Our anniversary - His cheating. (GLBT)

Don't read if you don't like Gay people please.

- 3 year anniversary yesterday.
- I'm 20, this is my first relationship, we met when I was in high school, he is 29.
- His phone was left unlocked, I went to his messages, see messages with a highschool aged kid with my BF saying "When are we going to meet up to make out" "You look good, what about me" Things like that.
- I don't go "All the way" very often. He is the top and is probably deprived. I do take care of him though...
- He watches a lot of movies about high school guys. (is that weird?)

I've debated before if I would be okay with him going out with other guys because I don't go all the way very often, but I never thought it would come to him perhaps doing something behind my back. To his defense, I saw no messages about him *actually* doing anything, because it appeared he never met with this guy. He is caring, loving, and I trusted him completely to never cheat on me. He is a manager at his job and often has to "stay late", so now I'm questioning all those times.

I haven't said anything to him, so I humbly ask you guys for advice.

Thanks.

 

You could just randomly visit him at his job one day when he stays late. If he is there, then all is good and you can just say you were bored and wanted to visit If he's not.... Then yeah.. You know..

A relationship is shit if they are texting other people anyway, personally I'd say break up with him, but it's up to you really. :/

 

For one.. I feel it'd bad you'd snoop through his messages.

Though, You guys have been going for 3 years now, and that's quite a long ride.
Shoop said, to come after and see if he's at work. That's a good idea.
Watches a lot of movies about highschool guys? Not sure if that's weird or not, but seems like it is.

 

Confront him/ask him about the messages, you're only causing yourself stress and such by not doing anything and just leaving it. If he has been cheating on you, then leave him and find someone who's worth your time.

 

You should ask to use his phone to text/call someone (family or friend) since your phone "died". Then look at his messages pretending your looking for something. If he gets fishy about giving it to you, then you know somethings up. (Not sure if you could erase iPhone messages, never owned one.)

If you can erase your messages, you should confront him about the messages (as Laptop suggested). If you really know him inside and out, you should be able to have an idea if hes lying or not. Best of luck.

 

Being sneaky and going about things behind his back will give him a defence. Just outright confront him he obviously has a fantasy that he is trying to live out. or dress up like a high schooler with like a letterman and get down. options