Sex related issue

I can't cum. Simple as that. The last few times I've had sex I had to fake an orgasm after about an hour and a half or two because the girl was tired out. It's really getting to me. I've tried not masturbating for a few days and trying again, same result. I'm completely turned on by the girl, and have a full erection, but I can't finish for some odd reason. I've tried different positions, k&y's lubricants to stimulate, I've tried blazing before sex, none of it works.
I can easily cum with masturbation, but otherwise, I literally can't finish. I just want to know does anyone have any advice on this or how to overcome it?

 

Perhaps you are not being stimulated enough for whatever reason during sex, and the lack of stimulation is preventing you from climax?

The only other thing I could think of is that if you used to be a chronic masturbater, its possible that you have become so used to getting off that way that its hard for you to get excited/stimulated enough to get off when you are actually with a woman. This is kind of bizzarre as it is both a curse AND a blessing.

 

Hmm, there's actually a massive possibility of the second one lmfao. Runescape days involved a lot of that. Do you know if it'll ever go away? The issue?

 

I am not a doctor, but it will probably go away with time.

The reason I suggested that possibility in the first place is because I have actually heard of that happening before. The thing is that its not actually a physical problem at all, its actually purely psychological. There is nothing wrong with you at all by the sounds of it, but its very possible that your body has just become so used to being stimulated in a certain way, with certain environmental settings (such as pornography), that its just hard for you to psychologically reach the same level of arousement when you are with a woman and being stimulated in a different way.

Like I said, I am no doctor. But if I had to guess, I would think that with time it will go away. Try to masturbate less frequently, possibly even not at all if you can manage it, and get your sexual release through intercourse with a woman. This should help you mentally become more accustomed to getting off like that and make it easier for you to climax.

In my honest opinion, I think it may help quite a bit too if the person you are sexually active with is somebody that you also have a very strong emotional attachment to. If you are just having drunken sex with some broad you met at a party, it won't have anywhere near the same level of intimacy and arousal that you would experience if you were having sex with a girlfriend whom you deeply loved. When you have that emotional connection with a sexual partner, it just takes things to a whole other level and I believe that psychologically that would probably help your problem somewhat.

 

Hmm, thank you very much. I'm going to take all of that into consideration and try a few new things out. Appreciate it.

 

Zerkerfist is right actually. I had that problem my sophomore year with a long time girlfriend of mine. It was her first time and we did it for about an hour and I couldn't cum either, we just had to stop.

At the time I was completely swamped with sports, gaming and school so I didn't really have time for sex. So I jacked off...A LOT. The problem only lasted me about 2 weeks (had sex 3 times). I just tried not masturbating for a couple of weeks and my problem solved itself.

It mainly has to do with somewhat muscle memory and the stimulation you gain from it (I looked it up when I had the problem). Your body is so used to it that it's not getting enough stimulation from sex. In simpler terms, basically the vagina is like the hand you don't jack off with, it just feels weird :3.

Try and stay dry from masturbating for a couple of weeks and you should be good

 

Try thinner condoms too, so you can feel it more.

 

hahahaha lmfaoo! but seriously just go to the doctor and get his opinion about it

 

To be completely honest you are blessed and cursed at the same time..

Some girls would freaking die to have sex with a dude who could last that long!

Just kinda sucks for you that you can't... finish...

But yeah as ^^ said.. just go to the docs and ask him what they think!

 

I remember when i first lost my virginity, i wasn't able to finish because i masturbated alot.

I remember having a girl give me a blow job for an hour and a half til we finally just gave up. But when i laid off on masturbating for a few weeks it was easier to finish.

Now ive gotten to where i can almost control when i want to cum. And that is a skill that has it's perks. lol

But i suggest not masturbating for a few weeks, then see how it works out. I'd give it at least 2 and 1/2 to 3 weeks.

 

tbh instead of asking people on sythe... get an opinion from an actual doctor since they must know about things like this

 

This is a real problem that a lot of people suffer from and you're not alone. My take on it, it's youve been masturbating to some hard-core porn, everyday. And you're body has groomed it's self to only be satisfied by hard-core porn. Real sex is not living up to it's expectation. My personal solution, guessing that you have regular sex (4 or more times a week) is stop masturbating and watching porn. And sex will probably start feeling a whole lot better.

 

I think its quite a simple problem to fix. If you masturbate a lot, your penis will probably adjust to the feeling and pleasure of masturbating so you'll only orgasm if your masturbating so just stop for a little while and see if it helps. If not, perhaps try a different position during intercourse. If that doesn't help, I would strongly recommend a trip to the doctors, its not a problem which can't be fixed but if you don't know how to fix it, the doctor is the best option for you.

 

what is really weird to me is that you can cum with masturbation..

i would figure that a women would be more stimulating and thus leading to an even easier climax. that is a very interesting case.

I wish we could trade spots a little bit, because i climax WAY TOO FAST. lol

If you are comfortable with your doctor (which you should be) i would ask them. They get questions like this all the time. Things like this happen and it is normal. talk to them and you will find the help you need.

Hell, i just had my doctor stick his finger up my rectum cuz my butt hole has been hurting. Not joking.

anyways, good luck!

 

I suggest consulting a doctor.

 

So from reading this.. I am a chronic masturbator (once per day sometimes twice sometimes none).. should I stop? lol..

 

That's chronic masturbating? X D FUCK.