Coming out to your family and friends?

You can hate me for being who I am, but I am a human just like you.
If anyone has experienced this before or has friends that has came out, what would be the best way?
I'm not the girly gay that screams when I fall down or only hangs out with girls.
Im a country guy that loves to be around the guys and chillin.
I'll be going to college soon, and Idk if I can handle coming out.
I don't want to be made into the "gay" guy. I wana be like everyone else still, but I know things will be different by the way I am.
Discuss?​

 

I'd say just be honest and hope that they accept you...

Also, I don't dislike you because you are gay, I dislike you because you center your text. That is very annoying.

 

Lol. It looks better. My bad!

 

Yolo is an excuse to come out and be proud of it, JS.

You really gave some good advice Bugga, I bet the OP loved it.

HYFR, are you going away for college? Once you hit college being gay isn't any different from being straight. It's a pretty accepting thing now and days, but that's not to say people won't mess with you or try to bring you down. There are always going to be people like that; straight or not.

Rise above the haters and just do you... do what makes you happy!

As for the coming out part, I would kind of "practice"... think of it like an interview... you're going to be nervous, so practice and become confident.
Confidence is key!
Just be honest, tell whoever it is you're telling how you really feel, and why, and for how long.. whatever you feel you need too.

If all you feel like saying is; "Hey i'm gay, like it or don't i don't care" then that's all you have to say if you really wanted to

Hope this helped and i wish you the best of luck!

 

Just come out. The first month will be probably be awkward for YOU. Because you will need to adapt to the fact that people know that you're gay.
The problem with a lot of guys that are "afraid" of gay people is that they are ignorant. They think every gay person wants to hit on them. Plus they will be jealous because of all the female attention you will/are getting. A tip; keep your head up and don't care what other people say about you, atleast you've the balls to come out.

Source; my brother's gay


EDIT: I agree with Realsies, centering the text is very annoying to read it
EDITEDIT: I took in account that your direct environment will accept you, if they don't, fuck 'em

 

You might want to read this: http://www.wikihow.com/Come-Out-As-Gay-or-Lesbian. I've just read it, and it has a great points, and has a nice way of coming out of the closet. I commend you on taking a big step for you life, I wish the best for you, and I hope this decision will only make you happier throughout life since you wont have to hide your true self anymore.

 

Don't start a flaming war, guys.

 

I personally don't have any friends that have come out but there are a few at school that have done so, but they do it in secrecy and drag it on. The best way is just to be honest and come out quickly, I imagine it'll be similar to pulling off a plaster. Do it quick and it will hurt less.

 

Being gay is your sexuality, and that shouldn't define your character. They're two separate things. If you come out to your friends and they judge you, they're not real friends. And family should always support despite your sexuality. Just do it, or you'll be living in a shadow for a looooong time. It'll be one more thing off your chest.

 

If you hide it, and let your emotions boil up it will not end well. Just be honest tell your parents how you feel if they cannot accept you for who you are that is not your problem. Your parents might be stuck in their ways but when confronted might have a different attitude then you think. You are after all their flesh and blood.

 

I know several homosexuals and they said that the worst feeling was KEEPING IT INSIDE of them. If I were you I would let it out, my sister came out to my parents and she said it felt amazing knowing that my parents would accept her even if she was lesbian.
I'm pretty sure your family would do the same thing. Just tell them that you have to tell them something important. When you get to college it's generally more accepted as people are maturing. It's not like that high school crap anymore.

 

I've heard that college is a good time to come out. But it really depends on where you are.

In my school, there are many openly gay students. No one really minds. They are very popular and very liked. Might differ for other schools.

 

Hey man.
i think you should say it. They should accept you for being a human being not for your sexuality.
Good luck i hope you Prevail.

 

College can be a good environment because the students are typically older, more mature, and more accepting than high school kids. If you feel comfortable coming out there then go for it.

You shouldn't have to hold it inside you and suppress who you really are from anybody, but you also want to make sure you are comfortable. The unfortunate reality is that in a lot of places, gay people are still very much discriminated, so I would advise to come out when you feel it is right. Your family and you true friends will likely stick by your side no matter what, but if you are quite young then it may be more comfortable for you to wait until you are a bit older until you really make a public declaration about your sexuality.

It just depends on a lot of different factors though. I know where I live, being gay isn't a huge deal. I'm sure people still get teased and picked on once in awhile, but it isn't "cool" at all to pick on somebody for their sexuality and that would in turn get your ass kicked. There were a few openly gay/lesbian couples when I was in high school, and everybody was pretty cool with it. Other high schools or cities may be different though.

 

Glad everyone is caring. Now, you all should be my friends. Haha. Im very liked in High School, but I am not out. I live in Arkansas. >> Hillbilly county if some of you want to call it. So it is not New York, which makes it harder.
Thanks guys for all the respect. I appreciate the advice a lot.