I wish I could just be Okay.

I am currently six months pregnant with my first daughter. This should be happiest time in my life and all I do is cry. I had been seeing the father of my unborn child for over a year. I never met his family because they lives three hours away. We spent time together every week, we even spent weekends together. he met my family and friends. After I got pregnant and told him, thinking he would be happy since he always told me all he wanted in life was to be a father. He told me he was married. Had been for almost ten years! He reassured me he wasnt in love with her anymore, but then I found out the truth. They had been trying to get pregnant for two years with no success even with medical help. Now officially feeling like the biggest piece of crap in the world, he told his wife, actually someone else told his wife and after she confronted me i told her the truth so he had to come clean. At first they decided to work things out and after two months of us not talking he came back around and told me it was over and they are divorcing and selling the house. That was at the end of june. No divorce and the house isnt even listed yet. On top of that he wont come to any of my appointments, he talks to me like im the lowest form of life, and hes been online again meeting up with random chicks. I want to be to a point where i cant enjoy my pregnancy and be happy to welcome my daughter into this world by myself. I want to be able to not think about him and just move on! I need help!

 

He's in the wrong here, not you.
I won't be able to say anything that will make you instantly forget him, you'll just need time. When the baby is born be happy for her, she's your child and you'll automatically love and cherish her anyway.
Just make sure you get child support off that guy, he has to pay something.
If you're in need I'm sure you family will help you out, but the one thing a child needs is a loving mother and yours will have one.

 

If you're looking to forget about him, only time will be able to help with that. Although, if he is going to be paying for child support, I don't see how you will be able to forget about him. Right now, you need to focus on getting ready to be a mother of a beautiful, baby girl. Don't give up because your daughter is going to need a good role model. You can get through this, but again, it'll take time.

I would make him pay child support if he doesn't plan on being with you.

I will pray for you, and I do wish you all the best of luck in the future with your situation and your daughter.

 

As said, think about your girl and not the one that made it, think about how great live is when you have a child, once the child is born you will eventually forget about him.

 

Hi. I've read your post. It's really traffic indeed. But you have to be strong, my dear. Seeing how much of a douche your so called "boyfriend" is, I feel that your daughter does not deserve a father like him. A father that lies and cheats. Can you imagine him constantly filling your child's mind with lies?

I feel that not having him around is for the better. He is a jerk for what he has done to you and your child does not deserve to receive the same type of treatment. I know it's sad that your going to welcome your daughter into the world on your own but look at the bright side, at least YOU can be there for her. I believe that if you care for her and give her all your love, she would grow up and be happy that she had a mother like you.

It's hard to forget a person you loved for years but you have to. There's no easy solution for that. Remember, at the lowest point in your life, it can only get better. Don't give up and keep fighting, at least for the sake of your child. All the best and good luck

 

Your boyfriend doesn't deserve the title of "baby's father" at all. From the way you describe him, i perceive him as a huge tool who is taking little responsibility for what he has done.

In 3 months time, you will be bringing a new life into the world. It's crucial for you to stay positive and try your very best to fend away all the negative thoughts. Easy to say, but hard to execute of course.

Perhaps you can try talk to your close friends/family, or join a support group and share your experiences/seek better advice.

If your 'boyfriend' isn't going to assume responsibilty and you turn out to be a single mother, i hope you do your best to ensure that your child grows up in a good and conducive environment. You will play a huge role in determining your child's future, etc.

Make sure you enrich yourself with knowledge concerning the upbringing of children, especially if your child grows up without a father.

Goodluck and all the best, stay strong, you have to do it, for both yourself and your child.

 

Believe in yourself, everyone is capable of amazing things, I know you are and I believe you and i know you can do this