We still have feelings for eachother but nothing will ever happen

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We still have feelings for eachother but nothing will ever happen
  1. Unread #1 - Aug 7, 2012 at 1:38 PM
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    We still have feelings for eachother but nothing will ever happen

    Hey there Forum,

    Before I drive into the 'story' i'll provide some background details. Me and this girl got together after 5-6 months of actual talking, we're both in college and have known each other for 6 years (to clear up, we never actually spoke properly until college). She is a massive sexist and is prejudice towards every guy until they prove they're not a complete dick. Her parents are divorced and obviously had father issues which I am completely aware of, therefore her relationship with her mother is vital to her and would do anything to avoid jeopardizing such a relationship.
    She said i'm the first guy to get her trust in a matter of months and the first guy she has ever 'felt this way over'. Usually it takes years for her to trust anybody... and she has openly told me she has massive trust issues.

    So, enough widening and more deepening. The first week we had together was magical, anyone whose been in a relationship will know when it starts out its amazing and you always hope that that feeling stays with you the rest of the way. We had exams coming up and I want to go into Law and she wants to go into Medicine. Anyone would have the common decency to give the other some breathing space, as we did. After exams she distanced herself a lot, I got no replies from Facebook or texts so I took my mind off it and didn't bother doing anything. Also, after exams we had half term (weeks holiday)
    I felt guilty for not trying to talk to her, but I feel guilty over absolutely anything, when we got back to school we both knew what was going to happen and she ended it with me saying 3 things:
    She was interested in older guys
    She wants to be single
    *contradictory I know*
    She cares too much about her mother

    Edit: she asked me out, I didn't ask her out.

    Surprisingly I didn't feel like absolute crap, we were together for a month and a bit and it was fun, apart from the last 1-2 weeks. I'm having horrible difficulty getting over her because I've never felt this way about a girl. Of course we have the odd crush which means nothing but then you feel something different for someone you truly care about. Though it did affect me for a bit, I couldn't bare being in the same room as her or looking at her face; not because I hated her, I just felt heart broken.
    We hardly spoke for a week and then she sent me a message saying she thought she screwed up. I could never say anything rude to her, and still haven't to this day - and me being me, I just made conversation because I felt bad.
    One night, of the same week she texted me, she asked me "when you said you saw this coming did you mean you lost interest at the same time AS ME" - the reason "as me" is in capitals is because I can't remember whether that was there or not, but the rest of the quote is 100% accurate. I confessed I never lost interest and that my feeling were still there, she said it wasn't awkward (as I said now it probably is...).

    So we began talking and kind of flirting, like we did in those months we began to know each other. We would walk with each other in our lunch breaks, and we'd distract each other just for the fun of it if we had free periods together.
    Approaching the end of the year the students who had exceptional academic achievement were allowed to go on a trip to London, me and her were both on the list and pretty much spent the day together there. I was always under her umbrella and at one point she even locked arms with me. And now its the summer holidays, we have each other on Skype and have spoken every day for hours whether it be messaging or voice calling. She would apologize if she didn't speak to me for a day (she had a 3 day road trip with 2 of her family members and had a medical training day). During my work experience last week she decided to visit me, we went to Starbucks and had a blast. Then we met up again yesterday with her best friend who just happens to be good friends with me as well, we dropped her off at the bus station and I began walking home (her best friend lives near me so we walked together).

    There she (her best friend) told me that she (ex) still had feelings for me and is becoming frustrated that she can't be with me because she cares too much about her mother. Her mother wants her to go into Medicine with no distractions, of course, the distraction is me. She knows I still have feelings for her and now I know it's reciprocal, but neither one of us feel we can make a move. She feels any long distance relationship won't work (next year we're going to be at Uni *touch wood*) and this year will be the hardest year of our lives.


    So my question is, should I make a move? Do I dare risk breaking our friendship? What do you all think of the current situation?

    Edit:
    We're pretty much the same person. We've both been through exactly the same scenes of drama (family relations) and know exactly how one another feels. Just thought i'd add that.
     
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    We still have feelings for eachother but nothing will ever happen

    Talking from experience, i was in somewhat the same situation. Take the chance, you wont break your friendship, it will make it stronger. Trust me, you two are into each other. Go for it man. :)

    Dont live with regret thinking to yourself, what if? I had to live with that for 4 years, just make a move man. Do it.
     
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    If you never risk it you will never know if it is a mistake.
     
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    We still have feelings for eachother but nothing will ever happen

    That's a lot to think about.
    Personally I think studies are the most important thing. It's what could determine your future. In no way am I saying money is more important here, Im just saying it provides security.

    Now, I believe long distance relationships can work. Why? Well my sister is living proof of it. She went to europe to visit family and met a guy. She was there the whole summer and when she returned, basically to shorten this long story, they kept in contact for 3 years, and each summer she would go there for a few weeks, and now they're married and have been together for 3 years and still going strong. They kept contact through phone and skype. They'd talk for hours.

    I believe if its meant to be, obstacles like distance, can be easily overcome. Its hard to tell what to do, honestly only you can make that choice. Love is risky and sometimes you have to take them even if it means losing a friendship. As someone whos let some slip by, I definitely regret not taking a chance to see where it would take me.
     
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