How to get on the right side of girls?

Hello Sythe community, excuse me for my mistakes, typed on my HTC.

I'm pretty young and I'm just trying to get on the right side of girls. I mean, I live in the streets of London, so being kind and a gentleman would sound like your cheesy and a nerd.

Recently I did a jiu jitsu promotion and everyone thinks I'm hard and I like to hurt people. I want to show that I'm kind to girls but also retain friendships with my friends.

I don't want this to be serious, I just want to get on the right side of them.

So girls; what makes you like a guy, not relationship wise, but buddy wise? I really don't want to be that serious, but it seems like now I have a low chance of finding myself in any sort of relationship.

Yeah, I know I'm young but I'm setting up my life for the future, (self defense, confidence skills, learning etc.)

I don't want a life of being the "hard" guy, I'm nearly 14 but I'm 5'10 and I'm kinda overweight, around 75-80kg but I'm probably the strongest in my class so people kind of fear me in a way.

I want to show I'm kind, sincere and caring to girls and boys (no homo) alike, if you know what I mean.

I just need a bit of help with my future life, please no negativity or hating, I'm Asian so some gangsters round the street are like "chinky" but I seem to ignore them. All the people in my class aren't racist, many of them too Asian or black (London is a diverse city) but they try to stay off Asian guys etc.

I just want to know how to get on the right side of girls so when we go out in groups, I won't be embarrassed or anything, I'm pretty outgoing, just a bit nervous at this present time.

 

Have you tried just talking to them? Cracking some jokes? Helping people out. Being sensitive towards peoples problems?

 

Just be yourself, and treat others how you want to be treated yourself.
Don't be false.

 

That ^

Girls are basically just like lads, treat them as you'd treat a friend who is a boy, just throw a compliment at them every now and then.

 

Yeah, this works on some girls, but I know they're slags and it's really hard to talk to normal girls for over 5 minutes because of the busy time schedule.

During lessons, we're basically silent all the time so if anyone talks we're screwed. I know...

I'll try that Shoop, but I doubt that'll help, because they'll become scared if I treat the like my friends. (We're quite a rough school, if you know what I mean)

If I start to loosen up to girls, my friends will probably think I'm a pervert. Don't say I should get new friends because they're pretty good ones, but just go along the way the school goes.

Ugh, what do I do?

Also, in Year 7, I was fine, but in Year 8 I started to get bullied a bit not by my friends but others in the year.

 

Couldn't have said it any better.
Let your friends think you're a pervert, they'll regret they didn't loosen up to the girls as the years progress.
If they make immature remarks like most young boys do, then who gives a fuck. You're getting somewhere with the ladies, they're not.
Just remember, no corny stuff with the girls lol Just be calm and cool

 

Being a gentleman becomes very important as you get older, being a gentleman is mature, and very appealing to girls when you become an adult. But at your age unfortunately its not the best of looks, just be yourself and stop trying to act like a particular stereotype or personality.

75kg-80kg really? No offence but if thats true, thats pretty damn overweight for your age and height. What is your BMI?

There is no magical formula, to get the right sides of girls, all girls are different, the variation of appeal is infinite. Some girls like the bad boy image, some like a gentleman, some like normal dudes, muscly dudes and so on.

Just be yourself, act confident, even funny perhaps, and you will naturally draw girls to you, they will pick up on your personality and like you, theres no need to try to alter yourself to try influence this, stop worrying and get out there!

 

Yeah, I'm kinda overweight, just weighed myself and I'm 73kg, at least I lose a few kgs. Thanks man

 

Hey wat part of london you from? Sounds like east london since you said loads of asians
Also just keep calm and try to not get nervous
Pretend like they are some random guy

 

North London, Edmonton if you know where that is?

 

Nah not really But I heard of it.
I live in East London like greater london. Don't know how to explain. Somewhere near bow if u heard of it

 

Yeah east London, near the Olympic Stadium?

Near Newham?

 

This, is the only way you will ever get into a proper relationship.

I used to try and act cool, and it worked on occasions, I'd go on a few dates with a girl or we'd even stay in a relationship for a couple of months, but it would never work out and it would always break off because it didn't feel natural. With my girlfriend of a year and a half, I can be me around her and she loves it, which i don't understand cause I think 'me' is a little weird and odd, but she loves me for it.

 

Yeah outside of newham. Near the stadium.
My cousin actually lives literally 5 mins from the stadium

 

Haha, my friend lives there too, the housing estate next to West Ham station

Near the McDonalds lol.

 

Oh lol cool

 

if a girl thinks if you do karate and thinks your mean they obviously are the most asanine people in the world.

Oh yeah, girls don't like shy guys. So the only way you can do this is grow balls. AND THATS TO ALL MEN.