with them in the shower" and stuff like that, then she'll be like "WTF?" And know you're taking it as a joke. Also, if she has small breasts, say "you're just jealous I have bigger boobs than you", that should shut her up.

    Anyway... Take it as a joke and laugh it off and if you can think of good comebacks to silence her, if she gets laughed at every time she says something to you she won't want to say things to you anymore.
     
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